A Season for Helping ...

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In the wee hours of Sunday morning, some good friends of ours lost their home to fire. They and their four young children were able to escape quite literally with only the clothing on their backs. The family is infinitely grateful to God for sparing their lives, but obviously is in need of many material items.

I've had the privilege of over-seeing fund-raising and donation efforts on their behalf this week. In such a capacity, you meet and interact with multitudes of people ... all with different personalities and viewpoints on life. It has caused my husband and I to talk quite a bit about the best way for *us* to respond and offer to help folks who encounter tragedy in their lives. We, quite naturally, have encountered many wonderfully giving folks, and a few here and there who rubbed our feathers the wrong way. As a result, I decided to do a little research into what the "experts" might have to offer on the etiquette of giving to those in need.

The Trauma Intervention Program is a national organization that trains volunteers to provide emotional aid and practical support to victims of a variety of tragic circumstances. They have created a wonderful web site titled Helping Others When Tragedy Strikes. It is full of very practical and helpful suggestions for reaching out to others in times of great need. A couple of points made on their site really resonated with us this past week as we found ourselves working with so many wonderfully giving folks.

What is not easy for the helper is to meet the needs of the survivor and not his own needs.  All human beings are filled with values, beliefs, strengths, weaknesses, opinions and prejudices.  These are characteristics which make us unique individuals. However, they also get in our way when we try to help. So, a basic core challenge for you as a helper will be to put all your “stuff” aside and to focus on what is best for the survivor.

What a wonderful reminder that helping someone else isn't about me at all! If someone I'm hoping to help doesn't return a phone call or email right away, or doesn't seem appreciative enough of what I've done, I need to remember that it isn't about me.

The importance of a Caring DemeanorYour overall gentle, quiet caring demeanor is the most important part of being an effective helper. Survivors often don’t hear what you say or see what you do, but they will sense your overall caring presence. Before “rushing in” to help a survivor take time to take your “everyday personality” off, and put on the caring demeanor described here. Before helping, take time to calm yourself and to remind yourself that the person you are going to help needs your calmness and your caring presence above all else.

This was an important point for me to recognize. I'm not too bad on thinking about *what* I'm going to say before I open my mouth, but I don't always pay a great deal of attention to *how* I'm going to say it. I think this point is closely related to the other I mentioned ... what I say and how I say it can be so totally self-focused if I'm not careful.

Jesus reminded His disciples that Whoever wants to be first must take last place and be the servant of everyone else.  (Mark 9:35) And Paul reminds us Don't be selfish, don't try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. (Philippians 2:3)

I think the most valuable lesson I've learned this week is that the best way for me to meet the needs of another, is to remove "self" from the picture. A true servant's attitude means that whatever I do is accomplished with no expectation of acknowledgement or something in return. That everything I do is done with the other person in mind. Whew ... that's mighty challenging!

In this season of giving, please allow me to challenge you to consider "how" you give. I have been very thankful for this recent opportunity to consider my motivation and responses as I reach out to help some friends. Some of what I found as I searched my heart surprised me.

Merry Christmas!
~Judy Wnuk
Sonlight Customer Champion

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From Luke's Inbox: A for Effort

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I adjunct for a junior college. Many of my students are single moms. They may not do as well as the other students on tests, but they are often working 20 to 40 hours a week, taking care of kids by themselves, and still taking colleges courses. They may work much harder than the other students, but that isn't reflected in test scores. I wish there was some way to assign a grade for effort. Suggestions?

First, I recommend you check out my post that spells out what I see as the big picture in grading. Short, short version: Help your students love learning, give them ample opportunity, and grading becomes rather meaningless. Stick to pass/fail if you must do something (and let them constantly work toward passing). In this system, as long as a student wants to learn, they are rewarded. Students who don't need the course move onward. And students who are not interested in learning don't skate by on a technicality.

Second, I think we muddy the waters when we try to make grades about effort. The saying "A for effort" is ironic for more than just the single-syllable pseudo-homophone. This problem arises when we try to make grades about both measuring performance and motivating involvement (the first two of the three reasons most people grade stuff). These are two separate goals, and sometimes at odds with one another. Sure, we like to believe that trying equates to positive outcome. But that is simply not how the world works. In fact, in our "try, try again" mindset, we sometimes forget that our endless attempts will not necessarily produce our desired results (as in failed business). Often times it "merely" takes thousands of attempts to figure something out (as with the light bulb). How do we reconcile our goals? Let's start by stating them clearly:

  1. We want to adequately track how a student is progressing. In a perfect world, a student with an A is rocking, a student right in line with the average has a C, and the students who are simply not getting it are stamped with an F. But we all know this is not how the school system usually works. The goal is that every student has an A -- meaning, they are complying with the work and testing -- and only poor students earn Cs by refusing to turn in homework. Grades are not the best method for this. Attention to each individual student gives a much clearer picture of where they are with the content. And for those who don't test well, they are not given a false stigma of stupidity.
  2. We want to encourage a strong work ethic. In this approach, every student who puts forth effort has an A, those who don't stay on task get a B, the student who lollygags gets a C, and those who don't show up or turn anything in earn an F. This falls apart if a student is spread too thin or, far more frequently, finds the notion of a mark on a paper little incentive to go too all the effort of staying awake in the desk. History has clearly shown that this system fails to equip genius, pushes kids who need more time to abandon education, and rewards compliance over learning.

Bringing it all together now, the only grading mechanism I know that fits both of these goals is the binary Pass/Fail with the chance to try again and again and again. This is really what we want people to learn. We want them to keep trying until they get it right. Anything less is rather useless in the real world. The fact that semesters and grade levels don't accommodate that is a fault and flaw of the school system.

Third, I wonder if we need to create specific awards that reflect our actual goals. I have sports awards for MVP, Personal Bests, Leadership, Most Improved, and more. With these we can speak directly to a student's specific situation, reward the things we actually care about, and promote the practices we want to encourage.

Sonlight revolutionized home education. Our literature-based approach to learning continues to dominate homeschool curriculum. Why? In part because we focus on learning and not testing, grades, or other arbitrary measurements. Our goal is to instill a love of learning. With that foundation, students will succeed.

If you're looking for a homeschool curriculum that you and your students are guaranteed to love, it's time to discover Sonlight.

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Guardian

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Math: A Reason to Homeschool

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It's 11:13 at night. My bedtime has slumped over in the corner somewhere, too tired to continue begging me to sleep. My cousin and I are working through her math homework. We've just encountered an equation with imaginary numbers.

"Do you remember going over imaginary numbers in class?" I ask.

She shakes her head dubiously. I'm pretty sure she's never even heard of imaginary numbers before now. Calvin and Hobbes had, thankfully, introduced me to them years ago. It's been awhile, but I think I'm up for it.

"What number times itself equals -1?" I ask.

Her blank stare continues.

Five minutes later she's at least giving me a halfhearted nod when I show her the square root of negative one squared. And as we finally head off to bed -- her promising to visit her math teacher so she can explain the math problems that I couldn't figure out as the clock nudged itself toward midnight -- I realize that math is yet another reason to homeschool.

Imaginary-Numbers
Imaginary Numbers

With math, you can teach it the first time.

As homeschoolers, we can camp on or return to a topic as long and often as a student needs. The classroom requires that we waste students' time. Incomprehensible homework is the embodiment of this inefficiency. I have to learn this content anyway so I can teach it to my student. It would have been better to just teach her math from the start.

Plus, I could have purchased a math curriculum that actually solves each problem for me, step by step. Instead, my tax dollars purchased this pathetic textbook that provides zero explanation for the majority of the problems in the chapter. It's maddening.

I've had people ask me how homeschoolers teach advanced subjects like Calculus. Jill has a great response to new homeschoolers who know they don't know everything. But for the incredulous toward home education, let me say this: I have to teach my student many of her math lessons because the teacher failed to do so. I'm not saying her teacher is bad at her job. But whatever the cause -- lack of time, resources, opportunity, skill, or observation -- students all over this great country are required to learn this stuff at home. I think they'd have a higher success rate if you were there to help them.

Enter homeschooling.

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Guardian

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Grades: Measure, Motivate, Monitor?

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Apparently the median grade at Harvard is an A-. For me, this begs the question -- yet again -- why do we have grades? What is their purpose or function?

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Report Card

I see three possibilities off the top:

  1. Grades measure how a student performs
  2. Grades motivate students to work harder
  3. Grades monitor how a teacher is doing

If grades measure a student's performance, I find them detrimental to learning. Students who already know the material do best in these situations, and so those with the highest grade are those who lease need the course. That seems backward. Conversely, those students who have the most to learn are penalized unless they are able to, at the moment of examination, demonstrate a complete grasp of the content. Again, if the purpose of a course is to teach students new skills or knowledge, measuring performance is the wrong way to go about things.

If grades are to be a carrot to lure students onward, I find them deleterious to learning. For those of us who care about grades, we focus on the grade and ignore the opportunities to push ourselves. I played the grade game and won, but to an unknown loss in high school. For those who realize the grade game is stupid and opt-out, there is no other motivation to learn in the system. It is designed to offer a single reward, and if we don't want it, there is no reason to bother. My wife, as well as many of my friends, all experienced this demotivation.

If grades provide a way to monitor teacher performance, they have proven destructive to learning. I've read numerous reports of teachers and school districts cheating on tests to raise scores. The teachers I know are furious and frustrated that they are more and more required to "teach to the test" instead of doing their jobs. That system is broken. It pushes teachers to want to hand out As so everyone thinks their students are doing great. This is, it appears, Harvard.

Better, by far in my observation, to dispense with grades altogether. As homeschoolers, we get to focus on instilling a love of learning, a desire for knowledge, and a passion for getting things right. We don't need to play games or find external motivations or artificial ways to validate the work we do.

So keep up the good work!

Standardized tests can be a great way to find areas of struggle and help you refocus your efforts. Your student may really enjoy positive feedback as you mark work complete. And I think it is a great idea to celebrate accomplishments.

But let's do one better than Harvard and focus on learning and not some skewed grading system.

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Guardian

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How Not to Evaluate Homeschooling

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Update: Since this post was first written in December 2013, I've had an opportunity to reevaluate it. In light of several comments and insights, combined with a rereading of the original article in question, I've come to see that I've made key mistakes in this post. The original article cited, for one, was not a good choice in making my points about how not to evaluate homeschooling. For another, I did not accurately represent the article. This is due, admittedly, to carelessness on my part, not on the part of the original article. For example, the original article really does not contain anything that is overtly critical of home education in general. In closing, I apologize for misconstruing the article mentioned below and for causing confusion among readers of this blog. I'll do my best to avoid such errors in future posts. In addition, for the record neither myself or Sonlight support harmful home education practices, but instead encourage a loving, nurturing learning environment where ideas are openly discussed and children are educated, not indoctrinated. 

Recently I came across an article in The American Prospect titled, "The Homeschool Apostates." It's hardly favorable regarding home education, highlighting examples of individuals who were raised as homeschoolers, but who now are essentially rebelling against the ideals they learned.

The article in question presents extreme examples of homeschooling situations that are hardly normative. In one example offered, the parents are depicted as being highly legalistic, controlling, isolated from others, and inflexible in their approach to education. It's not surprising given such circumstances that the children would ultimately rebel. As the article states, "Their parents wanted them naïve and sheltered."

I'll point out three errors in reasoning that are present in The American Prospect article (there are others, but these three are particularly important). First, examples that are not normative among homeschoolers are set forth as being typical. In other words, although such extreme circumstances and situations do exist, they are not broadly representative examples. In short, it's not helpful to base one's analysis of something, such as home education, on the basis of non-normative examples and circumstances.

Second, to judge the whole of homeschooling on the basis of limited individual examples is not the best approach. The logical fallacy of composition holds that what may be true of the parts is not necessarily true of the whole. In the case of certain criticisms of homeschooling, the whole of home education is being judged on the basis of certain parts--parts that are not normative or typical, but in fact are extreme examples.

Third, logical counterexamples may be used to demonstrate that certain arguments against home education are false. It is certainly the case that not all homeschooling parents are legalistic, abusive, or haphazard in their approach. There are many examples of well-rounded, intelligent parents and homeschooled children (just look at some of Sonlight's scholarship winners, for instance).

Finally, Sonlight seeks to foster learning, not isolation from ideas or the world. We want every child who uses Sonlight to be able to engage and understand ideas and be open to thoughtfully evaluating different viewpoints (even ideas that are directly in opposition to their worldview).

Robert Velarde
Author/Educator/Philosopher

P.S. Since this is my last blog post before Christmas, I thought I'd quote one of my favorite passages in reference to the Incarnation: "The Word [Christ] became flesh and blood, and moved into the neighborhood" (John 1:14, The Message). Merry Christmas!

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Save 50% when you update your Sonlight Instructor's Guide

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Sonlight's per pupil cost drops the more you use one of our programs. Because almost everything in your Core or Multi-Subject Package is reusable, adding an additional student requires a few consumable activity sheets or workbooks and little else. So you can continue to use and reuse the same Core years after you purchase it. Just be sure to get all the consumables you'll need when you first order. We regularly update our homeschool curriculum and may not carry the older items when you're ready to use the program again.

But what if you see an update to a program that will make your life blissfully easier? We want you to be able to update your program for a fraction of the cost. That's why we have an Instructor's Guide Repurchase Discount. If you bought an IG from us years ago (by itself or as part of a package), you can update it to the latest edition for half off. And if next year you want to update again, you'll save 50% once more. And again. And again.

Simply add an IG you already purchased from us to your cart, and we'll give you the discount. It's that easy.

Often with an update, we may switch out previous books with improved titles. To quickly add the new books, pull up the package and click on the Items tab. There you will find a "Show Previously Purchased Items" checkbox. Now you will be able to easily see the items you do not currently own.
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We're here to help you have a successful homeschool experience year after year after year. Sonlight's IG Repurchase Discount is just one of the many ways we can do that for you.

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Gaurdian

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Help Your Children Grapple with the Fact that We're Sinners

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After some heinous atrocity against humanity, those who knew the perpetrator often say something like, "He was such a nice man!" It does not matter if it was violent, sexual, criminal, or dishonest, we seem to expect the "bad guys" to wear black hats and sport tell-tale mustaches. When a teacher, pastor, neighbor, friend, or relative commits a wrong, it clashes with our tendency to put people in the category of either "good" or "bad."

Bad-Guy
Bad Guy

Take the famous example of the guy who raped a girl, had her husband knocked off to try to cover it up, and only owned up to it after he was caught. What's more, king David got to keep his leadership position! Crazy, right? David was a man who wanted to follow God and who did some absolutely terrible things.

I don't know about you, but I'm still a sinner too. I need to ask for forgiveness from my family now and then because I do something I shouldn't. I still commit plenty of "victimless" crimes on a regular basis, like speaking my mind to bad a driver when the roads are icy. I believe my heart is largely in the right place (longing to be transformed by the Holy Spirit), but I'm only clean because of Christ's shed blood. I am a complex person. And while most of my motivations and actions can be broken into categories of right and wrong, you'd be wrong to label me as a purely "good" guy.

Long before series like Game of Thrones swept through popular culture, I had already encountered complex characters. I had already seen how good people can do bad things and bad people can do good things. We see this frequently in the Bible. I also witnessed it again and again in the literature that I experienced through Sonlight. In fact, complex characters is one of the seven things that make Sonlight books All Stars.

Complex characters give us opportunities to help our children grapple with the fact that the world is full of sinners. Some of us are seeking to follow Christ, some are doing our own thing. Sometimes we make good choices, sometimes not. We all need redemption, and it is so cool when we get to let the love and grace of God spill out of our lives into the lives of those around us. And I believe great literature and modeling forgiveness for our children are both great ways to help them separate the action (both good and bad) from the person.

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Guardian

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