Socialization: A Reason to Stay Home

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I've blogged about this before: I was lonely in public school. And I'm not the only one.

It's Sunday morning. We're sitting in the foyer, waiting for the service to start. She plunks down next to me, an incredibly articulate little girl we've known for years. "How's school going?" I ask.

"Not good."

"Really? Why?"

"I don't have any friends. All the kids pick on me. They say they're smarter than me. They say I'm stupid."

Her mom sits in a chair well within earshot, but I can't tell if she's listening. I know this family used to homeschool, but they don't anymore. Again, I wonder why. Was it because of the curriculum they were using? Did life get too busy? Are they pursuing other dreams? ...and, in the back of my mind, I wonder if things would have been different if they had used Sonlight's homeschool curriculum instead.

"That's not very nice," I offer. "And don't listen to them. Kids can just be mean sometimes. Maybe you'll make some new friends."

"But the school year's almost over."

"Maybe next year, then," I'm grasping at straws here.

"No," her downcast face becomes even more rueful. "The same kids will be there next year."

Again, I have no idea why this family choose to quit homeschooling. I've chatted with one of their other daughters recently, and--at the time--she was loving her new school. I am not in any way saying homeschooling is the only option. I'm not saying--though, I wish I could--that Sonlight would have solved their problems. But I am saying, again, that "real school" does not socialize children and that "socialization" is not a unique concern for homeschoolers.

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Empty Nester

P.S. I can't guarantee that Sonlight will fix all your homeschooling issues, but I can guarantee that you will love using Sonlight.

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  1. Cindy

    So sad!! :( We have had several friends 'go back' to school. I don't know why, either.

  2. Kristen

    Unfortunately, sometimes the devil wins. He has been bugging me too. He tells me that I can't do this homeschool thing and that I am going to mess my kids up more than public school ever will. I just keep casting him and his lies out and lay it all down at the Lord's feet. I think the overwhelming feeling or fear of failure scares people back into "school."

  3. There definitely are very real pressures that come with homeschooling, to be sure. The good news: Socialization isn't one unique to homeschooling.


  4. Rebekah

    How can you guarantee somebody will love using Sonlight?

    Are you talking about the Love to Learn (or whatever it's called) guarantee?

    I can say for high school I definitely wanted something deeper and more advanced.

  5. Rebekah, yes, I can guarantee people will love Sonlight because of our Love to Learn Guarantee (linked above) <smile>.