Sonlighters Talk with Their Children

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One thing I notice when I'm around my Sonlighting friends is how much they talk with their children.

When, for example, the 10-year-old comes up to ask a question, my friend pauses the conversation and she and her son interact. Her son matters. He has value.

I also have watched Sonlight parents explain things to their children, spontaneously, because the world is interesting. A few examples from the grocery store. When faced with the number of eggs and the various labels: what does it all mean?

Most hens live in cages. This keeps them safe, and keeps the eggs from being expensive, but it's not very comfortable. So some people don't want eggs from hens in cages. Those eggs are "cage-free." The hens might live inside their whole lives, but they are more free to wander around. "Free-range" means pretty much the same thing, although they have a door in the wall, so they could go outside, though maybe a fan keeps them from wanting to. The most expensive eggs are "pasture-raised." It is nice for birds to be able to eat grass and bugs, but it is also dangerous for them, as they can be picked off by hawks, or eaten by foxes. And the label "vegetarian feed" means that the hens were always inside, hens eat bugs. The only way to make sure that they do not eat bugs, is to keep them away from bugs, by keeping them indoors. "Natural" means nothing, because every single product on Earth comes from something on Earth. It's all "natural," even cotton candy! " Organic" means that the feed and care followed a specific set of instructions: no hormones, no genetically modified feed, no automatic antibiotics in the feed.

And then, in produce. . . .

I think I'd like a watermelon. Do you know how to choose a watermelon? You knock on it to make sure it sounds hollow, and then pick one that is heavier than you'd expect for its size. I read, too, that it should have a yellow spot, which means that it ripened in the field (the yellow spot is where it rested on the ground). I don't know if I've ever seen one without a yellow spot, but maybe we'll find one today!

Of course, not every trip to the grocery store is filled with great educational moments. But the world is interesting, and we, as parents, get to share it with our children. And because we Sonlighters spend part of our days interacting with our children, and learning together, there is always more to talk about.

I appreciate that I can talk with my boys about everything from nutrition to inappropriate touching, from the origin of life to what we liked most about the latest Pixar film. And because we've also read about a wide range of topics, even the most difficult topics don't feel (too) embarrassing. Those topics are just part of education.

This is something that I see in the Sonlighters I know, and I suspect it's true of you, too. You engage with your children. You talk with them because they are real people.

I love how much Sonlighters talk with their children. Thank you for doing that.

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What We Love about Sonlighters

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My Mom, the founder of Sonlight, sometimes says, "I can always tell when someone is a Sonlight user. There's a connection there."

And that comment is fuzzy, but I think she means that there are things that all Sonlighters love and appreciate. We value similar things.

That's what this series is about. I think of it as a kind of group hug, thinking about and celebrating the way that we Sonlighters enjoy homeschooling.

These are things that we, as Sonlighters, like.

Sonlighters appreciate good books

These days, there are so many options for schooling and entertainment. Reading is not quite dead, but with the rise of television and video games, organized sports and social media, books seem a bit retro.

So I appreciate, first of all, that Sonlighters read.

And I appreciate even more that Sonlighters recognize the Sonlight type of good book.

  • Books that don't hit us over the head with moralizing, but offer real people who deal with real, and challenging, scenarios.
  • Books that make us laugh, and love this beautiful world.
  • Books that make us cry, and grieve for this broken world.
  • Books that don't overwhelm with darkness, but also don't pretend like darkness doesn't exist.
  • Books that maybe don't have the best cover . . . but Sonlighters know not to judge a book by its cover anyway, and so we find new favorites, hidden gems, like Red Sails to Capri and Shadow Spinner.
  • Books that maybe aren't the most cheerful to read, but lead to rich conversations.

In a world of worksheets and textbooks, in a world of digital techno wizardry, I love that Sonlighters remain connected to stories.

Recently I was watching a series of lectures on the importance of physical photo albums. (There is a longer story here, so that’s not quite as random as it sounds). The speaker said that studies have shown that students who use real textbooks, instead of digital textbooks, learn 40% more.

And, of course, Sonlighters use living books, and not boring textbooks, but the point is that a physical, material object is more memorable, and more helpful for learning, than digital information.

So, as Sonlighters, we get the joy of stories, and have the confidence that the research confirms that using real books is an excellent method of learning.

I like that.

Warmly,
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Amy Lykosh
John and Sarita's oldest daughter
Second-generation Sonlighter
Homeschooling mom to five

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Am I Missing Something? That Didn't Take Very Long!

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***For those who are teaching older children or dawdling children, or who are stunned by how long school is taking--this post isn't for you.***

Depending on the age of the child you are teaching, you might be surprised by how little time school takes. Especially if you sent your children to school for a year or two, and then you finish your homeschool subjects in an hour or two--you might wonder is that really it?

You may have seen the article by a public school teacher about how the actual instruction on any given day equals about 51 minutes. See here.

So if you are only getting to about an hour a day--that's approximately all that the public schools are doing, too. And a Sonlight education is, as we hear over and over, far more robust.

But however long Sonlight is taking, if you feel you and your children have a little more attention or energy to dedicate to learning--what then?

Add More Subjects

This is, perhaps, too obvious. But if you have a little more time, you can pursue other subjects. (See the bottom of this post for all links.)

For example, you can add art. I have used Sonlight's ARTistic Pursuits books (and so appreciate the quality, price, and convenience of the Sonlight art supplies). Both my children and I enjoy them, reading the art history, talking through the fine art examples, and doing some (not all) of the projects.

You could add music. Sonlight offers some piano resources, like Piano Wizard and Bastien. Or you might prefer the online piano tutorial, Hoffman Academy. Children gain huge benefits, from starting music early.

You could add foreign language, whether Rosetta Stone or some other program.

You could do cooking lessons. Even boiling noodles and making no-bake cookies require a little skill in the kitchen. I got married before YouTube was a thing, and took a class to learn how to efficiently chop onions and cook a whole chicken. These days, you can learn almost anything you need online, and then teach your children.

You could add as much enrichment as you like. At our house, this tends to be things like the Classical Kids Collection, and listening (over and over) to Adventures in Odyssey.

We do audio books, chess, board games. There are some incredible options out there.

If you have more time in your day than you have subjects . . . add more subjects!

Warmly,
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Amy Lykosh
John and Sarita's oldest daughter
Second-generation Sonlighter
Homeschooling mom to five

P.S. Here are the links from this post:
Artistic Pursuits
Piano Wizard
Bastien
Rosetta Stone
Classical Kids Collection

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Watch #5: What Is a City?

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This is, perhaps, less practical than the previous messages. But this is one of my favorite insights in the last ten years, and I pull this insight out on occasion to give me a thrill of what I'm looking forward to.

You know how the Bible begins in the Garden of Eden and ends in the New Jerusalem? How the Bible starts in a garden and ends in a city?

This has always made me a little sad. I think of a city as a strip mall or a big box store. And, yes, heaven has gold streets and presumably no graffiti, but it is still hard for me not to think of rebar, red lights, and cracked concrete when I think of a city.

Then I heard a preacher ask, "What is a city but a lot of little gardens?"

And that, to me, was a game-changer.

Because I live on some acreage. And after seven years, it still has no trails running through. Our vegetable garden was overtaken by taller-than-me weeds.

Untended land is not much more attractive than untended city.

But if you've ever walked around a wealthy community: this is beautiful! The space is harmonious, peaceful, creative. Different fences, sculptures, flowers and trees. Edible plants, flowering plants, shade plants, nice smelling plants. Beautiful.

That is what I was hoping for, here on our family's land. It hasn't happened yet.

But I love the promise of tended gardens, together. Community, peace, beauty.

Neither you nor I live in the fulfillment of all things yet.

But Jesus was mistaken for a gardener after his resurrection. I trust that he is at work on tending the garden of your life, as he is at work in mine.

Thanks be to God.

Love

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Amy Lykosh
John and Sarita's oldest daughter
Second-generation Sonlighter
Homeschooling mom to five

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Help Children Succeed in Their Careers by Using a Global Focus

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What kind of a world will your children inherit? One thing seems certain: it will be a world more interconnected and globalized than ever before.

Your children will interact – whether virtually or in person – with people from vastly different cultures than their own. They will have friends, neighbors and coworkers from other cultures. Your children may study, travel or even live in another country. They may use email and Skype (or whatever technology we’re using then!) to collaborate with colleagues who live on the other side of the world.

So how should we prepare them to succeed in this world? Should their education focus almost entirely on the U.S.? Or should it be a truly international education that opens their eyes and hearts to the people of the whole world, even as we study and honor our own nation?

Most homeschool curricula spend up to 80% of their history or social studies time studying U.S. history and culture. Think about that. That leaves 20% of study time for over 95% of the world’s population.

I think Sonlight has a better approach. We start with world history, and incorporate an international perspective throughout the school years. That doesn’t mean we neglect U.S. history. I do think the U.S. has a unique story and holds a unique place on the world today. I am certainly grateful to be a U.S. citizen. I think students should get a rich education in U.S. history. But we don’t need to study it 10 out of 12 years of their schooling to accomplish that. Sonlight spends 4 very robust years on U.S. history, and the rest on other periods and regions of the world.

This global approach carries many advantages. But one aspect we don’t emphasize as much is this: the Sonlight approach to world studies prepares children to be successful in their careers. Whether they go into business, medicine, ministry, public service, you name it – their perspectives and skills will be sharper for having a firm grasp on world history and the current state of the globe.

Sonlight students graduate having practiced walking in the shoes of other people and trying to understand what the world looks like through their eyes. Employers want people with that skill!

Sonlight students are not relying on textbooks to develop this international perspective. You can read about a different culture in a textbook, and get some information. You might know what many people in that culture like to eat, where they work, what they wear and believe. But you don’t know anyone from that culture. You haven’t seen inside their hearts and heard their dreams, fears and joys.

Sonlight lets you do that. We obviously can’t introduce you to a real-life friend from each culture we study. But we can give you a literary friend (or several) from each culture. When you read these stories, you get to see the world from others’ eyes for a bit. You see what they’re scared of, what they look forward to, what the world looks like through their eyes.

Building these emotional connections with characters from around the world (and throughout history) prepares students to expect that people from different cultures all share a core humanity, but that they also may have vastly different understandings and perceptions of the world. This is a helpful starting place for humble curiosity and respect when interacting with people from other cultures.

And again, this is a key skill in working in a globalized world. Employers want people who can respectfully dialogue with coworkers/customers/clients/leaders from different cultures. Employers want people who have a general working knowledge of world cultures and world history. That’s part of being culturally literate, and I think it will be more important for the up and coming generation than it ever has been.

So yes, I can say confidently, Sonlight’s international approach helps children succeed in their careers.

But of course, let’s stop and consider what we mean by success. Clearly, it’s more than making a lot of money or becoming famous. I’d say that your children’s career success is defined by whether they’re living out the calling God has for them – whether that’s staying at home with children, starting a company, serving overseas, or working in any number of jobs. I think giving our children broad horizons prepares them to think big and have the courage to live out their calling.

So let’s introduce our children to the people of the globe and help them see the nations as God sees them – diverse peoples with real gifts whom He loves immensely. Let’s help our children join God’s mission to spread His love and truth to every corner of the globe.

We are here to help your do that!

God bless,

Sarita

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Watch #3: Random People Coming to Mind?

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I received this from a godly mentor, and I pass it along to you.

Have you ever had someone totally random come to mind? Like your best friend in kindergarten who moved away and you never spoke to again?

I encourage you to pray for those random people who pop into your brain.

I expect we're all in need of prayer, and I suspect that God brings those people to mind specifically because they need extra prayer.

Of course, because these are random people, it's really hard to know how to pray, but if I think of something specific, I pray for it. Otherwise, I pray that God would be close to the person, that they would be open to what he's doing . . . something general like that.

And because these are random people, you might never know what these prayers do.

But I have one specific memory where my suspicion (that God brings those people to mind) was confirmed. I had a high school friend that I lost touch with after a school transfer. Twelve years later she randomly came to mind, and I prayed for her. The next week, I heard that, around that time I prayed, her family was going through a really hard time.

From my perspective, as much as I can acknowledge the upheaval in her life, I am incredibly thankful to be part of the body of Christ, and that I was permitted and called to pray for her. It is astonishing to me to think that God would interconnect us all so beautifully. That as sad as she might have felt, God was supporting her, through the body of Christ.

This is not meant to be a guilt thing, like, "these random people need prayer!" For me, I can easily fall into the self-condemnation of, "I was ignoring the prompting of the Holy Spirit!" And that makes me feel like a failure, and I shut down and don't want to pray at all.

Rather, this is meant to be an invitation thing. Because even if I don't always remember to pray, if I remember once this month, that is once more than I might have otherwise.

And it's a way that I can see God at work, and participate. Because, busy as I might be, I can take 15 seconds to pray.

Love

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Amy Lykosh
John and Sarita's oldest daughter
Second-generation Sonlighter
Homeschooling mom to five

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Watch #2: How Does God Speak to You?

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I know that we are all different, and the ways that God speaks to me are probably different than the way that he speaks to you.

But I encourage you to be alert to the ways he is at work in the world.

For example, one of my friends sees the sunset and remembers the things of the Lord. My house is at an angle where we don't see the sunset, and I am almost never out and about at that time, but I like that the sunset, a daily recurrence, has meaning for her.

For me, I see God at work in the chance occurrences that have personal meaning. (Not that they are really chance, of course.)

One example: When we moved to unimproved land, we were living in a construction trailer. It was so small, there was no way to keep all our books out.

One son asked one day for Greek Myths. It was in storage, in some box amid 30 or 40 other boxes. I faced the mountain of stuff without any confidence of success. These boxes weren't all even labeled correctly. How could I find the one book that was missing?

I think I poked around for a bit, without success, and as I was about to leave, defeated, I glanced up, and there was the box that I knew had the book.

It was like the palpable presence of God fell on me at that moment, and I sat sobbing, because God cared about me, in my constrained space, and about my son's wish to read pagan tales of false gods (of all things).

I was known. My son was known.

It still brings me to tears.

And maybe it doesn't sound very dramatic in retelling (I found a book I was looking for!), but it was meaningful to me.

On another occasion, I was at Disneyland. On the last ride of the day, I heard my name called very quietly--and there, sitting behind me in Star Tours, were some of my dearest family friends that I knew from another state. Their family had been dealing with hard things lately, and to see them, so unexpectedly . . . what a gift.

In the scheme of life, and in the face of deep hard times, a five minute unexpected meet-up for greetings and hugs and a bit of tears . . . this is hardly anything. A wisp.

And yet, in that moment, for me, it felt like the gratuitous gift of God, that among the 44,000 people who were at Disney that day, and despite all the wrong turns and child swapping that had to happen for me to be on that ride at that specific minute, I got to see my friends.

This is my testimony that God gives good gifts to his children.

My prayer for you is that you will be on the watch for his handiwork, and that you will recognize it when you see it, whether in sunsets, or chance events, or however God speaks to you.

Love

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Amy Lykosh
John and Sarita's oldest daughter
Second-generation Sonlighter
Homeschooling mom to five

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