How Homeschooling Inspired Us to Adopt

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How Homeschooling Inspired Us to Adopt

I had no idea the impact homeschooling would make on my family when we started this journey. At the time, my oldest son, Isaac, had just finished kindergarten in public school, and we simply wanted more time with him. That was all. I didn’t have lofty goals. I didn’t want him to be a child prodigy in math. I didn’t think he was ahead or behind; my husband and I merely wanted the time back. We wanted to slow down and have the time to influence his life and his heart.

When I chose Sonlight for our second year of homeschooling, I knew that even if we hated the curriculum, the books alone would be worth it. I can still remember the day we opened the door and saw The Box sitting there. It was like Christmas with our large dining room table, covered in books. I would have never guessed at the time that there were books in that box that would change our lives forever.

Thankfully, I can now report that we didn’t hate the curriculum. Quite the opposite! We loved it.  Every day was like entering into another time and place. One day, we were knights and princesses. Another day, we were Robin Hood and his band of merry men.  It was quite the adventure. But nothing prepared me for the day that I’ll never forget.

God Used Sonlight to Open Our Eyes and Hearts to Adoption

We were all piled in the living room one crisp fall morning reading George Mueller, and as I read, I realized that the room was completely quiet. I glanced up to see my kids with their mouths gaping open. We were reading the chapter where George Mueller sits down to the breakfast table at his orphanage, staring at 300 hungry orphans with absolutely no way to feed them.

  • What would God do?  
  • How would God provide?

With the incredible miracle of provision that followed, I saw awe and wonder of God in my kids’ eyes. After we finished reading, I wondered aloud, “Do you guys think we could ever do that? Do you think that we could ever care for orphans like George Mueller?” My son replied, “No way, Mom, that’s not for regular people like us. That’s for people like George Mueller!”

I understood how he felt, but I pressed him, asking, “Why not?  Wasn’t George Mueller at one time just a regular person like us? Doesn’t God use regular people every day?

And at that moment, I saw the wheels start turning in their little minds: Maybe God could use them too.

Through the course of that year, we were repeatedly challenged by our curriculum. I’ve learned that when God is leading you to do something, He won’t let you forget it. It seemed as if every book we read that year kept adoption fresh in our minds. We encountered it over and over. After reading Gladys Aylward, we discussed how caring for orphans was sometimes a difficult, lonely task. After each reading of Window on the World, we talked about how there were so many children, even in our own community, who did not have families. We prayed for God to send families to care for them and love them. Through these books, God used Sonlight to open our eyes and our hearts to adoption.

Great Biographies Inspired Us When Times Were Hard

Now, almost three years later, I’m looking at not three, but four sweet children. In January of 2015, after a lengthy process of training and paperwork, we adopted James, a seven-year-old boy from our state's foster care system. It hasn’t always been easy, but during the hard times, we were reminded of some of our heroes of the faith like George Mueller and Gladys Aylward.

  • We were reminded that God is faithful.
  • We were reminded that sometimes, we must persevere through the loneliness that often comes with following God.
  • We were reminded that God uses regular people like us to accomplish his perfect plan.

Today, a year and a half later, our adopted son is one of our many great blessings. Through adoption, we were able to give our oldest son something that he had never had—a brother.

It’s so interesting to see how God works in our lives. Today, I am homeschooling all four of my children, and I’m still using Sonlight, the same curriculum with James that helped bring us all together in the first place. I’m happy to say it still brings us together a little bit more every single day.

To find out more about Sonlight's inspiring Read-Alouds and our complete book-based homeschool programs, order a complimentary copy of your catalog today.

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Two Beautiful Images that Portray the Homeschool Lifestyle

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Two Images that Portray the Homeschool Lifestyle: a Day at the Beach and the Archer

As I continue to reflect on my own upbringing, I offer the following two analogies of godly parenting and homeschooling. I trust they are an encouragement to you as you raise your children and help you answer questions others may have about your decision to homeschool.

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How Homeschooling is like a Day at the Beach

I had a rather sheltered homeschool experience. If what you imagine by sheltered is something restrictive or fearful, may I reframe this word for you?

My sheltered childhood was like a day at the beach: sun, shells, bikinis, beach balls, and all. The sheltering I had was a shaded awning, like something made from bamboo and dried palm fronds. The sea-breeze could flow in with the sights and sounds of life. I could go out and come back. I had a safe place to be, protected from rain and cold. I was not tossed alone into the world. I was sheltered, covered, protected . . . and free.

Sure, I got sand in my shorts. The air occasionally was fishy. Sometimes I got sunburned.

But despite this mild discomfort, my parents let me dig moats, fly kites, talk to people, explore, run, play, discover.

The world was open to me, and I was encouraged to interact with it and, in doing so, to exhibit God's love and grace to any and all whom I met along the way.

Life does not disrupt the kind of sheltering I had. Because as we read our Bibles and various biographies and learn together, we encounter complex characters and situations. We learn about life. Like anyone, we can be disheartened and disillusioned. But we're not huddled in a house, hoping nothing gets in. We are standing on the shore, looking out.

Sheltered.

How a Homeschooling Parent Is Like an Archer

When I took archery in college, one of the first things I learned was that how they shoot in the movies is all wrong. Real archery is quite different from the big screen:

  • Archers shouldn’t grip tightly to the bow as they release an arrow.
  • Archers leave the hand open with the bow resting between thumb and forefinger.
  • When the arrow is released, the bow falls forward and hangs from a little rope around the wrist.
  • This action keeps the archer from accidentally jarring the bow as the arrow leaves his hand.

In other words: Archery is all about keeping your hands open and your body relaxed, as you point the arrow where it should go. Doing so actually makes the arrow fly more accurately toward the target.

The Psalmist compares parents to archers in Psalm 127: “Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth.” What a beautiful picture of parents as archers: Hands open. Body relaxed. Pointing your children toward God.

Prepare your children for flight—and then release them.

If you want to find out how your family can enjoy this kind of sheltering, order a complimentary Sonlight catalog today.

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Homeschooling at its Best is Education, Not Indoctrination

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Homeschooling at its Best is Education, Not Indoctrination

With homeschooling, you have the daily opportunity to teach your values and pass on your beliefs to your children. There is, of course, no guarantee that your children will choose to agree with you at the end of the day.

But homeschooling does give you time to demonstrate your faith. As Moses says in Deuteronomy (6:5-7):

You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.

Time is incredibly important in teaching your values and beliefs to the next generation. And I like how Moses puts it, that you talk to your children—that you have a conversation, a discussion.

With homeschooling, your children have the opportunity to ask you questions and bring up tough subjects as they encounter them. Since you’re available, you can help them work through their struggles and doubts, and provide clarity in areas that confuse them (or, perhaps, commiseration—you probably have some questions, too).

Education, not indoctrination

When you homeschool with Sonlight, you walk with your children as they learn, providing education, not indoctrination. This principle means that your children are learning and growing, not merely repeating what they think you want to hear.

Sonlight helps you:

  • teach
  • instruct
  • train
  • coach
  • guide
  • inform
  • enlighten

You can teach your values and beliefs because homeschooling gives you opportunities to model your values, and address your children's questions.

Education, not indoctrination.

Curious to see what this type of education might look like for your family? Go to SmoothCourse to explore your options.

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Raising Brave Girls (Not Perfect Girls)

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Raising Brave Girls (Not Perfect Girls)

I wonder if many children lose their bravery around middle school. With such intense pressure to fit in, the allure of conformity outweighs courage. Then it’s hard to gain it back.

I’m sure this happens to both girls and boys. But it seems our society sends a particularly strong message to females to be perfect:

  • to have the perfect body
  • to have it all together
  • to be successful and sweet and happy

I just watched an intriguing TED talk called Teach Girls Bravery, Not Perfection, by Reshma Saujani. In it, she points to some interesting studies and anecdotes that suggest boys in our society are conditioned to be brave (and perhaps foolhardy), while girls in our society are conditioned to be perfect (and overly cautious).

Raising Brave Girls Through STEM Pursuits

Saujani runs a nonprofit called Girls Who Code, which teaches girls to be brave, and aims to close the gender gap in the tech and computing industry. As she puts it, computer coding is a continual process of trial and error. It is an effective way to teach children that they can overcome fear of failure by tackling challenges that at first seem impossible.

Saujani claims there are currently 600,000 unfilled jobs in tech and computing in the United States. There just aren’t enough trained and talented workers here in those industries. Women are woefully underrepresented in the industry, so why not encourage girls to explore the field and see if they love it? The jobs are waiting for them if they gain the skills and interest. But even more than preparing them for careers in coding, Saujani recommends we teach our girls to code as a way to help them internalize the process of finding their way through a challenge imperfectly. That’s a skill that will serve them well in any vocation.

And while I don’t agree with everything Saujani says, I do appreciate her main message: we want to raise girls who fully develop their gifts. And that requires bravery. We don’t want our children to play it safe in life and do what they already know they are good at. If children are to do whatever God calls them to do, they must be brave, take risks, and even fail as they follow their call.

Now, bravery is different from foolhardiness. You could think of it as courage paired with wisdom. Bravery may not mean skydiving or bungee jumping, but it may mean loving someone in your life, or letting excuses fall away as you take responsibility for your actions.

How Can You Raise Brave Girls Through Books?

You may notice that Sonlight subtly encourages this bravery in girls. So many of the books we read feature girls who do hard things. Many of these girls worry less about the status quo and more about what needs to be done.

  • So the Rickshaw Girl finds a way to provide for her family, even though her culture expects her to just quietly accept her grinding poverty.
  • Understood Betsy steps down from her pretentious judgement to truly love those around her.
  • Gladys Aylward leads the orphans in her care on a treacherous but life-saving journey.
  • Joanne Shelter takes the Good News of Jesus deep into jungles to people starving for God’s love.

None of these women is perfect, but all of them learn to value courage and love more than society’s assessment of them.

In Sonlight’s Preschool curriculum, the Mighty Mind game is an ideal way to help children learn that imperfection is part of life. Children can’t look at the Mighty Mind puzzles and fill them in correctly on the first try. They have to put down pieces, see what works and what doesn’t, and rearrange until they figure it out. This is a great time to explicitly teach them an important life lesson.

This is what we do in life. If you don’t know what to do, you try something. If that doesn’t work, you try something else. That’s how we figure things out!

This refrain can continue as your children learn math, reading, music, sports … you name it.

Valuing Bravery Instead of Perfection

We don’t want our children–boys or girls–to sit at home being perfect. We want them to explore their world, try to do things, and ultimately take on whatever challenges God has for them.

So whether that’s through coding or not, let’s teach our girls and boys to be brave. And let’s look for where God is asking us as parents to be brave as well!

To find out more about Sonlight's unmatched Read-Alouds and our complete book-based homeschool programs, order a complimentary copy of your catalog today.

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With Homeschooling, You Set the Pace So Kids Never Have to Fail

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With Homeschooling, You Set the Pace So Children Never Have to Fail

If your child is 5 and reading at a third grade level, why would you leave her in school? She needs something more challenging.

And if your child is 5 and barely recognizing letters yet, why would you leave him in school? He needs something developmentally appropriate.

Why can't a classroom allow an individualized pace?

In a classroom, the teacher is required to try to keep all the students learning together. This means some are left behind. Not because the teacher wants to, but because the system requires that the class cover a certain amount of material within the limited number of school days.

A few students might get the extra help they need, but most will learn early on that the system can’t help them.

With homeschooling, you don't have those restrictions. You can take the time to make sure your students get the education they need. And if they need extra time to master a topic or skill, you have the opportunity to give them that time.

With homeschooling, you can make sure your children understand

With homeschooling, you can choose to grade on a pass/fail system, where you don’t allow your children to fail. If your children don’t succeed the first time they try something, that’s fine! You have learned something about how they learn, about where they are confused.

So you review, take a break, try a different approach . . . these are all gifts homeschooling parents give to their children. You have the freedom to wrestle with a subject until your children understand.

How does homeschooling let you set the pace?

Your children can race ahead in their areas of strength, and take the time they need to master the things they aren't proficient in yet. You don’t have to stop until your children understand what you’re teaching.

  • If one child needs half as many math problems as the book assigns, you let that child progress quickly.
  • If one child needs all the math problems and maybe a little more, you can add in the board games, or check online for creative ways to reinforce particular concepts.
  • If one child understands, but grows tired quickly from the mechanics of writing, you are free to write the answers your child dictates.

You are teaching your children how to learn for the rest of their lives, so learning never stops. You can give your children a customized education that meets your children’s needs, whether they work ahead or need a little more time to grow and develop.

Don’t let your children believe—and don’t you believe!—that they aren’t learners or that they have nothing to offer the world. Homeschooling opens the doors to learning for every student.

Ready to explore the possibilities for your children’s education? Sonlight has homeschool consultants available to talk to you about the next step on your journey. Click here to schedule an appointment.

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How Homeschooling Gives You Time to Invest in Family

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How Homeschooling Gives You Time to Invest in Family

In an ideal world, what kind of childhood would you dream of for your children? Maybe you picture your children

  • Running free in the backyard
  • Snuggled in your lap for a good story
  • Laughing around the dinner table
  • Telling stories around a campfire
  • Going on adventures together
  • Slopping together mud sculptures
  • Creating art projects next to a fire
  • Filling their free time with creative pursuits

The thing about all these beautiful pictures is that they take time—and the time is well spent. Homeschooling gives you time to invest in family this way.

Do you find that, in your family, these experiences rarely happen because your life is driven by someone else’s schedule? Between the rush to catch the school bus, to get to after-school activities, homework, and projects . . . is your life full?

Homeschooling gives you freedom to take advantage of the time you have

When you homeschool, you are in charge of your schedule. You get to pick your curriculum, your outside activities, what you study, when you study, and how long you study. You have freedom:

  • Freedom to start your day when it works best for you, whether that’s an early morning start or long after the school bus has passed by.
  • Freedom to take breaks throughout the day.
  • Freedom to enjoy your children when they're at their best, not just when they come home exhausted from school.
  • Freedom to take vacations when your family chooses.
  • Freedom to meet your children where they are academically, instead of letting them get bored with work that's too easy, or overwhelmed with work that's moving too fast.

In short, homeschooling gives you freedom to move at your pace. It gives your children the time to create the childhood memories you dream they should enjoy.

Homeschooling gives you space to establish family culture

A Sonlight dad whose children have all graduated wrote recently about how the amount of family time that homeschooling provided helped them shape their family culture.

In looking back, the time we spent with our kids was the single greatest contributor to the success of our homeschooling.

Within weeks after we returned to homeschooling, the kids became more optimistic and their spirits softened.

We read, drew, played, traveled, skied, shopped and did so many other things together that would never have been possible had we not homeschooled. We went to museums, plays, parks and made trips to visit family in Mexico during the school year that would never have been possible had we not homeschooled.

Most of all we talked and talked and talked about virtually everything under the sun in a way that was natural and not forced due to lack of time.

We do believe in that old adage that, when it comes to children, quality time is quantity time.

When you homeschool, you have space in your life to be together during the day, and not just in the few hours between school and bed. You get to build up a huge reservoir of quantity time together, which naturally yields rich quality time.

Interested in giving your children more time and freedom? Get a free Sonlight catalog and find out how to make your dreams a reality in your family.

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Physical Movement: Another Reason to Homeschool

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Physical Movement: Another Reason to Homeschool

If you went to classroom school, could you go back and sit still at a desk through those hours of classes now—with minimal physical movement? As an adult, Angela Hanscom wondered this about herself. So she went to middle school to experience a day as if she were a student. She wrote about her day in the article A therapist goes to middle school and tries to sit still and focus. She can’t. Neither can the kids.

Because of her experience, Hanscom is seeking to change how educators view physical movement. She champions children's need to move a lot throughout each day in order to learn well. On her recent visit to a middle school as a "student," she didn't even last past lunch:

There is no way I could tolerate six hours of sitting even just one day, never mind every day—day after day. How on Earth do these children tolerate sitting this long? Well, the short answer is they don't. Their bodies aren't designed for extended periods of sitting.

Children learn better when they can move

School teachers usually have their hands tied here. Many middle schools no longer have recess. Even some elementary schools have shortened recess to a mere 15 minutes a day. And teachers don’t have the space in their classrooms to let students move.

When you homeschool, you can let your children move. Your children don’t have to sit still at a desk. You can:

  • let your children sit however they want (or even hang upside down) as they listen.
  • let them run outside or do headstands in the basement.
  • let them wiggle as they read, and take a break when they need.
  • let your active young students jump on a mini-trampoline while reciting math facts or sit on bouncy balls while they learn.
  • let them enjoy unstructured play time.
  • let them squish play dough or silly putty during school.

Why? As Hanscom writes elsewhere, students today are growing up without the crucial sensory input they once got from hours of rambunctious play each day. This is not just a physical problem—it causes problems for learning and sensory integration as well.

Homeschooling allows children freedom for physical movement

Even as homeschooling lets children get the sleep they need, homeschooling can let children get the movement they need. Children’s brains need adequate sleep. Children’s brains also need the body to move. These are non-negotiable for their optimal development.

Fortunately, the flexibility of homeschooling can give your children room for both.

Ready to explore an educational option that will allow your children to move? Go to SmoothCourse and get started today.

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