Those yellow school buses have started to roll by here in Colorado. And though not as visible, homeschooled kids are gathering on couches and at kitchen tables for a new school year as well.
As you dive into a new year (or not, depending on your schedule), now may be a good time to review your big picture vision: Why do you want your kids to be educated? What is the point of education?
Here’s my take on it.
At a basic level, I believe we all want our children to be able to survive in this world when they grow up. That is usually easier with some education and some job skills.
On a deeper level, we all want our children to be happy and fulfilled in life. We want them to be able to do something they enjoy as they make their way in the world. Of course, I want that for my own kids and grandkids.
A Christian Motivation for Education
But as Christians, we have an even deeper motivation for education. We believe our children’s stories matter in the grand scheme of things. We believe God is working in the world and that we are part of His story. We believe God has plans for our children’s lives; plans to bless others through them. And because of this, we want our children to be prepared to live the life God has for them.
Which brings me to my fundamental belief about education:
Education should help children develop their gifts and equip them to do whatever God calls them to do to further His Kingdom.
We are not educating our children just for their own sakes. We do not teach them just so that they can get good jobs and make a lot of money. We teach them, nurture them, help them discover and develop their gifts so that when God calls, they are ready.
Equipping Them to Fulfill God's Call
I believe God calls us in (at least) two ways: God’s general call for all Christians and God’s specific call for an individual. God clearly asks all Christians to love their neighbors, to help care for the poor, and to be a witness to Christ in the world. We should try to nurture the hearts and minds of all our children to live like that.
And God also often gives people specific calls. God’s plan for your daughter might be that she becomes a medical missionary. If that’s true, she better study up! She’ll need an effective education in math, science and the humanities, plus solid training in the faith. (Don’t worry – Sonlight helps you do that!)
But here’s the thing. You often don’t know what your children will be called to do later in life. That girl who will grow up to serve in medical missions may only be six years old now. How do you know how to prepare her for her future life? I offer that you do what I believe all Christian homeschool parents want to do: notice and nurture your child’s gifts, and help give her a well-rounded education from which she could launch in any direction that God calls.
That doesn’t mean each child needs to excel in all subjects and all areas. But we should help all children who are able to gain proficiency in key subjects and then to really thrive in the areas where they show interest and special skill.
Sonlight Provides the Tools
And of course, this is exactly what Sonlight helps you do. Whatever God calls your children to do down the road, Sonlight gives you and them the tools now to help them thrive and be ready.
A solid Sonlight education has launched children toward careers in the sciences and the humanities, mission-work and entrepreneurship. Students who complete Sonlight are really ready for whatever comes next for them. I’ve seen them go on to become doctors, pastors, attorneys, missionaries, homeschool parents, politicians, engineers and more.
I’ve seen Sonlight students with significant disabilities grow in their abilities, their character and their faith to become the people God wants them to be. (God knew what He was doing when he created your children, no matter what their innate abilities. They don’t have to work for NASA or become Bible translators in order to be where God wants them in His Kingdom.)
This is at the heart of why I created Sonlight. I want to help you equip your unique children, develop their specific gifts, and nurture their hearts toward God and towards God’s work in the world. I want our children to graduate high school with a deep love for God, compassion for the world, and the confidence that they can do what God asks them to do. Even if that seems hard or scary.
Sonlight comes alongside you to help you nurture and bless your children. So as God directs their lives, they are open and ready to continually follow. Isn’t that what we all want for them? We are with you in this!
You probably hear these words from your own children, like I do, many times every school day. I find I am easily frustrated with so many questions bombarding me while I am trying to teach, guide, and instruct all four of my children at once.
Sadly, my frustration leads to curt answers that are not full of grace. I don’t want my children to feel like a nuisance because of my response; I want them to feel they are important and loved.
While it is a good thing to ask questions, I also want my children to understand that their questions need to be asked responsibly. When there is an established order, everyone benefits, and growth happens.
Part of my job as a homeschool parent is to help develop independent learners. I cannot walk around holding my children’s hands, answering their questions every day of their lives. They have to learn, at some point, to think independently so they can thrive in adulthood. (And we parents have to let them, no matter how hard.)
In my experience so far, these three steps have helped with leading my children to learn independently in our homeschool.
1. Establish Clear Boundaries
When I am working with one child on math and another child interrupts with an unnecessary question which I answer, two bad things happen:
The question interrupts the learning for the one child.
The child who is asking isn't thinking independently.
Here’s my solution: I establish clear boundaries that when I am working with one child, no other child can interrupt. Instead they must hold their question until I am ready to give them my attention.
This rule establishes order, and offers the child asking the question a chance to problem-solve on their own. I often find that the child with the question will figure out the answer while they are waiting.
2. Give Your Children The Right Tools and Skills
One of the best things my dad taught me was to figure things out on my own. He did not ignore my questions, but he told me where and how to find the answer instead of telling me the answer outright. After equipping me to find the answer, he would send me to investigate on my own. After figuring out the answer, I would go back to him and relay my discovery or ask for further guidance.
My dad's method helped me learn to think independently and become a good problem-solver. I try to model this same parenting style with my children, giving them the road map, teaching them how to use it, and being there to help them explore the answers.
One simple example is to provide reference tools for children such as encyclopedias, a thesaurus, and almanacs. Even when I know the answer, I teach them how to look up the answers to their questions. Not only will they learn a new skill, but they will probably better remember the fact because they had to work for it.
3. Allow Children More Freedom as They Mature
I'm a fan of giving tweens and teens the freedom to work on their own within an allotted time frame. Establish a list of expected assignments or use one of Sonlight’s student guides. But let them choose the pace, the order, and the methods. This freedom teaches time management and work ethic.
It is also good for older children to know up front what both the reward is when they complete their work on time and the consequences if they squander their time. Handing over more control instills self-motivation for higher education and the workforce—and life!
When our children are younger, we do need to help them more and devote more time teaching them one-on-one. But we also have to learn how to let go and let them learn to think for themselves. The transition is not always easy—for parents or for children. But being able to learn independently is a requirement for our children to excel in adulthood.
Sonlight curriculum begins with a delightful Preschool program for children ages three to four. It’s packed with fiction, fairy tales, and fun that you read aloud to your child. Of course, you can begin reading aloud long before preschool. In fact, experts agree that children benefit from read-alouds as early as in the womb! So, why wait? Snuggle up and prepare your little one for a rich Sonlight education right around the corner.
If reading aloud to your baby or toddler feels impossible, take heart. You are in good company. All parents have to work with limited attention spans, unpredictable needs, and ferocious appetites. I’m here to help you overcome some of the trickiest obstacles, make a simple plan, and enjoy reading with your little one.
Discover Your Baby’s Read-Aloud Style
What does your baby love about books?
We all read for a variety of reasons. I read for life lessons. One of my daughters reads for story, while my other daughter connects with the characters. My son uses books as a reference point for things that come up in real life.
Why do you read? Why does your baby read?
Have fun observing your child’s unique approach to books. Once you notice a trend, you can emphasize your child’s interest when you read aloud. You’ll capture your child’s attention, have more fun, and see your little one fall in love with books.
What does your child like about books?
Watching the words
Hearing the words
Looking at pictures
Interacting with the pictures
Connecting with the characters
Spending time with you
Role-playing afterward
Asking questions
Discussion
Personal contemplation
Something else?
2. Plan When and Where You Will Read Aloud Together
When is your child most likely to connect with a read-aloud? Every child has a natural body clock of energy highs and lows, times of contemplation and times of output. My baby is calm immediately after nursing, so I often read a book while we’re nice and cozy in the rocking chair. Some days, the perfect time and place never come our way, so we just do our best. When you have a hunch that it is a good time to read aloud to your baby, grab a book and give it a try!
Where does your baby seem to settle down and seem most attentive? In the high chair or bouncy seat? Snuggling on the couch? Make the most of that time and place.
Keep a small basket of books in every location where you’ll be likely to find an opportunity to read to your baby: near the kitchen table, in the bathroom, next to the rocking chair, etc. Then, you’ll easily find a book, and it’ll be easy to tidy up afterward.
Age-Specific Strategies for Reading Aloud to Babies
Newborn
Read a poem or a Psalm when you feed your baby. Place the open book on an end-table so you don’t have to turn pages.
Lay down next to baby during tummy time and page through a simple board book together.
Prop baby up in your lap and read a simple book with well-defined pictures that you can point to and identify. Even if your baby isn’t looking at the pages, she is absorbing the language and the experience. You are establishing her expectations that you two read aloud together.
Highchair-Sitting Baby
Read A Children’s Treasury of Nursery Rhymes or Wee Sing Nursery Rhymes and Lullabies while your baby is eating. The short poems allow for frequent interruptions, and yet you are introducing baby to rich language, ideas, illustrations, and the concept of reading from a book. You won’t feel as frustrated by the interruptions, and your baby’s attention span will grow over time.
Read to an active baby when they are in a jumpy seat.
Toddler
Do you have an active child? Read one picture book, then act it out.
Contemplative child? Read a book, then let her play alone to think it through.
Talkative child? Read a book, then talk about it all day long! Write down some of his thoughts and read them aloud as a story.
Some children like to hold a related toy while listening to the book. (i.e. My daughter loves to hold her baby doll while reading Eloise Wilkin Stories.)
Other children like to have their backs rubbed while they listen.
"Sonlight’s foundation of wonderful books grabbed my son’s attention from the very beginning. Reading did not come easy for him; he really had to work at it. But I felt like we had all the tools we needed to succeed within our curriculum. Soon enough, reading clicked for him and off he went. He loves reading and often reads ahead in the chapter books for our lessons.
"He also has been a huge role model to his little sister in his love for books. She has jumped in that band wagon.
"Now, they have a baby brother who they both enjoy showing books to and reading stories to. I love the special relationship they all have because of being home learning together every day, despite their age differences. Homeschooling with Sonlight has nurtured a beautiful friendship between all my children."
Jessica J., Sonlighter in Xenia, OH
Include Baby in an Older Child’s Sonlight Curriculum
If you already use Sonlight for an older child, consider how you can arrange your read-aloud time to include your baby. In fact, your older child might enjoy participating in "Baby’s Lessons" by holding or reading to the baby. There is something in every level of Sonlight, from the Preschool Package to Sonlight 500, that could be read aloud to your little one. Consider these specific subjects for a great start:
Bible reading
Bible memory
Nursery rhymes
Poetry
Wee Sing Songs
Literacy starts at birth—and even prior to birth—so it's never too soon to enjoy books with your baby. If you have a toddler or preschooler, and you haven't had a reading habit yet, it's not too late to start! Jump right in now and discover the delights of sharing books with babies.
Home maintenance can overwhelm even the most organized of us and create extra havoc when children are involved. There are days I would rather throw in the towel instead of train my children for the thousandth time how to make their bed, pick up clothes, or put away dishes. It can be exhausting and can sap my joy.
Because my four children have two year age gaps between each successive child, they each require a different approach for home management training. These four things can help any exhausted parent find motivation as they teach household life-skills to multiple ages while homeschooling.
1. Focus on Stewardship
If we focus on expecting our children to keep a perfect house—one that is magazine-worthy—we will always be disappointed. But if we keep our focus on honoring God by being good stewards of what He has entrusted to us, not only will the job be easier, we will also teach our children that the work we do is for a greater purpose.
If we start training our children early to understand that we are stewards in this world, the more quickly the truth will take root. Hopefully this will bear fruit that expresses their love for the Lord in all they do whether big or small.
2. Create a Clear List of Jobs for Each Child
What I have found helpful is to make a list of everything that needs to be done in each room of my house. Then according to each child’s age and ability, I assign a few of those jobs to each child. This room-by-room checklist is posted on a whiteboard in our breakfast area so everyone can see it.
3. Walk Your Child Through Each Task Until They Can Accomplish It Independently
When training my children in life-skills, mastery is proven when they can do it independently from the beginning to the end without hesitation.
Achieving mastery is where teaching home management gets especially challenging. If you have more than one child, you will feel torn because you can’t help everyone at the same time. Here are three keys that help me:
Pick one room where everyone works simultaneously and you can supervise them all at once.
Have your children do their tasks at different times of the day so you can work with one child at a time, as time allows.
If you have older children and younger children, start a buddy system. Pair a younger and older child together to work on the same room while you go back and forth to supervise each buddy pair.
4. Keep The Same Rhythm Each Day
Keeping the same schedule (or routine) will help things run more smoothly for all ages. If your children know what to expect next, attitudes tend to stay in check.
Teaching our children to pitch in with home management not only eases our own burden as homeschool moms, but it also provides them with important life-skills. Our children gain a sense of personal discipline and confidence when they take responsibility for a task and see it to completion.
Teaching multiple children at different ages can sometimes feel difficult to manage. Sonlight makes it easier by dividing our curriculum into two types of subjects: Couch and Table Subjects. Learn more here.
Homeschooling is an open invitation to clutter. The minute we even consider homeschooling, clutter makes itself at home by way of picture books, paper, art supplies, science projects, curriculum, snacks, DVDs, and educational resources. Yet, homeschooling is also an open invitation to beauty, truth, and goodness. These are the reasons we homeschool and also the reasons we acquire picture books, art supplies, and educational resources.
How do we make room for more of the good stuff while not losing our minds over the clutter? With the following organization tips to control the clutter!
When I’m looking through homeschool blogs, I see bright, beautiful pictures of children playing with paint and making creations with macaroni and glitter. The parents and children all appear to be having a great time. But that happy scene isn’t true for every family. What do you do when you’re the parent of children who love arts and crafts, but you just don’t feel that joy from hands-on projects? Maybe your projects are usually a flop, but you know your kids crave working with their hands to express their creativity.
My Epic Arts and Crafts Fail
Here's an example of how arts and crafts don't work in my home. Once I decided we would have an artist study and make our own versions of Picasso paintings. I printed pictures of his masterpieces and gathered the recommended paints and supplies from a tutorial I found on Pinterest. Calling my six children over, I taught a short art lesson, and we dove into painting. Fast-forward one hour.
My oldest daughter, 16 at the time, had done a very fast painting and then hied off to her room.
My 13-year-old was very carefully working on his 12th version of a painting. He had gotten frustrated with the first 11 paintings and had thrown them out, so he was now creating a new one, with high frustration levels.
My 9-year-old was doing paintings that looked nothing like what I had imagined in my head. He was just making a mess and having fun but with no real painting technique.
My 8-year-old had walked away over half an hour ago after not really trying.
My 5-year-old was crying because no matter how hard she tried, her painting wasn’t good enough.
The 4-year-old had gotten less paint on her paper that she got on everything else within her reach.
I had a headache from dreading the clean-up process. I was exhausted and just wanted to go lie down.
Why Did Our Picasso Project Fail?
There are parents who can make art projects like this work, and I really admire that ability. But I must admit I will probably never be one of them.
Our art project failed because I tried to do art in a style that doesn’t work for our family. Instead of taking a formal, parent-led approach to crafts and hands-on projects, my family does better when the activities are sparked by my children's own interest and done at their own pace. We're more unschoolers when it comes to arts and crafts.
Our Successful Art Projects Are Student-led
Usually I don’t plan art at all. I simply provide art supplies, and my children are allowed to create in their free time. For some families, this strewing method would result in disaster, but it works for us.
How We Set Up Our Art Station
For our at-home art station, I divide materials into two large plastic tubs and a book stack.
a list of approved websites they can use to find art tutorial videos
Rules for Getting Crafty
Children who are older and prove responsible can use either art box at any time. Less responsible or younger children can use the second box only under the direct supervision of a parent or older sibling .
Whenever a child wants to do art, they can rummage for the supplies they want, and then they create! When they are done, they put the supplies away and clean up. If they run out of something, they put it on my shopping list, and when I have the time and money, I replace it.
Sonlight’s Hands-On History Project Kits by InquisiKids
But the best thing about them? They are just like my art boxes, but better.
In the kit, there are almost all the supplies you will need to make each craft. And each project is packaged into individual bags to make all the required parts easy to find for small hands. The instruction booklet has step-by-step pictures that make completing the projects easy for the children to do with minimal parental involvement. There are even notes telling when parents should get involved, such as using the oven to harden clay.
All the child needs to do is find a project from the box, reference the instruction book, and start creating!
My kids love having these history project kits added to our art center because they are equipped to create whenever they are inspired. There's no waiting for me to find the right sized dowel or shop for some obscure craft supply. It’s all right there in the kit.
These kits are set up to help your child succeed at art, even without a lot of parental involvement. My kids love the feeling of success they have when they can independently do the projects (and clean up afterwards). These kits are a lot like my art boxes, miniaturized and organized to create a great project every time.
When I first started homeschooling, it never occurred to me to adapt to a particular homeschool philosophy. I hadn’t even realized that they existed! I simply ordered every single homeschool catalog I could get my hands on. When I found the Sonlight catalog, I couldn’t stop reading it. I was hooked. I ordered a full package and was ready to go.
A couple of years later, I noticed people around me were talking about homeschool philosophies. This friend thought classical education was best. Another thought unit studies were her answer while still another insisted that eclectic was the only way to go. Because I'm the type who needs to try every option to make sure I’m not missing out, I immediately began to investigate and add certain aspects to our homeschooling day from various methodologies, one after the other.
Here is my own homeschooling journey through seven homeschool philosophies and what I discovered along the way.
1. The Charlotte Mason Philosophy
Charlotte Mason was a wonderful teacher who taught young children over 100 years ago. She loved living books (books that get you involved in the story, rather than have you memorize facts). Into her curriculum, she wove nature and observation. She was always trying to find better ways to teach young children by keeping them engaged. A firm believer in letting a child explore and learn on their own, she championed nature walks, narration, and journaling. Charlotte Mason sounds like someone who could have been my friend!
However, a strict Charlotte Mason lifestyle was not for us. First of all, we didn’t live in an area that lent itself to safe nature walks without driving a considerable distance or paying fees. Because of dyslexia, journaling was more of a battle than a fun activity, and many of the books Miss Mason recommends are fairly dated.
We did add several books to our collection, but we found many were just not as interesting as newer books that had been published after Miss Mason's time. We also liked to intersperse our enlightening reading with a bit of twaddle to lighten things up. (Twaddle is an absolute no-no for Charlotte Mason purists.) Also, looking into the future, we saw that Charlotte Mason was light on middle and high school education, as she focused primarily on the younger children she regularly taught.
I’m always a little surprised when my friends insist upon adhering to a strict Charlotte Mason methodology and using only the books she would have used. This is rather confusing to me, because the one person who thought that Charlotte’s ideas should not be used as a strict guideline for every child and was always searching for ways to improve the curriculum was Charlotte Mason herself. She prided herself on growth and change, based on observations of the individual child.
Sonlight and Charlotte Mason
So while Charlotte Mason comprises an excellent philosophy, with Sonlight I'm able to take advantage of all those things Charlotte Mason didn’t have access to, and create a balanced blend of old and new.
2. Classical Homeschooling
Teaching the Trivium goes back to the times of Ancient Greece and before. The curriculum is largely centered upon The Great Books, a collection of classical works that have lasted through time and stimulate the Great Conversations throughout history. The study of Hebrew, Greek, and Latin is encouraged for reading books in their original languages and for building a strong foundation in logic.
Implementing the Grammar phase was pretty easy. My children learn best through music, so adding in songs and jingles was no hardship at all. But despite our memorization of events and dates, I felt that the living books from Sonlight actually stuck with them more. With Sonlight curriculum, they were learning without even trying. The Classical method seemed too uptight and rigorous for us. Sonlight also helped my children develop through the logic and rhetoric phases in a way that better fit my relaxed personality.
Sonlight and Classical Homeschooling
Sonlight provides a great framework for adding many of The Great Books. We did add some, but, to be honest, I was getting just as bored with some of the Great Books as my children were. We still add in a couple books per year and keep a plethora of educational songs on hand, but by and large, we’ve left behind the Classical method. After all, with translations, the classical works can be read in English and not in dead languages.
We found that reading a lot of difficult books very fast was not enjoyable for my dyslexic children, even on audiobook. I easily let go of the more rigid confines of the curriculum to suit our more relaxed homeschool style. Sonlight balanced out the parts we were missing.
3. The Montessori Method
I originally thought Montessori would be a great method for my little ones, as it incorporates hands-on methods and is almost completely child-led. There are many specialized manipulatives you can purchase or create yourself to stimulate learning. While I did do a rotation at a Montessori school in my education, I did not seek out teaching credentials, nor do most homeschooling parents need to.
However, implementing the Montessori method at home proved to be much more challenging than I anticipated. First of all, it was very expensive, required vast amounts of manipulatives and print outs, and it took a lot of time to prep all the small pieces.
But the biggest drawback to me was that my children left the activities behind so quickly. I had at one point ordered a Montessori box delivered to our house each month. My children would play with it all day the first day, and then barely touch it again after that. The activities were delightful while they lasted, but they never lasted long. If we had access to the huge amount of resources in a classroom, we may have had more success, but at home, there really was only so much I could provide at a time. And Montessori really only goes so high. Eventually a Montessori educator has to change methodology as they move into the higher grade levels.
Sonlight and Montessori
Sonlight has recently added more hands-on to their programs, and my children have been enjoying those, but in our house, books are our main manipulatives. My children return to their favorite books time and again, and some of our books have been read so many times they have literally fallen apart.
4. The School-at-Home Approach
We’ve tried the school-at-home method a few different times, using different traditional programs—both textbook and online. These programs are nice, because they provide everything you need and guarantee a complete education. But, for a variety of reasons, they just didn’t work well for our family.
First of all, we have a love/hate relationship with textbooks/workbooks. Usually, it would start out with my children flying through 40 or more pages of their workbooks. But it would invariably wind up with half-completed workbooks lying around and nobody with the energy to finish them. I had a hard time with workbooks myself in school, never turning in my homework, and hating the sheer amount of busywork. Obviously, I had a hard time forcing my children to push through when there were a couple dozen workbooks per grade level.
But the hardest part for me was grading them. There were just so many workbooks, and they all had to be graded daily. Even with accredited programs, the parent still needs to grade or monitor the grades in all the programs. When you have 5 children each doing over a dozen workbooks a day, that adds up quickly.
Also, the amount of screen time increased because of all the videos for the classes. In short, I grew uncomfortable exchanging our fun, comfortable stories around the sofa for a bunch of children locked in different rooms all day, watching videos. So we eventually wound up dropping the school-at-home approach.
If I had unlimited time and money, I would probably dive deep into unit studies and love every minute. But the truth is this method relies heavily on the parent to do the planning:
research materials
screen resources for content and difficulty
organize everything into a cohesive study
create a schedule for the study
balance all the different academic subjects so nothing is left out
My biggest difficulty with unit studies was getting bogged down in the extensive planning. I'd work on a six-week unit study and end up with enough materials to fill a full school year! Then I struggled with what to leave out or how to extend it without going over the same material 7,000 times and boring my children.
Sonlight and Unit Studies
Eventually I came to realize that Sonlight really is just a series of unit studies, all planned out, scheduled, and ready to go. There's almost no prep work needed on my part.
Instead of planning unit studies, I can use Sonlight as our unit study base and add on to it as our interests lead. Adding to Sonlight is usually unnecessary, but that still doesn’t stop me from layering on extras! Sometimes my kids and I just want more on a particular topic.
6. Unschooling
Before I started trying out various methods of education, I would have guessed that unschooling would be the most effective for my children. They are often highly motivated to learn (translation: obsess) about certain topics, and they enjoy reading about almost anything.
However, I have discovered they aren’t quite the unschoolers I thought they were. There are certain subjects they will go out of their way to avoid. While they do follow my lead when it comes to our studies, if left to their own devices, there are huge chunks of topics they would omit altogether.
Sonlight and Unschooling
So we have created a method I call Sonlight unschooling by unit study. It’s a bit of a mess and hard to describe, but basically we work through one Sonlight History / Bible/ Literature program per year per child, and whenever they become interested in a particular topic, I load them up with extra materials and projects.
As I keep moving through Sonlight, we find another topic and repeat. Some explorations are short (10 -120 minutes) and others are longer (a few weeks). But we always come back to Sonlight as our base for deeper exploration.
7. Eclectic Homeschooling
The eclectic method describes my homeschool best of all. The eclectic approach is simply taking a little bit from two or more methods and compiling what works best for each individual homeschool. Some families combine a school-at-home approach with a classical education, while others find private online schools with bits of Sonlight tied in. This do-whatever-works style is very common among experienced homeschoolers!
Sonlight and Eclectic Homeschooling
My children and I are eclectic unschoolers who use Sonlight as a base to create unschooled unit studies. Sometimes we add a few Charlotte Mason or classical techniques and materials.
I’ve tried all of these seven homeschooling methods and more, and the one item I can’t leave behind is Sonlight curriculum. For the past 14 years, it has been the foundation that assures me we are covering everything we need. Yet it creates so much interest that my children can’t help wanting to go deeper.
My typical response when asked, “Which homeschool philosophy do you use?” is “Sonlight.” That’s all I really need to say to describe it.