How to Cherish Even the Mundane Seasons of Homeschooling

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How to Cherish Even the Mundane Seasons of Homeschooling

Throughout the Bible, God’s people were instructed to remember God’s past blessings, and were urged to teach their children to know previous triumphs and victories, too. “Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way,” admonishes Deuteronomy eight, verse two, following closely on the heels of Exodus thirteen’s command to teach children about the delivery from Pharaoh's army. The Psalmist echoes in praise, “I will remember the deeds of the Lord; yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago.”

I don’t know about you, but I’m really skilled at forgetting blessings. Like the Israelites of old, I’m prone to amnesia the minute the Red Sea closes behind me, focusing on my mundane duties instead. As you probably know, in a homeschool mom's life, there are a lot of routine tasks, begging to take our focus away from what matters.

So how do we

  • keep our eyes on Jesus,
  • rise above the monotony,
  • truly cherish the season we’re in, and
  • not lose sight of our children in the process?

How do we cherish even the mundane seasons of homeschooling?

When We Don’t Feel Like Cherishing the Season, We Can Cherish our Children

There are some days—or even weeks and months—I don’t feel like cherishing. You, too? But when we don’t feel like cherishing the day, the chore, or the situation, we can still cherish our children.

Nothing takes me from drudgery to joy like lifting my eyes up from whatever task I’m engrossed in, to really see my daughter for the pure miracle that she is. And this doesn’t apply only to our duties as homeschool moms, either. I think there’s a parallel there for our relationship with Christ, too. We can get so lost in doing things for God, we forget to rejoice in God.

But there is deliverance awaiting us in God’s simple commands to remember and give thanks.

When We Feel Lost in the Season, Gratitude Will Transform our Attitude

Thankfulness holds miraculous power, doesn’t it? One of the best ways to

  • keep our perspective in the right place,
  • cultivate a thankful heart, and
  • carry on through challenging times

is to actively and intentionally thank God for the wonders He has wrought in our lives.

While there’s nothing wrong with quiet contemplation, it’s especially poignant to say, write, or draw exactly what we’re thankful for.

And that’s why I just love the new Memory Book from Sonlight: it tackles my short-sighted memory and my forgetful faith head-on. It helps me cherish even the mundane seasons of homeschooling.

When We Know We’ll Forget the Season, We Should Document the Good

After a year with many ups and downs—include an unexpected, disrupting move—the prompts in this printable keepsake book opened my eyes to

  • blessings I’d overlooked,
  • progress I didn’t even realize we’d made, and
  • memories I would have forgotten.

How wonderful!

It’s almost as though the Memory Book is in step with the Psalmist in chapter 102, verses eighteen and twenty-one: “Write this down for the next generation, so people not yet born will praise God... Write it so the story can be told in Zion, so God’s praise will be sung in Jerusalem’s streets.” “Bless God”, he continues in the next chapter, “Don’t forget a single blessing.” (The Message translation)

Don’t forget a single blessing.

How to Cherish Even the Mundane Seasons of Homeschooling

When life tries to trick me into believing that our read-aloud time is just a box to be checked, the Memory Book reminds me the hours I invest are making an eternal impact. There’s lifelong significance in not just these powerful Sonlight stories, but in all the time we spent together, too.

How to Cherish Even the Mundane Seasons of Homeschooling

When life does its best to tell me the skills I’m teaching are going in one year and out the other, the Memory Book reminds me just how much learning has happened. (It’s so easy to miss the forest for the trees, isn’t it?)

When the clocks and the calendars tell me I’m behind, and I’m tempted to focus more on scope and sequence than on love, the Memory Book reminds me of the relationships we’re strengthening in our homeschool.

How to Cherish Even the Mundane Seasons of Homeschooling

When I wonder if the multiplication tables are ever going to stick, and we all lament how the erasers have worn a hole in the paper, the Memory Book reminds me that in the end, it’s about so much more.

Meditating on our blessings is powerful, isn’t it? There’s a transformative, life-altering purpose behind God’s instruction to remember and give thanks. Won’t you join me in obeying God’s command to recall what God has done, write it down for the next generation (in your Memory Book!), and rejoice along with the Psalmist—“The Lord has done great things for us, and we are filled with joy.” (Psalm 126:3)

Get a copy of the Memory Book and document the fun memories of your homeschool year.

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5 Types of Hands-On Projects and Extras Perfect for Sonlight

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While some kids want just the facts, other children love to reinforce homeschool lessons by doing hands-on projects, crafts, lap books, and other extension activities. Here are five types of extras that work brilliantly with Sonlight's literature-based curriculum.

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Saying Yes: How to Enjoy a Flexible Homeschool Schedule

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There’s no question that one of the biggest perks to homeschooling is having a flexible schedule that allows you to take advantage of life’s opportunities during traditional school hours:

  • Going to a local park on a sunny weekday morning in the middle of winter.
  • Visiting a museum with discounted admission on the slow days.
  • Taking a family vacation to a theme park in the off season.
  • Scrapping math and science for the day in favor of baking cookies and watching a movie together.

You get the idea.

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Saying No Creates Boundaries of Freedom for Your Homeschool

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Your kids are using curriculum that couldn’t be a better fit for them. You love the church you attend and are heavily involved in serving and participating in activities there. The weekly meeting with a friend is a great source of accountability. Your family has made good friends in a local homeschool group. The sports, clubs, and lessons your kids are involved are benefiting them in obvious ways. You’re being diligent to hit the gym or exercise at home. Hospitality is something your family practices by regularly inviting people to your home. You’re leading live groups and moderating online ones.

You’re grateful for and value all the things happening in your life, yet you find yourself becoming increasingly resentful, crying or yelling over everything and nothing, and not enjoying anything or anyone like you used to. What gives?

When You Can’t Do All That Matters, Do What Matters Most

If you’re at all like me, you probably need to start saying no to some good things. “But I can’t!” you protest.

I know; I know. Saying no is impossible.

  • The world will fall apart if you stop being the first to volunteer when people ask for help.
  • Your kids will shrivel up and die if they scale back on extracurriculars and don’t get every box checked in the Instructor's Guide.
  • You’ll lose all your friends if you don’t get together as frequently as you have in the past.

It’s much better to keep everything the way it is, even though you’re falling apart because of it. Right?

Wrong.

Everyone has to pick and choose which opportunities are worth their time and energy, a difficult task that becomes more complicated and important as a parent. Throw homeschooling in the mix and you have a recipe for disaster if you’re overcommitted.

Why? Because a parent with too much on her plate is not a pleasant person to be around, and a homeschool family is around each other more than the average family.

Some seasons of life are unavoidably busier than others, and we have to choose a positive attitude when that’s the case. However, if you know a change is in order, but you don’t know where to start with saying no because everything matters to you, I encourage you to do two things.

How to Say No and Establish Boundaries for Your Homeschool

First, pray about saying no. Ask the Lord for wisdom as you figure out the best way to manage your time. Second, make a list of all your commitments. Sometimes the simple act of writing it all down clarifies what should be eliminated. If there’s no instant clarity, just let the list sit for a while and keep praying about it.

Where you go from there is up to you:

  • Have a family discussion where everyone has a say in what happens.
  • Consider which commitments you’d stick with if you could only choose five.
  • Take a three-month break from a particular commitment and see if you miss it.
  • Ask for help with tasks that don’t have to be done by only one person.

There’s no one right way to move forward.

The Choices are Worth the Sacrifice of Saying No

The way saying no looks in your life may not be the same as it does in another home, and it may not look the same in your home a year from now as it does now. But that’s fine. Your commitment to homeschooling requires you to prioritize your other obligations in a way that doesn’t sabotage your family or your sanity. Your role as a homeschool parent requires you to pass up opportunities you’d enjoy but which make homeschooling harder for your family.

These tough choices are worthwhile. There are only 24 hours in a day, and there’s no way any of us can do all the things we’d like to. So figure out what matters most to you now, in the season of homeschooling you find yourself, and say no to everything else—guilt free. It may be a forever no, or it may be merely a season of no.  Either way, saying no to avoidable stress is a boundary that gives you freedom to full immerse yourself in and enjoy the here and now.

If you are considering a new direction for your children’s education, and could use an empathetic ear, we have experienced homeschooling moms who would love to talk to you. Click here to schedule an appointment.

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The Easy Change That Made Sonlight Work for My Son with ADHD

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The Easy Change That Made Sonlight Work for My Son with ADHD

My son has always been one of those boys who simply can't sit still. I mean more than average activity; I mean he is constantly moving! Thus, his diagnosis of ADHD wasn't a huge surprise to me. Official label or not, I knew that to be successful with homeschooling him, I would need to implement engaging hands-on lessons. At the same time, I also wanted to use a literature-based curriculum like Sonlight.

When picturing yourself homeschooling with a pile of books, you envision sitting on the couch, children nestled up to you, listening attentively. I knew this would not be the case with my son, so I would need to find ways to make read aloud time work with his ADHD.

Kids with ADHD Need to Move

One of the many lessons I've learned while homeschooling is to get over my son's need to move his body.  Everything about his tendency goes against my nature. I don't need to fidget to learn. In fact, it distracts me from listening.  Sitting still comes naturally to me, so anything else seems unnatural.

Truth is, kids with ADHD focus much better when they keep their body moving.

Let me tell you, accepting this fact drove me crazy at times! Early in our homeschooling days, I was constantly saying things like "Sit down." and "Put that down." I thought that if he was pacing around or playing with something, he wasn't listening. If he wasn't listening, he must not be learning, either.

I've come to realize, however, that quite the opposite is true.  My son will listen much better if I allow him to do something with his hands during school. Even though it might go against everything I personally experience in regards to paying attention and listening, moving about is actually a benefit for kids like him.

The Easy Change That Made Sonlight Work for My Son with ADHD

Read Aloud Time

If you are at all familiar with Sonlight, you know the curriculum is literature-rich. This was both a selling point and a concern when it came to my son's ADHD.

The selling point was that I knew textbook-style learning was not working with him. Been there, done that, and it wasn't pleasant.

My concern was one I suspect most ADHD parents have: How in the world are you going to successfully homeschool with a literature-based curriculum while your child is literally bouncing off the walls and furniture?

I used to make my son sit next to me or on my lap during read aloud time. He wasn't enjoying it. Even worse, he had no idea what I just read to him. If I were to ask him questions about what we just read, he would have no clue how to answer. It was frustrating to say the least. Neither of us were enjoying read aloud time until I started to have a better understanding of ADHD.

When I let him do small activities during our American history read aloud time, it made a dramatic difference in his listening and comprehension. I felt he was completely ignoring me, and I had to learn how to accept the fact that he wasn't sitting still. But it turns out movement is key to helping him focus and by extension learn.

Fidget Ideas for Read-Alouds

The thing to keep in mind when allowing your child stay in motion is they don't need to be large movements. Small, simple movements are usually enough to keep my son focused.

Coloring is a great activity to do during reading time, especially when you can find coloring books which reinforce the subject you're reading about. Coloring the timeline figures is another great option.

I'm really excited about Sonlight's addition of hands-on activities to some elementary levels this year. When there are lap book assignments with the day's reading, my son can be working on the cutting while I read.

At other times, petting the dog, playing with small fidget toys, or assembling LEGO is enough to help him focus.

Sonlight Works for ADHD with Accommodations

You might find yourself going through a period of trial and error to see what works for your child. The key here is to let go of your preconceived ideas that children need to sit still in order to be actively listening. We need to allow them some movement.

Trust me. It might take you some time to not be bothered by their movements; however, everyone will be happier in the long run when movement is allowed.

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4 Reasons to Read Books That Might Make Your Kids (and You) Cry

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4 Reasons to Read Books That Might Make Your Kids (and You) Cry

If you are a family that spends a lot of time reading aloud, you have probably found at least a few books that caused tears. Book after book we read each afternoon, my kids have learned the sob routine. Nearing the last few chapters, or during an emotional climax in the middle of the story, they start watching me to see if I am crying yet. Usually I am. As the heartbreaking story unfolds, the tears are guaranteed to come, often from my kiddos as well.

Just when I thought I couldn’t cry any harder at a story than the ending of Little Britches, the next afternoon I picked up A Letter To Mrs Roosevelt and was crying within the first chapter. The truth is I am a deep feeler; I cannot help but immerse myself in the mind of a character when I hear a story whether it is for the happy or sad. Many an afternoon I now find myself consoling a child after a tough storyline we’ve just had a good cry over.

The books in our Sonlight curriculum packages have a special way of pulling our heartstrings and evoking strong emotion:

  • hilarious laughs in Happy Times in Noisy Village
  • fear of the mysterious unknown in Red Sails to Capri
  • shame over hurtful gossip in The Hundred Dresses
  • intense sadness in Little Britches
  • building anticipation in The Great Wheel

It is easy to understand why we would read books that make us laugh, but what about the books that make us cry? Here are four reasons to read books that may make your children cry.

1. Encourage Empathy

A truly good story makes everything about it seem completely real, allowing you to fully immerse yourself into the characters, the surroundings, and the storyline. When our kids learn to do this with character in a book, it becomes natural for them to do this in real life, with real people. We begin to wonder what it would really feel like to go through the loss of a family member, have a close friend move away, run out of money to pay for the family home, lose a pet, or have a mother become so sick the kids have to take over her care.

Raising kids who feel empathy towards others is a priority of my homeschool. I am glad we are empowered to learn this skill with books in our hands and hearts.

2. Process Emotions

My 10 year old, Dreaming Daughter, is just becoming a tween, so we have been talking a lot about our feelings lately. Emotions have been running a bit wild in our home! I tell her that there is nothing wrong with feeling emotions, but what we do with emotions is what counts. Emotions are a powerful tool God can use to do His work but only if we seek Him to direct us the way we should go. If we use our emotions only for our own selfish desires, we won’t get ourselves anywhere good.

I want to raise children who are world changers; that is very difficult if we raise kids who are numb to the emotions that the Lord is stirring up in their hearts. God gave us a gift when He created us with emotions. When we feel deeply, we are more likely to act. Sadness can often lead us to reach out to someone in need with true action. Opening our home to someone who is lonely, bringing bibles to those who have none, speaking a word of encouragement to a friend, or passing out food to the vulnerable are all acts inspired first by thinking of those who are hurting.

3. Inspire Gratitude

Have you ever had the same conversation nearly a hundred times with your child about being thankful and felt like you are not seeing any heart change? I have felt stuck as a parent many times especially when it comes to raising kids who are grateful for all they have. We want to raise children who don’t feel entitled, but how do we get them to grasp gratitude deep in their hearts?

One way to inspire gratefulness is to read books about those who are less fortunate. Reading A Letter to Mrs Roosevelt in History/Bible/Literature E has given my kids a perspective on growing up during The Great Depression. I knew something changed when Dreaming Daughter told me she would give us all her allowance if our house were ever in danger of foreclosure.

4. Grant Courage

On the other side of tears are moments of defining courage. Sad times come, but what do the characters in the story do in those hard times? Typically an unlikely hero emerges from terrible circumstances, and we can take heart. If a boy like Ralph Moody from Little Britches, can step in to some of the toughest of circumstances, only to step out a man, what can we gather the courage to do?

As parents we need to prepare our kids to face the world with courage because they have their own hard times to get through. Some of us may be currently homeschooling through a hard time or unanswered prayers. Have confidence that these stories will stick with them through hard times and remind them that after a good cry, we can be brave.

After all, your kids are a character in their own story, a story mapped out by our Creator God. We can take whatever sad things come our way and turn it into something that gives God glory as our story unfolds.

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How to See Beauty in Unexpected Places: Lessons from “Cornstalks”

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Lessons We Learned from “Cornstalks: A Bushel of Poems”

I am a lover of poetry. My daughter, on the other hand, is very literal. Her mind is scientific and pragmatic, and while she can—and does—memorize how to properly use idioms, she doesn’t have an intuitive sense for poetic language. When we worked through the (delightful!) Grade 2 Readers, I taught her how to systematically pause after each line break when reading the Surprises poems aloud. Struck by the mathematical cadence present in the rhymed couplets and verses, she declared she loved poetry.

Poetry Doesn’t Need to Rhyme

Surprises won a place of honor on the “books we’ll never sell” shelf, and we finished our Grade 2 Readers far, far ahead of schedule. But when we opened Cornstalks: A Bushel of Poems later (note, this title has been replaced with 104 Poems of Whimsy and Wisdom to Delight Children of All Ages), my daughter exclaimed, “This isn’t poetry! It doesn’t even rhyme!”

As I quickly explained, a poem is not the same as a rhyme. While some poetry does contain rhyming words, a poem is not defined by corresponding ending sounds—or lack thereof. Instead, I told her, poetry helps us see beauty which might not have occurred to us before.

Poetry Teaches Us to See Beauty in Unexpected Places

In the classic book Red Sails to Capri, the local innkeepers’ son Michele leads beauty-seeking artist Lord Derby on a steep hike up to a lookout point high on the Mediterranean island. After waiting for Lord Derby to reveal what he’d painted en plein air on the canvas, Michele gasps.

“There was no sea, no sky, no cliffs.

‘The steps,’ he gasped. ‘You painted a picture of the steps to Anacapri.’

Lord Derby nodded, well pleased with himself. ‘Do you like my picture?’

Michele nodded slowly. ‘Yes. Only—

‘Only what?’

…‘I never thought they were beautiful at all. I thought they were ugly.’

‘Perhaps you have never looked at them before.’

‘Looked at them? I have looked at them a thousand times.’

‘Sometimes we never see the things we look at the most often.’”

Cornstalks is a treasure because it enables us to see—to really see—ordinary things we look at all the time.

Poetry Nudges Us to Notice Small Details

What poet Laureate Billy Collins does for adults in his exquisite poem Litany, James Stevenson does for children in Cornstalks. In Litany—you’ve read this extraordinary work, right?—Billy Collins calls us to turn our eyes toward

  • the bread,
  • the white apron,
  • the boots in the corner, and
  • the “evening paper blowing down an alley”.

In Cornstalks, Stevenson invites us to celebrate

  • the little decorative toothpick in the diner sandwich,
  • the snow-covered used car lot,
  • adhesives,
  • paint, and
  • backpacks.

I’ve heard fellow Sonlighters lament these topics make no sense, but I would argue the brilliance of these topics lies in the very fact they are ordinary. “Most children have probably observed a used car lot as they drive around town”, writes Amy Lykosh in the History / Bible / Literature C Instructor Guide’s introduction to Cornstalks.

As we continued to read through these poems, my daughter’s laughter grew louder and more frequent. She no longer cared which poems rhymed and which did not, and she began to delight Stevenson’s minute details. Teaching kids the worth of everyday situations—not just the vacations and mountain-top experiences—is incredibly powerful.

Poetry Teaches Us About Perspective

Poems, at their very core, allow us to see the world in new ways. You may be familiar with a popular illustration wherein two individuals are seated opposite one another, with a numeral on the table between them. “It’s a six!” one exclaims. “No, it’s a nine!” the other insists. Poet James Stevenson employs this same concept of perspective in many of his poems, demonstrating, in a light and humorous yet thought-provoking way,how the same object can express two very different meanings, depending on which way it’s viewed. These poems made my daughter laugh, but I also noticed she paused her reading, and looked around the room, her eyes thoughtfully resting on various everyday objects.

And isn’t it interesting how the skills of

  • analytical thinking,
  • problem-solving,
  • repurposing,
  • thinking outside the box, and
  • viewing a situation from all angles

are being exercised through poetry, thought Cornstalks is about as far from a STEM subject as you can get?

Poetry Encourages Us to Practice Gratitude

Gratitude, I think, is the most precious of all the lessons we learned from Cornstalks. In our daily lives, it is easy to lament all we do not have, looking with frustration at

  • the old kitchen counters,
  • the faded car upholstery,
  • the chipped mugs,
  • the worn-out jeans,
  • the tired trail worn in the carpeting, and
  • the less than glamorous neighborhood view.

We may wish for more beautiful surroundings, or even a better system for taking out the trash. But poetry—especially poems centered around everyday occurrences—reminds us joy and beauty lies at least partly in our attitude. “[Garbage] bags sit on the sidewalk,” James Stevenson writes, “dressed in black, wearing bow ties, ready for the opera.”

While we can’t walk around with our head in the clouds all the time (life is very much lived in the gritty reality down here on earth), we can absolutely

  • begin to practice the habit of gratitude,
  • look for beauty, and
  • give thanks for what we see.

Expressing thanks for simple objects like bags of trash may seem forced and awkward at first, but the practice of heaven-facing gratitude has the power to transform our entire outlook. When I complain about having to run to the corner store because I forgot an item on my grocery list, Cornstalks reminds me, “When I go to the drugstore and see how many ailments there are, I am grateful to be alive.” Poems like these drive home

  • how much value there is in every last bit of drudgery,
  • how much beauty is hidden in things we take for granted, and
  • how very much I have to be thankful for.

And by the end of the book, my daughter had begun to write her own short poems of gratitude about everyday life. (Redemption lived out, in the everyday!)

‘Your ugly steps,” says Lord Derby in Red Sails to Capri, “if I have made you see a bit of beauty in them, Michele, I am happy.”

We all have ugly steps. Cornstalks helps me see the beauty in mine.

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