Becoming Comfortable with Questions

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He's one of those brilliant types. He works and takes college courses like "Philosophy of Law and Ethics" for fun. He's also one of those infuriating people who is good at every game he plays, whether a traditional board game or on a computer. I'm pretty sure he also never feels the need to sleep. He rejected religion a long time ago. I think a big part of this is that no one could answer his difficult questions.

He has a lot of questions now.

Sitting at my sturdy dining room table, his mind connecting thoughts I haven't even considered yet, he's easily two steps ahead of me. We're discussing a hot political issue making waves through the media right now. I'm doing my best to keep the conversation going in a straight line rather than spinning off into ever murkier waters. The water is muddy enough as it is.

There's finally a lull.

"Can you produce an argument for your position without God?" he asks.

I'm confused. "I just did. I didn't mention God or the Bible in any of what I said."

It's his turn to be confused. He sits there replaying the conversation. He doesn't acknowledge my point. "But when we get done talking like this, it's like we agree with each other."

I laugh. "We do. When we're talking about the same thing, we agree. The problem is that we come at stuff with two different presuppositions. These assumptions about reality make it so we ultimately disagree."

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Asking Questions

Before last night, I don't think this young man had discussed this topic with a Christian. He constantly peppered me with questions soaked in the bias of today's misaligned portrayal of Christian beliefs. Again and again I found myself reminding him, "I never suggested that. What I did say was...."

I relish the opportunity to address questions. But it makes me sad to see so many super intelligent people -- mostly guys in my experience -- who have walked away from the "hogwash" of religion because no one bothered to discuss difficult issues with them. Hard questions are not comfortable. There aren't always great answers. There are few rock solid responses. But since what we believe is true, we can be comfortable with the uncertainty of our understanding.

Sonlight prepared me for this beautifully.

First, Sonlight showed me that life-long learning is a good thing. If I'm still learning, it's okay not to know everything. It's good to seek out new understanding. We should welcome opportunities to discover new things about the world. Questions provide an excellent way to challenge our current assumptions and give us a chance to see if there is more to learn.

Second, Sonlight demonstrated the benefits of discussion. As we read books and talked about them, we unearthed huge and important ideas. Suddenly, a silly story about speeding becomes an opportunity to talk about authority and responsibility. Taking the time to talk things through is a worthy pursuit.

Third, Sonlight urged me to learn about why we believe what we believe. This necessitates that we also consider why others do not believe what we believe. Once we have begun to truly understand the issue at hand, discussion becomes possible and even interesting!

In this coming year, may we all become more comfortable with questions.

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Guardian

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God uses ordinary people to change the world

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I think Mary and Joseph were pretty ordinary people. Or at least they looked like it from the outside. But God used them in an extraordinary way. Why?

For starters, God chose them. And we can never guess whom He is going to choose. But I also imagine that both Mary and Joseph had practiced following God in the small things their whole lives. So when their big call came, they were ready to say yes and follow. Obeying God was already a normal part of their lives.

Or consider Noah. I wonder if God asked him to build the ark because Noah had already lived a long life of faithfulness in the small things. He did not simply go his own way and then suddenly receive this huge, world-changing call. Noah was ready to hear and respond when God called him to something drastic because he was used to hearing and responding in small steps of faithfulness.

Jesus teaches that trustworthiness in small things prepares one to be trusted with larger responsibility. He gives examples of trustworthiness with small amounts of money:

"Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things." –Matthew 25:21 (from the Parable of Talents)
"Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much." –Luke 16:10 (from the Parable of the Shrewd Manager)

Sonlight seeks to inspire students to follow God in the small things so that they are ready when God asks of them the big things. That's why we read so many biographies about ordinary heroes such as Gladys Aylward, Mary Slessor and William Carey.

The Hiding Place is one of my favorite examples of this. Corrie ten Boom was just an ordinary Dutch woman following Christ. When the story opens, readers see her make daily choices to follow and obey when the stakes aren't high. So when the unthinkable happens (when the Nazis invade) and the stakes are very high, Corrie is ready. She continues to follow God step by step. And when you look at her story as a whole, she is clearly a hero who helped transform her world.

May we follow God in the small things each day. And may we and our children be ready to follow when God asks of us something big!

Blessings,
Sarita

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Changes

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treeChristmas has snuck up on me this year. My family is in the middle of an unexpected cross-country move, so our focus has been more on working out all the details involved in that, and not so much on the holidays.  Many things will be different when we move, and I'm having a hard time emotionally accepting all the changes. Yet my husband and I can clearly see God's leading in our lives, so I am trying to trust that He will continue to work out all the details in the way that would be His best for us.

Yesterday, as I was packing, I listened to a radio adaptation of my all-time favorite movie, It's a Wonderful Life. George Bailey's life didn't exactly go according to his plans and dreams, but as Clarence the Angel showed him what Bedford Falls would have been like if he had never been born, he began to see just how much of an impact he had had on his family and community. Seemingly small choices can have long-lasting repercussions that we never even think about.

I thought back on my life and could see certain times when I "just happened" to be in the right place at the right time... not because I had planned it that way, but because God did.

This week in my devotions I've been reading the Christmas story from Luke. If there was anyone who ever had to deal with completely unexpected changes it was Mary! Can you imagine? A young bride-to-be planning her wedding and her new home... and then Gabriel shows up.

Somehow the changes in my life don't seem so major any more. And so, for the next few hours I'm going to try to "rest beside the weary road and hear the angels sing."

Then, it's back to packing!

Enjoying the adventure,
~Karla Cook
Lifelong Learner

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A Season for Helping ...

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In the wee hours of Sunday morning, some good friends of ours lost their home to fire. They and their four young children were able to escape quite literally with only the clothing on their backs. The family is infinitely grateful to God for sparing their lives, but obviously is in need of many material items.

I've had the privilege of over-seeing fund-raising and donation efforts on their behalf this week. In such a capacity, you meet and interact with multitudes of people ... all with different personalities and viewpoints on life. It has caused my husband and I to talk quite a bit about the best way for *us* to respond and offer to help folks who encounter tragedy in their lives. We, quite naturally, have encountered many wonderfully giving folks, and a few here and there who rubbed our feathers the wrong way. As a result, I decided to do a little research into what the "experts" might have to offer on the etiquette of giving to those in need.

The Trauma Intervention Program is a national organization that trains volunteers to provide emotional aid and practical support to victims of a variety of tragic circumstances. They have created a wonderful web site titled Helping Others When Tragedy Strikes. It is full of very practical and helpful suggestions for reaching out to others in times of great need. A couple of points made on their site really resonated with us this past week as we found ourselves working with so many wonderfully giving folks.

What is not easy for the helper is to meet the needs of the survivor and not his own needs.  All human beings are filled with values, beliefs, strengths, weaknesses, opinions and prejudices.  These are characteristics which make us unique individuals. However, they also get in our way when we try to help. So, a basic core challenge for you as a helper will be to put all your “stuff” aside and to focus on what is best for the survivor.

What a wonderful reminder that helping someone else isn't about me at all! If someone I'm hoping to help doesn't return a phone call or email right away, or doesn't seem appreciative enough of what I've done, I need to remember that it isn't about me.

The importance of a Caring DemeanorYour overall gentle, quiet caring demeanor is the most important part of being an effective helper. Survivors often don’t hear what you say or see what you do, but they will sense your overall caring presence. Before “rushing in” to help a survivor take time to take your “everyday personality” off, and put on the caring demeanor described here. Before helping, take time to calm yourself and to remind yourself that the person you are going to help needs your calmness and your caring presence above all else.

This was an important point for me to recognize. I'm not too bad on thinking about *what* I'm going to say before I open my mouth, but I don't always pay a great deal of attention to *how* I'm going to say it. I think this point is closely related to the other I mentioned ... what I say and how I say it can be so totally self-focused if I'm not careful.

Jesus reminded His disciples that Whoever wants to be first must take last place and be the servant of everyone else.  (Mark 9:35) And Paul reminds us Don't be selfish, don't try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. (Philippians 2:3)

I think the most valuable lesson I've learned this week is that the best way for me to meet the needs of another, is to remove "self" from the picture. A true servant's attitude means that whatever I do is accomplished with no expectation of acknowledgement or something in return. That everything I do is done with the other person in mind. Whew ... that's mighty challenging!

In this season of giving, please allow me to challenge you to consider "how" you give. I have been very thankful for this recent opportunity to consider my motivation and responses as I reach out to help some friends. Some of what I found as I searched my heart surprised me.

Merry Christmas!
~Judy Wnuk
Sonlight Customer Champion

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From Luke's Inbox: A for Effort

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I adjunct for a junior college. Many of my students are single moms. They may not do as well as the other students on tests, but they are often working 20 to 40 hours a week, taking care of kids by themselves, and still taking colleges courses. They may work much harder than the other students, but that isn't reflected in test scores. I wish there was some way to assign a grade for effort. Suggestions?

First, I recommend you check out my post that spells out what I see as the big picture in grading. Short, short version: Help your students love learning, give them ample opportunity, and grading becomes rather meaningless. Stick to pass/fail if you must do something (and let them constantly work toward passing). In this system, as long as a student wants to learn, they are rewarded. Students who don't need the course move onward. And students who are not interested in learning don't skate by on a technicality.

Second, I think we muddy the waters when we try to make grades about effort. The saying "A for effort" is ironic for more than just the single-syllable pseudo-homophone. This problem arises when we try to make grades about both measuring performance and motivating involvement (the first two of the three reasons most people grade stuff). These are two separate goals, and sometimes at odds with one another. Sure, we like to believe that trying equates to positive outcome. But that is simply not how the world works. In fact, in our "try, try again" mindset, we sometimes forget that our endless attempts will not necessarily produce our desired results (as in failed business). Often times it "merely" takes thousands of attempts to figure something out (as with the light bulb). How do we reconcile our goals? Let's start by stating them clearly:

  1. We want to adequately track how a student is progressing. In a perfect world, a student with an A is rocking, a student right in line with the average has a C, and the students who are simply not getting it are stamped with an F. But we all know this is not how the school system usually works. The goal is that every student has an A -- meaning, they are complying with the work and testing -- and only poor students earn Cs by refusing to turn in homework. Grades are not the best method for this. Attention to each individual student gives a much clearer picture of where they are with the content. And for those who don't test well, they are not given a false stigma of stupidity.
  2. We want to encourage a strong work ethic. In this approach, every student who puts forth effort has an A, those who don't stay on task get a B, the student who lollygags gets a C, and those who don't show up or turn anything in earn an F. This falls apart if a student is spread too thin or, far more frequently, finds the notion of a mark on a paper little incentive to go too all the effort of staying awake in the desk. History has clearly shown that this system fails to equip genius, pushes kids who need more time to abandon education, and rewards compliance over learning.

Bringing it all together now, the only grading mechanism I know that fits both of these goals is the binary Pass/Fail with the chance to try again and again and again. This is really what we want people to learn. We want them to keep trying until they get it right. Anything less is rather useless in the real world. The fact that semesters and grade levels don't accommodate that is a fault and flaw of the school system.

Third, I wonder if we need to create specific awards that reflect our actual goals. I have sports awards for MVP, Personal Bests, Leadership, Most Improved, and more. With these we can speak directly to a student's specific situation, reward the things we actually care about, and promote the practices we want to encourage.

Sonlight revolutionized home education. Our literature-based approach to learning continues to dominate homeschool curriculum. Why? In part because we focus on learning and not testing, grades, or other arbitrary measurements. Our goal is to instill a love of learning. With that foundation, students will succeed.

If you're looking for a homeschool curriculum that you and your students are guaranteed to love, it's time to discover Sonlight.

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Guardian

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Math: A Reason to Homeschool

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It's 11:13 at night. My bedtime has slumped over in the corner somewhere, too tired to continue begging me to sleep. My cousin and I are working through her math homework. We've just encountered an equation with imaginary numbers.

"Do you remember going over imaginary numbers in class?" I ask.

She shakes her head dubiously. I'm pretty sure she's never even heard of imaginary numbers before now. Calvin and Hobbes had, thankfully, introduced me to them years ago. It's been awhile, but I think I'm up for it.

"What number times itself equals -1?" I ask.

Her blank stare continues.

Five minutes later she's at least giving me a halfhearted nod when I show her the square root of negative one squared. And as we finally head off to bed -- her promising to visit her math teacher so she can explain the math problems that I couldn't figure out as the clock nudged itself toward midnight -- I realize that math is yet another reason to homeschool.

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Imaginary Numbers

With math, you can teach it the first time.

As homeschoolers, we can camp on or return to a topic as long and often as a student needs. The classroom requires that we waste students' time. Incomprehensible homework is the embodiment of this inefficiency. I have to learn this content anyway so I can teach it to my student. It would have been better to just teach her math from the start.

Plus, I could have purchased a math curriculum that actually solves each problem for me, step by step. Instead, my tax dollars purchased this pathetic textbook that provides zero explanation for the majority of the problems in the chapter. It's maddening.

I've had people ask me how homeschoolers teach advanced subjects like Calculus. Jill has a great response to new homeschoolers who know they don't know everything. But for the incredulous toward home education, let me say this: I have to teach my student many of her math lessons because the teacher failed to do so. I'm not saying her teacher is bad at her job. But whatever the cause -- lack of time, resources, opportunity, skill, or observation -- students all over this great country are required to learn this stuff at home. I think they'd have a higher success rate if you were there to help them.

Enter homeschooling.

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Guardian

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Grades: Measure, Motivate, Monitor?

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Apparently the median grade at Harvard is an A-. For me, this begs the question -- yet again -- why do we have grades? What is their purpose or function?

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Report Card

I see three possibilities off the top:

  1. Grades measure how a student performs
  2. Grades motivate students to work harder
  3. Grades monitor how a teacher is doing

If grades measure a student's performance, I find them detrimental to learning. Students who already know the material do best in these situations, and so those with the highest grade are those who lease need the course. That seems backward. Conversely, those students who have the most to learn are penalized unless they are able to, at the moment of examination, demonstrate a complete grasp of the content. Again, if the purpose of a course is to teach students new skills or knowledge, measuring performance is the wrong way to go about things.

If grades are to be a carrot to lure students onward, I find them deleterious to learning. For those of us who care about grades, we focus on the grade and ignore the opportunities to push ourselves. I played the grade game and won, but to an unknown loss in high school. For those who realize the grade game is stupid and opt-out, there is no other motivation to learn in the system. It is designed to offer a single reward, and if we don't want it, there is no reason to bother. My wife, as well as many of my friends, all experienced this demotivation.

If grades provide a way to monitor teacher performance, they have proven destructive to learning. I've read numerous reports of teachers and school districts cheating on tests to raise scores. The teachers I know are furious and frustrated that they are more and more required to "teach to the test" instead of doing their jobs. That system is broken. It pushes teachers to want to hand out As so everyone thinks their students are doing great. This is, it appears, Harvard.

Better, by far in my observation, to dispense with grades altogether. As homeschoolers, we get to focus on instilling a love of learning, a desire for knowledge, and a passion for getting things right. We don't need to play games or find external motivations or artificial ways to validate the work we do.

So keep up the good work!

Standardized tests can be a great way to find areas of struggle and help you refocus your efforts. Your student may really enjoy positive feedback as you mark work complete. And I think it is a great idea to celebrate accomplishments.

But let's do one better than Harvard and focus on learning and not some skewed grading system.

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Guardian

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