Homeschoolers and the Popular Kids

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I really like Paul Graham's essay on Why Nerds are Unpopular. I think it's spot on. But a mere two paragraphs into Matt's post comparing church and junior high a thought struck me: Who are the "popular" kids? Or, put another way, "I don't think the popular kids are very popular."

We all know who the popular kids are. We may be able to name them, even after all these years. It's possible we could tell you, in painful detail, how they helped make our lives miserable--assuming we were important enough to be a target.

Important. Target.

Those two words connected in my mind: The popular kids, for all their "popularity," were wildly disliked by the majority of students I knew. In other words: The "popular" kids were severely unpopular. They were important enough to be targets. The same thing happens with celebrities; the tabloid industry is built on such things.


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Me? I was popular in high school after I got out of my awkward stage. I was good at sports, but sports no one cares about like swimming and cross country. I wasn't unattractive, but my wife says I have much improved since those days. I took advanced classes with other kids interested in winning the grade game. I ate lunch with a group of students who preferred sitting on the floor to the cafeteria tables. We were popular because we liked each other. And our relatively small group was larger than that of the "popular" entourage.

I'd be interested in hearing from a popular kid. What was life like as the alpha? I doubt it was fun.

Far better to realize that the friends you have are what make you truly popular. And even there, the numbers aren't what matter. Do you have people who love you and encourage you to become the person you should be? That's what matters. That matters far more than how many people despise you for being good at everything and looking good while doing it.

Homeschooling allows our kids to not have to worry about being popular at school. Instead, we can focus on loving our children and encouraging them to become the people they should be. And, don't worry: There are still plenty of opportunities for them to learn how to navigate the petty worlds of cliques and circles in sports and church and band and the rest of life.

But with the lengthy reprieve not offered their friends in school, may our homeschooled children recognize the truth of popularity and make better, stronger friends for it.

How popular where the popular kids you knew in school?

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Empty Nester

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That Sinking Feeling and Flying Reindeer

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My best friend, and excellent source for all things newsworthy, asked me, "Did you hear about all the people on Twitter who didn't know the Titanic was real?"

I hadn't. If you can handle a rant about how people are imbeciles, swing by the Gizmodo article. Otherwise, I'll summarize: At least 12 people recently discovered that the Titanic isn't just a movie.

Heh.

But even while I smile, smug in my superior grasp of the situation, I have a sinking feeling. Because, not nearly enough years ago, I didn't know reindeer were real.

Don't freak out. It was more than a decade ago. But I distinctly remember when that bit of information finally sunk in. I felt much the same then as I did when I found another gaping hole in my education. I simply hadn't considered reindeer because, in my experience, they flew... meaning, they weren't real. I hadn't seen a reindeer. I hadn't heard a credible story involving reindeer. And so I was ignorant until I encountered a story of someone who dealt with reindeer on a regular basis.

So, I'll say it again: The stuff you know is important, to be sure, but the ability to learn is ever so much more essential.

Will your children have gaps in their education? Yes. Absolutely. And that's okay.

It's tempting, when we hear that people are ignorant of basic knowledge, to decry our educational system, bemoan the youth of today, give up hope for humanity, and a great many other dramatic things. But, really, this should:

  1. Inspire us to learn more by reminding us that we, too, were once ignorant.
  2. Encourage us in our homeschooling journey as there is always more to learn--even if "everyone else" knew it before us.
  3. Give us humility in the realization that a personal encounter is often needed to make something real.

And, sure, this also adds one more log to the fire of "first remove the plank from your eye" when people suggest homeschoolers need more oversight.

What do you think of people not knowing basic facts everyone "should know"?

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Empty Nester

P.S. Not on topic, per se, but I really like this idea of things not being real until you encounter them. Reminds me of people who hear about Jesus, but it doesn't matter until they encounter Him.

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Remember . . .

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As we sat in church last Sunday, celebrating the Resurrection, it occurred to me that Easter is all about remembering. Remembering what Christ accomplished on the cross, what He did for me.

As we sat together at dinner with family members young and old, and listened to the eldest member recount things from her past, it occurred to me that family is all about remembering.

These past couple of weeks I have been reading in the book of Deuteronomy, marveling at what value God placed on instructing the Israelites to remember. Moses rehearsed the many ways that God had met their needs and led them through difficult circumstances. Remember how the Lord your God led you ... (Deut. 8:2). Do not forget that he led you ... (Deut. 8:15). Remember the Lord your God ... (Deut. 8:18).

Helping my kids remember has long been an unwritten goal of mine. I have fond memories of growing up around multiple family dinner tables as my grandparents shared story after story of their earlier lives. What a wonderful privilege to be able to do the same with our children.

Sonlight includes some wonderful titles that encourage "remembering" ... In Grandma's Attic comes to mind (and more in that series). Little House in the Big Woods is another well-known title in this category.

What better way to teach of God's faithfulness than to help your children make "remembering" a regular part of their lives? I would encourage you to start some "remembering" with your children if you haven't already!

Still on the journey ...
Judy Wnuk
Sonlight Customer Champion

 

 

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1,000 Reasons to Feel Like a Failure

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The bluish hue from his monitor provides but a splash of illumination. He's hunkered down in his chair, looking for inspiration. He doesn't find any. Rather, as he flips through pages of material, he becomes more and more discouraged. He isn't nearly that put together. He doesn't provide that much value. His efforts pale in comparison. Eventually, he gives up in disgust. Why bother?

If that young man wasn't me, I'd tell him that his inputs and work is valuable. I'd remind him that he has a unique story and perspective to share. His work is meaningful because he's honing his skills and learning to help those around him. This is a process, and he's getting better.

Sadly, it is me.

While I don't use Pinterest, I can relate to the overwhelmed feeling of finding 1,000 reasons why I'm failing at all things domestic... minus the domestic part. I don't much try in that department. But the feelings spill over into my blogging and spiritual life, my hobbies and work, my relationships and marriage. It's so easy to become discouraged when I compare myself to others.

Hat Tip
Adina

The funny thing about this is that the reason we do the comparing is because we're concerned about others. We want to provide our family with more color and interest. We want to be a better spouse. We long to love our friends--and enemies--better. We're not doing this for ourselves!

If this was just about me, I'd be content. I'd move at my own pace and do the things that interest me. But there are people out there whom I hope to bless, to build up, to spur on to bigger and better things. They are the people I feel I'm letting down by not being enough.

But as April reminds us in her post: Your children want you. See, becoming a better person and developing skills is great, but what I need to somehow understand is that the people I so often try to do things for care more about being with me.

I don't understand it. But I can see it in action with how I feel about my friends and family. And April describes this desire to be with the people we love beautifully when she talks about her mom in the post.

By all means, get encouragement and ideas from blogs and forums and friends and the creative spaces on the internet. But when you start to feel like failure, go give your family a hug and spend some time with them.

You ever get overwhelmed by all the amazing things you can find on the internet?

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Empty Nester

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Why Believe Christianity?

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In an encounter in Acts, the Apostle Paul is accused of being out of his mind. Paul replies, "I am not insane ... What I am saying is true and reasonable" (Acts 26:25, NIV).

As a former atheist, I had to come to terms with a lot of issues before accepting Christ and realizing that Christianity makes a lot of sense. I recently completed a unique apologetics book that will address the case for and against Christianity via a series of diagrams and accompanying commentary. (Christian apologetics, by the way, is the rational defense of the faith.)

One chapter makes the claim that Christianity is the best explanation of reality and offers six key lines of evidence in its support. First, truth is objective and we can know reality. Second, God exists and has revealed himself. Third, the Bible is reliable. Fourth, Christ rose from the dead. Fifth, Christianity best explains reality. Sixth, religious experience supports Christianity.

These aren't the only reasons Christianity is "true and reasonable." Also, keep in mind that these evidences can work together to make an overall case for Christianity. In other words, each point need not be in isolation from other lines of evidence.

In the chapter, after making a case for each point, I go on to offer several objections to those six premises. This helps see arguments from different perspectives, which can help strengthen our own position as we think through criticisms of ideas we believe are true. I then offer rebuttals to the objections.

I also present diagrams and arguments from opposing viewpoints, which puts me in the position of having to defend the claims of atheists or pantheists, for instance. Some of those topics include the claims that since evil exists, God does not exist, or the arguument that belief in God is delusional.

The idea is to help us think critically about ideas and see that there are many different viewpoints to consider and evaluate. There's a great and relevant quote in the C.S. Lewis novel That Hideous Strength. One character remarks, "I suppose there are two views about everything." Another replies, "Eh? Two views? There are a dozen views about everything until you know the answer. Then there's never more than one."

One of my tasks as a curriculum writer at Sonlight is to help children think through all kinds of ideas, even if those ideas may clash with existing viewpoints. This is especially crucial as children get older, but it's a good idea to start early. Our goal at Sonlight is to educate, not indoctrinate. This means giving children the information they need to grow in their faith and equipping them to wrestle intelligently with ideas.

Why believe Christianity? It's "true and reasonable." We have good evidence in support of its claims. But this doesn't mean we can just ignore the objections. Fortunately, we have good answers!

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It's a Good Friday

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If you follow my Other Posts of Note, you may have already seen the Sunday's Coming video. And, as I was reminded again this morning: Good Friday is only good in retrospect.

This week has been long and difficult. But today, here at the end of the work week, things seem to have finally started to slow down. The website cart appears fairly stable. The new homeschool curriculum is available. We've posted most of the 3-Week Samples. And aside from a couple of feature requests and mild tweaks, Sonia is working great!

But all that--the ups and the downs--pales in comparison to the reminder of what today is. Today is Good Friday, and Sunday is Easter. On the one hand, I'm a little bummed more people don't produce Easter Albums like they do for Christmas. I'm a little bothered that we don't have more songs relating to this incredibly important holiday. I sometimes wonder why this isn't an official holiday.

...on the other hand, this is a good thing: We haven't commercialized this one. The somber reminders and the holy joy we experience hasn't been overshadowed by ritual, routine, and self-focus. This isn't about us. This is about what Christ has done because of His great love for us. We're in the picture, to be sure, but our eyes are still drawn to Christ on the cross and the empty tomb we celebrate on Sunday.

This is a good Friday, even if we do end up with more technical glitches. This is a Good Friday because of what Christ has done!

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Empty Nester

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Behind the Scenes: Why we revamped the 2012 IGs

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It all began with Wayne. He took a long, hard look at Sonlight's Instructor's Guides and wondered if they had become a bit complex over the years. Were they truly the straightforward, easy-to-use homeschool guides we intended them to be?

That led to many discussions between Wayne, me, the Sonlight team and current homeschool moms. We ultimately decided to spend 2011 revising the IGs. We took what made the IGs great and reformatted the Core A-G IGs to make them (we hope!) much easier to use.

With these updated guides on the website now, the Sonlight team created a "behind-the-scenes" story surrounding the update. Be sure to check out our YouTube channel to see the video; if you like skipping the introductory parts, the explanation begins at 1:26.

May God bless your faithfulness as you continue to teach your precious children! And may the coming year be your best one yet.

Sincerely,
Sarita Holzmann

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