From Public School to Homeschool: Accepting Being Different

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From Public School to Homeschool: Accepting Being Different

Having been a public school graduate and a public school teacher, I never even considered homeschooling.

I had already sent my oldest child to kindergarten at the local public school, and he was successful. However, something kept nagging me. I realized that I hardly ever saw him. I felt as though I was pushing him out the door every morning and rushing through dinner to get him in bed at a decent hour each night.

I knew that God was prompting me to change my thought process on education, but honestly, I didn’t want to.

  • I wanted to be like everyone else.
  • I wanted to go with the flow of everyone else.
  • I wanted to fit in and feel normal.

But that nagging feeling just wouldn’t go away. So I asked my husband to please pray about it, and a few months later, we were embarking on one of the greatest journeys of our life.

When we first started our homeschool journey, it felt like we were missing out on a lot of things. The moment your child finds out who's class he is in as a homeschooler doesn't have the same thrill (spoiler alert: they are in your class!).

The first day of school didn’t quite have the same feel either. When the parents around me were participating in school fairs and parties, we were home. While most of the other moms I knew were chatting about school shopping, teachers, and school policy, I was left with nothing to contribute to these conversations. There were some days where I felt isolated and alone.

It took a complete mindset shift for me to find my groove in the homeschool world, and now, after eight years of homeschooling, I find it laughable that I ever wondered if homeschooling could provide us with the thriving community and abundant blessings that we desired. However, before embracing this new mindset, these are a few concepts that I had to accept first.

1. It’s Worth It to Be Different

Our family was undoubtedly different once we began homeschooling. When we started our journey in our small community, there weren’t many other homeschool families, and we struggled in some areas. But I soon realized that homeschooling was worth it.

Every day, I saw my children growing closer together and thriving in their schoolwork. Since my oldest child used to struggle with anxiety most mornings, it was such a blessing to see him wake up every day happy and excited to face the day.

He didn’t miss anything about school, and I quickly decided that the trade off of not being normal by society's standards was worth it. 

My youngest son doesn’t enjoy homeschooling as much. He’s an extrovert who loves people. However, he’s also a follower, and there’s worth in keeping him home too. At home, I can ensure his success in school and help him set aside time for his spiritual growth. Homeschooling is worth it even when the child doesn’t see it yet

2. Embrace Different

There are interesting and unexpected benefits to being different as well. When my oldest son was in kindergarten, I would wait in the pick-up line every day, and while I waited, I would watch the other parents and notice their vehicles. It seemed to me that everyone had a nicer vehicle than I did. Their cars were full of gadgets and CD players, and automatic doors, and mine...well, we were lucky if the sliding doors on my minivan opened at all.

I complained a lot to my husband during that season about my car, but we just didn’t have the money to upgrade, so my complaints simply brewed in my mind until I was totally dissatisfied with our little minivan. 

When we began to homeschool, I was shocked by my newfound satisfaction with our car. My husband even noticed my contentment. Once I took myself out of the comparison pool, I realized that our car was sufficient for our needs and got us around reliably, and it wasn’t an issue that I didn’t have the newest, greatest model anymore. 

This is only a small example of the benefits that we have found from being different. With my husband and I modeling to our children the real struggle, our kids have been more likely to accept being different as well. They are more satisfied without having the latest technology, and we struggle less with cases of “The Gimmies.” There are probably a million more small blessings that we find from our choice to be different. Embracing being different is a huge step in shifting your mindset to homeschooling.

3. Find Community Opportunities for Fellowship

Being a homeschooler also means that you are able to look for socialization where you prefer. Many homeschool families seek out a church community to join. Clubs like 4-H have regular meetings where families can fellowship and build community. Of course, don’t forget homeschool co-ops! This is a place where like-minded families can gather to school their children collectively. Co-ops can be a very valuable place to plug in and find common ground. Finding community helps families feel connected and accepted, even as they choose the more untraveled road. 

4. Begin Your Own Traditions

One of the things we missed most was the frequent opportunities to invite our family to school functions to see the kids and their work. I remember one day when it just hit me: I didn’t have to give up on those things. I just needed to provide the space myself to do it. So, we began scheduling grandparent’s days, tea parties for our neighbors, and events to get together homeschoolers in our area.

We soon discovered that we were building our own meaningful traditions.

This year, we finished our fifth annual Valentine’s Tea Party. We planned our first Homeschool Science Fair (although the coronavirus derailed those plans). We have hosted Christmas parties and homeschool events, field trips and end-of-year showcases. My kids look forward to our annual events and help plan them, too.

As Christians, we are called to be different anyway. Every part of our lives is designed to say, “Look at me so I can show you Jesus.” We are called to be strangers and aliens in this world. When we get comfortable in our lives, it’s probably time to shake things up anyway, right?

Taking the leap to begin homeschooling can be scary and lonely, but knowing that I was pursuing God’s calling on my life for this season of homeschooling, however long it may be, gave me such peace, and it sustained me through the moments when I was the oddball at the table. By shifting my mindset, I’ve found it's so worth it to be different.

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Winners of the 2020 Sonlight Catalog Cover Contest

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One of the things that we love about our catalog is that we get to feature real photos—and stories—of our customers. Thank you to all of the families who shared #sonlightstories for the 2020 catalog cover contest! And congratulations to the three winners featured below!


WINNER: S Family of Saint John, MI

In this picture, J (14), K (13 ), H (11), and R (5) enjoy a Sonlight favorite on the edge of a drop off in Asia Pacific.

Our family are missionaries in Asia Pacific, and we are planting a church here. However, a few years after we taught the gospel, a cult group started to get angry at us. They started riots and tried to get the government to tell us to leave our home. They didn't want the gospel to be preached and hated us because we were teaching it. They threatened us and told us to leave. Around this time, we went out for our annual missions conference. While we were there, the cult made their move. When we came back to a nearby town, we found out that they had burnt our house down! We lost everything we owned, along with years of Sonlight books and curriculum. We wrote Sonlight about our situation, and they graciously replaced many years of books - free of cost! Because they were willing to do that, we have been able to continue our homeschooling experience with a curriculum we really enjoy! We have since rebuilt our house and have moved back to our original village. We are so thankful for Sonlight and all they were willing to do to help us in our time of need!

The S. Family of Saint John, MI

WINNER: A Family of Coquitlam, BC Canada

In this picture, Ezra (3), Nathan (6), Anaiya (5), Amani (11), Eva (12) read Animal Poetry together in our secret garden.

Sonlight has brought so many beautiful books into our lives. When my oldest daughter first became an avid reader, I spent so much time trying to find appropriate, in-print literature for her. I downloaded book lists, met with librarians, bought books about books. And then we found Sonlight. Sonlight sets the standard for what a good children's book should be. We know that we can expect something delightful from each one. Now, everybody gets very excited when it's time to open a Sonlight box. They can't wait to dig into all the new treasures.

The A Family, Sonlighters from Coquitlam, BC Canada

WINNER: G Family of Glendive, MT

In this photo, Garnet (6) couldn't wait to dig into her very first Sonlight Box Day!

What a true joy to now share the very same curriculum I grew up loving with my own children. Teaching and reaching the hearts of our little ones through the hours spent reading quality Sonlight books together each day has been a dream come true. Many precious moments and conversations have been shared during our journey with Core A this year. In using Sonlight, we love that our children’s hearts and minds are being fed, and that their eyes are being so gently and wonderfully opened to the world around them and the precious people in it.

The G Family, Sonlighters from Glendive, MT

Thanks again for making this year's contest a success. Keep sharing your #sonlightstories year-round! We love your Box Day photos, your day to day experiences, and the end-of-the-year #sonlightstack shots of all you've accomplished.

Thank you for sharing your Sonlight Stories with #sonlightstories
Use the #sonlightstories hashtag when you share on social media.

You can also log into your account on sonlight.com anytime to upload both images and testimonials. You never know when something you submitted may appear in a catalog, on our homepage, or on the Sonlight blog.

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30 Years. 30 Blessings to Celebrate.

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Sonlight officially sold our first piece of curriculum 30 years ago this month. 

Back then, there were no complete curriculum programs available; parents had to assemble products piecemeal. After talking with our missionary friends, we learned that this problem was far worse overseas. This was such a problem that many missionaries were forced to leave the field of service because their children's education was suffering. I wanted to help those missionaries stay as long as they could. I started to gather, create, and compile the best-of-the-best educational materials for those overseas, and here in the States, too. See more of our story in the video below.

To celebrate Sonlight’s 30th Anniversary, I wanted to share and celebrate thirty blessings God has allowed over the years. God is good!

  1. Daily Prayer - Every morning we gather at Sonlight to pray. As a company, we pray for our customers, each other, for an unreached people group, and the world around us. I count this a strategic and huge blessing. 
  2. Sharing the Sonlight Secret - We believe children respond more positively to great literature than they do to textbooks. We love to come alongside so many families as they learn together using great literature. 
  3. Fundraising for Missions - From our inception, Sonlight Curriculum, Ltd. has donated a minimum of 10% of gross income to mission organizations, and since 2005 we have been able to increase our missions giving to more than 50% of company profits. We count this a huge privilege. 
  4. Fostering a Love of Learning - We hold helping families love to learn together as a great joy. I’m grateful that families who use Sonlight love learning and are equipped to continue learning throughout life. 
  5. Exceptional Employees - Sonlight is filled with fun, talented, skilled, and devoted people in every position, which makes our work environment friendly and enjoyable. We truly care about our customers and each other.
  6. Raising Globally-Minded Children - One of our goals at Sonlight is to help raise children with God's heart for the world. We’re grateful to provide children an education that helps them understand their role in what God is doing throughout the world. 
  7. Prepare Ambassadors for Christ - Children are being raised up to become effective ambassadors for Christ and the people and culture around them through Sonlight’s history and Christian focus. 
  8. Meaningful Conversations - Sonlight has been able to help families facilitate meaningful conversations that equip parents to pass on values and worldview to their children. 
  9. Support Missionaries - We’ve been able to support missionaries all over the world continue their important work with the support of a full Christian education for their children. 
  10. Homeschool Conventions - We are blessed to attend conventions and help families on their homeschool journey by meeting them in person and sharing about Sonlight.
  11. Excellent Professional Support - Over the years we’ve partnered with great professionals who continue to support and guide us in our business decisions. 
  12. Charitable Mission Support - Sonlight has given millions to reputable missions organizations like the Far East Broadcasting Company and the Seed Company over the years. When families buy Sonlight, each dollar helps fuel the gospel in the far ends of the earth.
  13. Reading Books - Quick math tells us that over the years there have been billions of words, millions of pages, and hundreds of books read by families using Sonlight. What a blessing. 
  14. Customer Advocacy - Sonlight thrives and grows thanks to customers sharing their #sonlightstories with their friends and families. Over the years we’ve received thousands of testimonials and photos of happy, thriving children using Sonlight to help potential customers see that our approach works. 
  15. Sonlight Customer Support - We have the best customer support team in the business. Sonlight’s Customer Service team truly cares about Sonlight’s mission and the education of each student, and  Sonlight Advisors are experienced homeschooling moms dedicated to helping you homeschool successfully. 
  16. Replaced Prayer Books - Over the years we’ve been able to replace 2 prayer books because unreached people of the world have been reached. Praise!  
  17. Sonlight Graduates - Sonlight graduates are remarkable and poised to make a difference in the world and eager to serve the Lord. They are competent and qualified graduates in a wide breadth of majors and fields. 
  18. Second Generation Sonlighters - As we enter our 30th year, we now have many second-generation Sonlighters. We are blessed to provide everything needed for two generations of children to have a life-long love of learning, a strong Christian foundation, and a solid academic base. 
  19. Sonlight Headquarters - When I started Sonlight in our garage thirty years ago, I never imagined we would be in the state-of-the-art facility we are in today. 
  20. The Sonlight Catalog - Our team works so hard on the catalog every year and it really shows. May you look back as fondly, as we do, at catalogs of the past and continue to send pictures and testimonials to fill future pages. 
  21. Equip Children to Fulfill God's Call - Sonlight has been able to provide a well-rounded education from which students can launch in any direction that God calls. We seek to help you nurture the hearts and minds of your children to live for Christ. 
  22. New Books - Occasionally, we have to replace a book in our curriculum. Maybe a book goes out of print or maybe a better book comes along. This is an exciting opportunity to keep providing new literature!
  23. Sonlight.com - Can you believe that we used to only take paper orders? The website has allowed us to be nimble in our offerings, automated between our departments, and helps us provide you information about Sonlight and general homeschooling.
  24. Sonlight Blog - The Sonlight blog gives us the opportunity to provide encouragement and advice on everything Sonlight homeschooling. Whether you are new to homeschooling or a veteran, the Sonlight blog is a resource for everyone.
  25. Literature-Rich - As the original literature-based curriculum, we are in a unique position to be able to define what that means. As more and more companies continue to develop curriculum, our customers stand by the literature-rich model and help it thrive within the homeschool market. 
  26. Publishing Books - Sometimes, good books go out of print. Through our own publishing house, we are able to keep good books in print.
  27. Launched Multiple Brands - Through the years, we’ve been blessed to launch multiple brands to help homeschoolers meet their individual needs. The most recent brand is Happy Cheetah Reading, a remedial reading option. 
  28. Employee Safety and Health - At any given time we have a number of Sonlight Curriculum Consultants and employees traveling to conventions, to work, and to important meetings. Praise the Lord that traveling has been conducted safely!
  29. Sonlight Grad Working at Sonlight - That’s right! We have our first Sonlight graduate now employed at Sonlight. She is just as you would expect, smart, articulate, and compassionate. It truly feels like we’ve come full circle. 
  30. Family - In some cases to acknowledge one's family on a list of blessings might be cliche but in the case of Sonlight, family is the most important - yours and mine. We’re grateful for your families for supporting Sonlight over the last 30 years, and I’m grateful for mine for not only allowing me to provide you Sonlight but walking next to me. Sonlight's truly family-owned and operated.

At the heart of why I created Sonlight is to help you educate your unique children, develop their specific gifts, and nurture their hearts towards God’s work in the world. I’m so joyful that Sonlight has been able to come alongside you to help you nurture and bless your children. So as God directs their lives, they are open and ready to continually follow. 

Thank you for bringing us along on your homeschool journey for the last 30 years. I can’t wait to see what the future brings.

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4 Reasons to Have a Morning Meeting for Your Homeschool

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4 Reasons to Have a Morning Meeting for Your Homeschool

I’m sure you have heard of a productivity strategy that splits a to-do list into the urgent and the important. The Eisenhower Matrix, as it is commonly known, says items which are both urgent and important must be dealt with now. Family meals might be an example.

The unimportant and non-urgent are to be avoided as distractions: day-time television, perhaps. 

It is the important but non-urgent tasks that are often overlooked. The morning meeting is an example. 

There always seems to be something more pressing than a morning meeting. Holding one, however, in which I encourage my children, discuss the schedule with them, and remind them of the reason we study, has been our method for re-habituating some of the most important things in life.

1. To Celebrate the Good

“I finished my handwriting page, Daddy,” effused my six-year-old daughter one morning.

“Okay, it’s time for your Reader now,” I returned. 

“I’m so looking forward to pizza...” she started.

“Daddy...” squeaks the four-year-old.

“We’re not having pizza toda...” I remind them.

“Daddy, look at this LEGO machine,” interrupts the four-year-old.

“I need to finish this washing. Could you please not do that in the kitchen?”

“Daddy, can I go outside?” tries the six-year-old, desperately. 

“Didn’t I say it was time for your Reader?”

It’s the kind of interaction I blush to record. She invites me to acknowledge her handwriting; I ignore it. She expresses positive emotion; I sidestep it. My son asks me to praise him; I tell him not to annoy me. 

With a tight ship to run, celebrating the good is far from urgent, so I tend to ignore or defer it. Urgent: maybe not, but importance is another thing entirely. There is no better way to kill a child’s motivation for learning than to show a perpetual disinterest in the good. My children don’t learn so Daddy can keep the ship running. They learn because they see something worth knowing—something good.

It’s a tall order for a child to set their mind on whatever is right (Philippians 3:8) when Daddy seems occupied enough with the wrong. When the right recedes out of view, learning withers with it.

The first thing on the agenda, therefore,  is to sing a praise song. This sets the tone for the celebration of the Good. Next, I review the previous day and give an encouragement and a challenge for each child to consider. This ensures that I am pointing out his beautiful handwriting in Handwriting Without Tears 1 or her excellent self-control when her brother was arguing with her.

It also gives me an opportunity to confine any criticism that is not urgent to the challenges in the morning meeting. Unsurprisingly, many of my capricious reproaches don’t end up seeing the light of morning.

2. To Memorise Without Strain

Spending a mere ten minutes devoted to memorization takes enormous mental fortitude, even for an adult.  For a five-year-old, ten concentrated minutes will feel long-drawn beyond toleration. Unless it is seamlessly integrated into real life, memorization is best taken in short bursts.

We took the first line of 1 Peter, and repeated it six times every weekday morning. After a couple of weeks, I started working on the second line with my eldest and focused again on the first line with my younger two.

Recently I have also started recapping the Sing the Word verses. It still only takes three minutes per morning, but they may be the mightiest three in the day. 

Redeem the time. Start with these three minutes.

3. To Collaborate on the Schedule 

It’s not easy to schedule in a way that takes seriously both the demands of freedom and discipline.  I must stay sensitive on the one hand to the structure that promotes my vision for their education and on the other hand to their own goals. We must be vulnerable to making changes to the structure in order to protect both.

For us, the morning meeting has become the interface for those changes. We look over the Sonlight Instructor’s Guide. I tell them my scheduling ideas, I listen to their thoughts, and we collaborate on a to-do list. It’s an opportunity to remove an activity that’s not working or to introduce one that hopefully will.

On the whiteboard, I write the broad structure of the day as well a to-do list for each child. My eldest copies her to-do list into her own journal, which she will refer to throughout the day.

I take note if we fail to tick off all the items, but I do not address it that day. I save it for tomorrow’s morning meeting. It’s a chance to modify tomorrow's list or even to examine an attitude problem. 

When I want to clarify major changes, I will print off a detailed two-week plan. We’ll bring it to the morning meeting. We’ll notice, for example, that woodworking has been moved to a Tuesday afternoon, and we’ll write our lists accordingly. Once the scheduling changes have become habitual, we’ll go for two to six months without the printout.

4. To Remind Each Other Why We Learn

We use the meetings to help move education from something that just happens to something we do together. It’s a chance to bring life out into the open, to take responsibility for it and to ask the whys.

We recently read through the Psalms and noticed the verse that says “The LORD's works are great, studied by all who delight in them,” (Psalm 111:2). I found so much in that chapter on the whys and hows of education, that I used it to make a little catechism that we run through every morning.

Q: What are we learning about?

A: The words and works of the Lord.

Q: How must we learn?

A: Working truth and justice with Him.

Q: Why do we do it?

A: That all nations would sing His name

Start a morning meeting to bring your day out into the open, evaluate and modify it with your children. Redeem three minutes, celebrate the good, and ask why.

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Does Learning Have to Be Painful?

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Does Learning Have to Be Painful?

Some educators seem to suggest: “Learning is painful. Get used to it.” They expect kids to learn to grit their teeth and persevere.

And yes, education may be hard. Perseverance is a valuable skill. But should that be our starting point with homeschooling?

I say, no way!

Instead, don’t we want our children to believe along these lines?

  • The world is a fascinating place.
  • I want to learn about it.
  • I know from experience that I can learn new things and gain new skills.
  • I will persevere and learn because I want to and I know I can.

Children who believe this way are set up well for life. They know that they can achieve what they set their minds to. They know that learning is sometimes hard work, but that it pays great dividends.

Why Loving to Learn is Important

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: No educational program can possibly teach children all they need to know for life by age 18. So instead we had better give them a great foundation and help them love learning!

How do we do that? Well, God made our children with an inborn sense of curiosity. Just watch a toddler’s drive to learn about the world around her. That curiosity doesn’t have to go away as children grow. We can notice and nurture it.

And as we nurture our children’s curiosity, we can help them gain confidence in their abilities.

Every time our children learn a new skill and we let them use it, they internalize an important self-message: I can do things.

That’s why I want children to have positive experiences with learning. I want them to internalize the delight of mastering new skills, the wonder of discovering new things.

How to Help Kids Love to Learn

So how do we achieve this? We’ve designed Sonlight’s entire program in order to help students love to learn. Instead of relying on worksheets, textbooks and flashcards, we use gripping stories to teach children about the world.

As they listen to Mom or Dad read out loud, many kids don’t even know they’re “doing school,” but they are in fact learning by leaps and bounds. Intriguing? You can read more in this article: How Literature-Rich Homeschooling Awakens Your Child’s Natural Passion for Learning.

When we work with children’s innate desires to learn, we reinforce important lessons that will carry them forward throughout the years: learning is worthwhile, and they can do it.

Sure, even children who love to learn will have hard days. They will struggle to learn some things. They may cry over a math concept or get angry when they receive constructive criticism on a writing assignment.

But let’s not start with the painful side of learning. Let’s not pretend that painful learning will be the primary feature of their education. Let’s start with the beauty of learning, with children’s natural desires to explore and figure things out.

Then when the hard stuff starts to come, they’ll know what to do with it. And you will have the joy of teaching children who know from experience that learning is exciting and that they can do it. That’s a far easier task than force-feeding children an education they just don’t want.

Sonlight can help you bless your children with a love of learning. You can discover how to love your homeschool journey. You can set your children on a trajectory of life-long learning.

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Help! I'm Scared to Teach Math and Writing

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Two subjects in particular can strike fear in a homeschool parent's heart: math and writing. You know they're crucial for your child's academic success, but you may doubt your ability to teach them well. Don't be scared to teach math and writing! I share my secrets with you.

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Teach How Jesus Taught

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Teach How Jesus Taught

How have children learned from the beginning of time? How did Jesus himself teach his followers?

Through stories, in the context of relationship.

And that is just what Sonlight comes alongside you to help you do. We help you teach your children through stories, as you strengthen your relationship with them.

Jesus, the Teacher

Jesus had a lot at stake in teaching his disciples and followers. The entire plan of his Kingdom rested on them cooperating with the Holy Spirit to carry forth his message and live transformed lives.

So what did Jesus do?

  • Did he cram his disciples full of facts and figures?
  • Did he just give them information from a distance?

No. First of all, Jesus loved his followers. He lived side-by-side with them. He walked with them. He talked with them. He shared in their joys and struggles. He led by example.

And he also taught them with stories. When they had questions about his parables and teachings, they asked, and Jesus engaged them in conversation.

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Teaching with the Same Methods Jesus Used

Does this form of teaching sound familiar? Now, I am not saying we are Jesus. We certainly aren’t God and we are far from perfect. But does Jesus’ general approach to teaching sound like something we can emulate? Yes!

We live in close relationship with our children. We walk beside them in life. As we teach them with stories, we strengthen our relationships with them. (What do you think all those Read-Aloud sessions on the family couch are doing? They are teaching and building relationships!)

Sharing these meaningful stories with our children helps us see into their hearts. What grabs them? What moves them? What do they worry about? What are their questions? And then we can meet them there and help guide them.

The stories and curriculum Sonlight provides help you guide your children to discover answers to important questions such as:

  • How does the world work?
  • How did our society get to where it is today?
  • What does a worthy role model look like?
  • What happens when we make bad decisions in life?
  • How do we persevere in hard times?
  • How do we relate to those who are different from us?
  • What does it look like to follow God?
  • How has God engaged with humanity throughout history?

Teaching our children through stories, in relationship with them, is the most enjoyable, effective, and historically enduring way of learning I can think of.

We simply call it our literature-based learning model.

So come along and let Sonlight help you be a guiding voice of love, knowledge and wisdom in your children’s lives as you teach them about the world and point them to Christ.

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