The Gift of Play

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It's just another day of school. You know, math, reading, slaying dragons, building forts and climbing trees. Sound like your typical classroom?

Today I want to give us all permission to let loose a little and PLAY. (I thought about titling this post “Why I let my children run around like hooligans and yours can, too.”)

Seriously, one of the great benefits of homeschooling is that we have freedom to set a schedule that helps our children thrive. The great news is that making time for play doesn't keep us from helping our children grow and learn, instead it enhances their ability to do just that.

Not only is it great for our kids emotionally and physically, it turns out that play actually benefits kids intellectually as well. When they are playing, they are learning.

IMG_0646Check out these studies for juicy details like how playing with blocks might help your kid perform better in math one day. And that pretend play? You get to see that come up in vocabulary development years down the road after all the basic reading skills have leveled out. Movement actually helps those little brains make connections that stick.

(It also might help them become stronger leaders. Check out Sarita's post about how Steve Jobs and other well-known leaders spent lots of time creating rather than consuming as children. Inspiring!)

Make play a priority

Rather than seeing play as something we fit in around the really important things, I'm thrilled to make play a priority with our kids.

Play is often talked about as if it were a relief from serious learning. But for children play is serious learning. Play is really the work of childhood. — Fred Rogers

Oh Mr. Rogers, I always knew you were a wise man.

This may seem too simple.  All kids play, right? But I think most kids in our society are starved for play. With all the pressure to make sure kids are academically advanced at an early age and the huge emphasis on test scores, it’s easy to forget about the playground.

This article from The Washington Post is one of many that highlight the danger of children forced to sit at desks all day versus being free to play. The article states that in the U.S., "the average first-grader spends seven hours a day at school, sometimes without any recess, much less one outdoors and unstructured."

What they need to play

So we can agree play is a good thing, but we have to be intentional to make it happen in a society that values a frenetic pace and constantly shuffling young children to organized activities. It’s easy for doubts to creep in when all around us we see busyness=productivity.11110516_10152765079572611_8801279122736825327_o

  • The rare and precious thing kids really need to play is unhurried time. When we give then the gift of time to be children, we are opening a world of wonder to them that is only open so wide as this right now.
  • Fill their minds with good books to give fodder for the imagination.
  • Give them basic raw materials they can use to create. (Tools Not Toys.) Notice I am not saying they need fancy gadgets. Jump ropes, balls, blocks, building toys, and fabric (not to mention my kitchen spatulas and strainers) can all be used in endless ways.  Give a child a cardboard box, a stick, and a scarf. You'd be amazed at what he comes up with!
  • Let them get outside and fill their lungs with fresh air and exercise. Sometimes I have to force my kiddos out the door, but they are almost always smiling more broadly and have a reset in their attitudes 15 minutes in.

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A glorious play buffet: Good books, raw materials, fresh air and lots of time.

What they don't (always) need to play

Kids don’t have to have highly directed play to have a great time. In fact, they benefit from initiating their own ideas.

Okay, I don’t know how to say this without feeling like I might offend the very organized moms out there whom I wish I could be like. But I think there’s a big trend toward planning and preparing children’s play so much that perhaps we over-direct sometimes. While I love it when our fun activities totally tie into a theme, not everything has to be perfectly coordinated to be beneficial and my kids don’t seem to care about that as much as I do.

(I think it is very wise to have boxes of special toddler toys, or fun crafts or activities planned for little ones. This just makes sense. Sensory bins are a blast! But I also had to get to a place where I realized that a very detailed, perfect plan for each day in the way of play was not realistic or always necessary for me.)

A dose of reality from this laid-back mama is that, around here, what happens for playtime is most often a surprise to me until it happens. I am totally okay with that.

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We spend lots of time together, but they thrive on coming up with activities that they initiate. My 4- and 2-year-old conducted a circus while we did math yesterday.  They made a ship out of the couch while we did handwriting, and then they came to join us to draw and scribble respectively on slates and paper.

They marched in a parade and then “climbed mountains” while I started lunch and played "Narnia" while I put the baby down for a nap. “Hurrah for Cair Paravel!” from my 2-year-old (copying his sister) is something I never would have heard in a game I would have planned for him. Their creativity overflows and I love hearing them interact with each other.

I have a lot to figure out about homeschooling as I just begin this journey, but praise God for family and the chances to interact with siblings and share life and stories and time unfettered.

I know my teenagers won't necessarily be able to build a ship on the couch12010708_10153094066432611_1921955996679070706_o during math time. I get that academics need to get done. But I hope they will take time to create for the rest of their lives. It's one of the prime qualities that leaders possess. Give room for play and prepare the way for minds that are ready and hungry to learn.

With homeschooling, we have freedom to shape our days according to our priorities. We have freedom to let our kids be kids and explore the fascinating world we live in.

Let's let them breathe, run, create and laugh, discover who they are and what they can create.  Let's give our children the gift of time to play.
How do you make time for play?

(Read Parts 2 of 5 Gifts You Can Give Your Children or Part 1: The Gift of Your Presence.)

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How and Why to Keep Reading Lists for Your Homeschool

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Reading Lists Can Last a Lifetime

Homeschooled children will eventually grow up and reflect on their school years through the lens of adulthood. What will your children say about their homeschool experience? My two children are now grown adults, but they have warm memories about our years learning together. I recently asked them what they remembered from a dozen years ago. Their answers didn't involve lesson plans, tests, textbooks, or chores. They remembered the time spent reading aloud great books together on the couch.

I am convinced that the greatest advantage of homeschooling is the time spent together. I encourage parents to homeschool through high school, and read quality literature aloud together until children graduate. Reading aloud can create lifelong warmth in your parent-child relationship. This "cozy couch time" is irreplaceable, and creates positive memories of childhood and homeschooling that can last forever. At home, you can substitute meaningful dialog for literary analysis, and develop a deep love of reading.

Reading aloud is a technology-free, relaxed way to learn and enjoy books. Like camping, reading together creates shared experiences that can help with family bonding. But extensive reading is not just for personal enjoyment and academic edification, it can also help you create excellent high school records and increase your child's chances of college admission and scholarships.

Reading Lists: A Key Element in Your Homeschool Portfolio

One of your tasks as a homeschool parent is not only to give your kids a good education, but to demonstrate the breadth and depth of their education to the people who need "proof" of their learning.  Keeping a record of what your students have read will help you to show the quality and variety of literature they've experienced. Compiling your students' reading lists during high school means you will have this to share as part of a college portfolio (along with a transcript, extracurricular activities, writing samples, etc.).

How to Build Your Reading List

A reading list is simply an alphabetical list of book that a high school child has read. The list is simple, title and author only, not a bibliography. The book can be reading for fun, literature reading for school, and historical reading for school. Whether the list is 8 books or 800, the reading list is just for books read during high school years.

A reading list should include books read for school, whether for history or literature class. It should also include books read for fun, such as light books assigned for reading, or twaddle teens choose on their own. You don't have to specify which books were read aloud, and which were read independently. My children's reading lists included simply title and author, because that is all that most colleges expect.

Save receipts from bookstore purchases, and library records, as well as your curriculum book list, to add to your child's list. My prolific readers added books from chess study, economics, history, and Russian authors. I felt guilty that I couldn't keep their reading lists current, but they read so much it was impossible! I alphabetized each reading list, to make sure I didn't include any duplicate titles, and figured enough was enough. Colleges don't need to know about every single book that a geeky, bookish kid has read.

While it may be normal for a public school student to read 5-10 books per year, some homeschoolers read too many to count. Once you get past 30-50 books on your child's yearly list, stop worrying about it. You have demonstrated that your child is a prolific reader, well-read across the curriculum.

Course Descriptions

You can include books from your reading list in your child's course descriptions, demonstrating the quality of your homeschool. Normally a course description includes what the class covered, the text used, and a demonstration of how you graded it. If 1/3 of the total grade is based on reading, then your list of books in the course description will clearly demonstrate the amount of work involved. When you use a literature-based curriculum (I used Sonlight), then it makes sense to divide their extensive book list into subjects. Some books can be reserved for the history course description, and some for the English course description, but include all of them on the book list.

My course descriptions can look intimidating to people outside my family, because they include the fun books my kids wanted to read independently. My kids read so many books simply for fun. When they read a library book or received a book for their birthday, I included it in the course description for the class that covered the topic. When my son read the books, "Rich Dad Poor Dad" and "Biblical Economics in Comics" we added them to his self-directed Economics course description.

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Your child's reading list may help you create the best descriptive titles for your high school classes. Look over the books for clues that will help you with course titles. Do you have a smattering of different genre and a variety of writing assignments? You may want to name your English class, "Literature and Composition." Is your child's reading list heavily focused on American authors? You may want to name your English class, "American Literature and Composition."

While I didn't use a specific "American Literature" curriculum, my children read literature by American authors extensively one year. I noticed we had combined the poetry of Walt Whitman, Robert Service, and Langston Hughes with the novels of Mark Twain, Jack London, and Nathaniel Hawthorne. Confident that we had covered many major works, I named the class, "American Literature and Composition" on the homeschool transcript.

Scholarships

Colleges want applicants who are well educated, and demonstrate wide-ranging experiences through literature. They want children who can read challenging literature from a College Bound Reading List. But colleges also want unique individuals with their own personal preferences and a passion for their own interests. As you include reading for fun in your child's course descriptions, you are making your child's homeschool records unique.

Each of my children received full-tuition scholarships to their first choice university. One college representative said, "Your transcripts and records were the best organized and documented I have seen." This didn't happen because my children were the best organized, or because I forced them to read excessive amounts of literature beyond the curriculum requirements. It happened because I took their normal, natural homeschool experiences, and translated their delight directed learning into words and numbers colleges understand: transcripts, course descriptions, and reading lists.

Life-Long Benefits

Reading strengthens relationships, shapes personalities, develops critical thinking, and builds connections between ideas. It builds character as children identify with heroes, and helps them learn from the mistakes of others as they live vicariously through the characters. It provides broad exposure to cultures and ideas, allowing children to dig deeply into subjects from the safety of home with the guidance of their parents.

All these benefits are much more secure than any derived from the world wide web, with the dark side of humanity just one click away. And since reading is analog, not digital, it promotes a normal attention span, without the quickly moving change of focus offered by all forms of digital media. The slower pace of reading promotes reflection and increases imagination. Reading aloud can turn an otherwise boring or ordinary homeschool experience into fond memories cherished for a lifetime.

All these benefits pale in comparison to the benefit near and dear to my heart. My children love reading, even now as adults. They laugh and comment about books we read together a decade ago. They are thankful we homeschooled and remember the bond we developed during read aloud time, not the struggles or stress. All that remains are the life-long benefits of homeschooling. I'm so thankful for our reading time together through my entire homeschool career.

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GIVEAWAY TIME!! Today, one reader will win a copy of Lee's new devotional book Finding the Faith to Homeschool High School. This weekly devotional covers the challenges parents face while homeschooling high school and can support and encourage you along the way. Tell us in the comments why you think homeschooling for high school might be worth it, or what your biggest challenge is. I'll pick one winner from the blog and Facebook comments to win a copy of Lee's book! ~Laura

Lee-Binz-proPhotoLee Binz, The HomeScholar is a dynamic homeschool speaker and author of several books such as Setting the Records Straight: How to Craft Homeschool Transcripts and Course Descriptions for College Admission and Scholarships. Lee’s mission is to encourage and equip parents to homeschool through high school. For a daily dose of high school help, check out the Freebies tab at www.TheHomeScholar.com, including her free mini-course, "How to Avoid the 5 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make Homeschooling High School."

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Where do the world's needs intersect with your skills and passion?

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Twenty-five years ago, it all came together. I learned about a serious need in the world. I saw that I had the skills to help meet that need. And, I noticed God building a passion in me about all of this.

And so we started Sonlight.

As we now look to the start of Sonlight's 26th year, I'm reminded of an exciting question. I don't know where I first heard it, but it seems to be a popular notion now:

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Where do your skills, your passion, and a significant need intersect?

You may have more than one answer to this, but one critical answer for you is ... your family! You are passionate about your children in a way that no one else but your spouse is. You have the skills to take care of them and educate them. And they have a deep, true need for you.

If you wonder whether you're passionate about your children, just think of what you willingly and lovingly go through for them. Or what you'd do if someone was trying to hurt them. I have no doubt – the passion is there.

If you wonder whether you have the skills to love and raise them, can I point out that you're already doing that? You have helped them learn to walk, to talk, and to interact with other people. And, Sonlight helps you gain the skills to homeschool. (If you need more help, just call!) You will undoubtedly continue to grow in all the skills of homemaking and child-rearing year after year.

And there's no question that your children have an enormous need for you. You are irreplaceable in their lives. No one else can play the role in their lives that you can. So much of a person's lot in life is influenced by their parents' love and care for them.

So it makes sense that a priority in your life is to love, guide and educate your children. It makes sense that this takes up an enormous chunk of your time and energy.

Another priority is naturally going to be your spouse. You are your spouse's partner in life. We need to be faithful to that huge responsibility and gift.

You may have other areas where skills, passion and need intersect. But if you need a reminder that what you're doing day-in and day-out is important, remember this. Some people search their whole lives for something meaningful to do in the world. You're already doing something huge.

So wherever God leads you now and in the future, thank you for serving those he's put closest to you. Keep up the good work! Parenting and homeschooling are huge, wonderful and worthy callings indeed.

Blessings,
Sarita

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New Payment Plan Options January 4

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I am pleased to announce that a week from today -- January 4, 2016 -- you will have more opportunities to take advantage of Sonlight's fee-free payment plans. What's new?

  1. Year-round 3-, 6-, or 9-month options
    Spend $799 (or get a Full-Grade Package) and you get your choice of payment plans any time of the year.
  2. 40% down + three payments of 20%
    When your order ships, you invest just 40% (less than half) of your package price. In the following months, you pay the rest in 20% increments.
  3. $399 options April - June
    Right after the new catalog comes out, take advantage of a plan even on smaller orders.

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Why the change?

We want to make it possible for you to take advantage of these fantastic payment plans no matter when you were ready to order. Offering plans for orders of $799 lets us serve you when you would most benefit from spreading your investment over a longer period of time. It also allows you to invest in the curriculum you need instead of tying the benefit to a predefined package on our end. Click here to learn more about Sonlight's payment plans.

We appreciate the flexibility and freedom homeschooling gives us. At Sonlight, we want to make it even easier for you to homeschool in a way that matches your family's needs. Expanding our payment plan opportunities year-round is just one of the ways we seek to do that for you. Whenever you're ready start homeschooling this year, we're here to help you.

Want to start exploring your options now? Learn more about Sonlight's homeschool curriculum.

 ~Luke Holzmann
Filmmaker, Writer, Pseudo-Dad

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Give Them Godly Heroes

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Amy Carmichael folded her chubby three-year-old hands and pleaded with God for blue eyes. When she woke the next morning and checked the mirror to find them still brown, she ran to her mother in distress to ask why God hadn’t answered her prayer. Her mother taught her that sometimes God says yes and sometimes He says no, but it seemed God had given her brown eyes for a reason.

Years later as Amy served as a missionary in India, she discovered the horrible practices forced upon young girls in the Hindu temples. She began a quest to rescue young girls dedicated for temple service, but the practices were so hidden from public view that she needed to put on a sari, stain her skin and enter the temple as an Indian. Blue eyes would have been an easy giveaway! It was as she went about this mission to help rescue girls out of physical and spiritual danger that she was so powerfully reminded that God works everything for His purposes, even brown eyes.

Though I’ve only met her though stories, Amy Carmichael is one of a host of faithful witnesses who spurs me on in the mission to live a life of love and faithfulness. My parents introduced me to this godly hero when I was eight. They could have told me a thousand times that what God gives us, He uses for His glory (and they did), but her story burns in my mind to this day.

My encouragement today to you is simply this: Give your children godly heroes.

One of the most effective ways we can do this is to read missionary biographies to our children.

I don’t want to give you a spoiler for a book in a Sonlight History / Bible / Literature package, but you and your children can discover inspiring real life characters in missionary biographies like those of Hudson Taylor and Gladys Aylward. You can see the power of prayer in the life of George Muller and see sacrifice personified in Adoniram Judson.

 

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We want to fill our children with inspiration and let them stand in awe at the great work God has done.

Introducing our children to people of character and faithfulness throughout history helps them learn lessons in how to boldly follow a vision, how to suffer well, and how to give rather than to get. They can see the beauty of a life poured out for others.

They will see how God uses ordinary people to do extraordinary things.

And they will remember these stories as they encounter their own difficulties and temptations that they might also stand strong for Jesus whatever the cost.

 
Not only are you filling your children with inspiration, you are helping them rally a team of encouragers from throughout the ages that will inspire them to run the race “Hebrews 12:1-2 style,” laying aside every weight with eyes fixed on Jesus.

 
If you’re afraid these saintly tales might bore your children, have no fear. These stories draw your children into the adventure. They also show the humanity of these heroes in colorful ways. (I think of Amy Carmichael's childhood escapades, such as hiding a frozen mouse in her pocket, only to have the hidden rodent revive in the middle of dinner to the terror of the household, or later, her harrowing moments of being sought for arrest as a missionary for her work in human rights.)

I love that Sonlight schedules missionary biographies like these into weekly reading assignments so that you don’t have to put “find quality missionary biographies” on your to-do list, but can simply do your assigned reading and know you are giving your children a treasure.

(Of course, if you and your children are passionate about these stories, you’ll likely all be on the lookout for many more books like these beyond those assigned, so get ready to hunt anyway!)

The world will offer your children cartoon characters and Disney princesses, caped crusaders, and sports stars—and I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with your kids enjoying those—but before you stands a chance to give them a gift that lasts a  lifetime. Give them the gift of godly heroes.
I’ll leave you with this letter we received from Jill O, a missionary for 30 years to Japan. She’s homeschooled with Sonlight for 22 years and wrote to tell about her experience. In case you think these stories are just for your children’s benefit, here’s a piece of what she has to say:

“One unexpected benefit I have personally grown to appreciate about Sonlight is that the books you chose have greatly helped me to develop and maintain an attitude of perseverance and gratefulness while facing my own trials and heartaches here in a foreign land!

The understanding that this rich heritage that we share as Christians was purchased at such high price, has become deeply etched on my heart as I have read aloud the stories of the pioneers of the Oregon Trail, of David Livingstone in Africa, of Corrie Ten Boom during WW2, or of Brother Andrew as 'God’s Smuggler.'

Considering these individuals and groups who endured and overcame such hardships, and others who actually laid down their very lives in the process of fighting for their nation or for their Christian beliefs, has put my own life into a more realistic perspective—made my struggles seem more surmountable.

These heroes of the Faith have helped me to keep my own faith strong as we, too, have faced trials, loneliness, and losses of our own.  These stories have helped me to know that we, by God’s grace, can finish strong! So, thank you, Sonlight friends, for choosing books that have continued to inspire and strengthen us, and that have helped to create and reinforce strong moral and godly values for our children.”

What are your favorite inspiring biographies and why?

Enjoying the adventure,
Laura Lee

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You Can Give Your Kids What They Really Want

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If you watch a Christmas movie this month, you'll probably see a variation of the same theme. Somewhere near the end, the main character will have a heartwarming revelation that the Christmas season – and life – are about relationships.

There's a reason it's cliché: Life really is about relationships. It all stems from our relationship with the Lord through Christ. When we receive the unconditional love of God through Christ, we are then able to truly love other people. We give the love we have freely received.

Jesus commands us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. Our neighbor, of course, includes all those around us (and around the world), as well as our closest "neighbors" – our family. And love, of course, is about relationship.

Kids understand this. When we asked Sonlight parents last year to ask their children why they like being homeschooled, the most common response wasn't that they like sleeping in or doing schoolwork in their PJs. It was some variation on "I get to spend the day with Mom."

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I'd like to encourage you today that homeschooling is all about relationships. That as much as kids need a great academic education (and Sonlight is here to help you do that, no doubt), even more than that, kids need love and relationship with their parents.

As one mom puts it so well: "Your Children Want YOU!"

Even if you're not a perfect teacher (gasp!), or those Christmas crafts don't get finished, kids really just want a relationship with you. They don't need you to be perfect; they don't need a perfectly clean house; and they don't need to get everything on their Christmas list. They love you and just want to spend time with you! Even if they're older and wouldn't openly admit those things, they probably still ache for relationship.

When I was homeschooling, I figured out early on that I couldn't be all things to my children. But I could be present for them. And as Laura Lee so eloquently states, your presence is what kids will remember from homeschooling anyway.

So in the midst of your Christmas season this year, remember that your kids don't need a perfect mom (or dad). They need you.

You can do this. You can be there for your kids, apologize when you mess up, cheer them on when they try, and comfort them when they're sad. Homeschooling just gives you more time, more opportunities to do all of that.

I pray daily for our homeschool parents like you. May God bless you in this high and worthy calling!

Blessings,
Sarita

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Yes, Homeschooling Was Worth It: Stories From Moms

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When you think of what you're grateful for this year, I trust that having the freedom to homeschool makes the list. I know it can be hard when you're in the trenches of day-to-day parenting and teaching. But know that most veteran homeschool moms look back at their time of teaching their children at home with deep gratitude. I know I do.

To encourage you with some long-term perspective, I have a gift for you. We collected stories from moms about why homeschooling their kids has been worth it – worth all the hard work, worth the sacrifices and worth the huge time commitment.

That collection is called: It Was Worth It: Real Stories to Inspire Your Homeschool Journey. It's an e-book that includes honest, fresh, encouraging stories from homeschoolers such as Sarah Mae, Ann Voskamp, Crystal Paine and several more.

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The whole thing came about after a conversation I had with some friends who had also finished their homeschool journeys. We were talking and laughing about how hard it was at times to teach our children. (Like all those days I practically had to sit on Justin to get him to focus on his math!) Then my friend Jill and I broke out at the same time with an emphatic "But it was worth it!"

And it was indeed.

So, we set out to collect people's stories to encourage you during your homeschool journey. To give you just a taste, here's a short excerpt of my chapter, "How Homeschooling Freed My Children to Be Themselves":

In fact, I wouldn't trade my time at home with any of my kids. I firmly believe that homeschooling kept both Luke and Justin from being labeled. I fear Luke would have gotten the message in school that he was unintelligent. In reality, he just had an eye-tracking disorder that it took us far too long to figure out. The mechanics of reading were painstakingly difficult for him. But as I taught him at home, we were able to progress in reading at his own tortoise pace while we raced ahead in our other subjects. I simply read his Science and History out loud to him, and let him dictate his writing assignments to me. In school, his difficulty with reading would have put him behind in all subjects.

Instead, Luke knew reading was hard, but he never once thought he was unintelligent. By the time he started public high school, he had figured out how to work around his difficulties. He graduated valedictorian and went on to pursue a meaningful career in media and film.

I also think that homeschooling protected my youngest son, Justin, from being labeled. ... (Read the rest in the e-book.)

I trust that God will honor your hard work. The time and love you are investing in your children now will bear fruit for years to come. I pray that when your kids are grown, you too will have an inspiring story of why it was all worth it.

God bless you in this great and worthy task of raising and educating children!

Sarita

P.S. As Thanksgiving approaches, I am also incredibly thankful for you! I am so thankful for you and your noble commitment to raise and teach the next generation. Thank you for being part of the Sonlight homeschooling community!

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