Homeschooling Multiple Kids? You Need to Know This One Truth

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Homeschooling Multiple Kids? You Need to Know This One Truth

Are you homeschooling multiple kids? Have you ever opened your book to start reading only to realize you're missing at least one of them? This is my life everyday. Without fail, I’ll look up from the second page of the Read-Aloud to notice one child has run off to let the dog outside or grab a cup of water.

Admittedly for a long time this drove me crazy. To be completely honest, sometimes it still does.

Similar Experiences But Different Outcomes

If you have a similar issue, I want you to try a small experiment that helped me realize perhaps one of the most important lessons about homeschooling multiple kids.

Think of a recent family activity. It could be a Read-Aloud, a movie, or even a family vacation. Ask each child separately about the event: what they remember, what they liked, and what they disliked.

For instance, we recently took a beach trip. Both of my older kids spent a ton of time with their dad, collecting shells. They both had a chart of shell names which Dad helped them use to identify the shells in their buckets.

Once home, one child could recall the names of almost all of the shells. The other, who was much more interested in building sand structures and using the shells for castle decorations, was able to recall the names of only two.

Even though they were theoretically having the same experience—shelling with dad on the beach—their impressions were different. They retained different information and remembered different details.

Each Child's Unique Learning Journey

The same thing happens when you homeschool. If a topic sparks a child’s interest, he or she may be more taken with that subject than another child. So many things aside from sheer love of learning can also cause this effect. Sleep, exercise, diet, and social life all affect a child's unique experience on any given day.

This is a huge revelation! Even when given the same information under the exact same circumstances, our kids may hear, interpret, or process information differently. Our kids' learning experiences are going to be different. This is true even if we fight to make sure everyone is there and everyone is paying attention every single time we start to read.

Individualized Education

So, what can we do with this truth? We can learn to let go of trying to make sure all of our children have an identical education.

It’s not possible.

It’s not necessary.

It may even lessen one of the great benefits of homeschooling—being able to learn something new from each other.

If you always wait for everyone to be ready, healthy, and engaged every single time you start to read or go over new material, you will make little progress. You will also likely be frustrated and worry for your sanity. Let it go!

Although it was the hardest thing for me to accept when I first started homeschooling, not all of your children are going to learn the same thing everyday. In fact, that’s not a realistic expectation regardless of how you school or the ages of your children. All kids are different, and on different days they are all going to have different experiences.

No matter how hard you try, no one student’s schooling will be exactly like another. No student’s education is the same. And that is a good thing.

Sonlight works especially well for multiple children that are 1-3 years apart. Go to SmoothCourse to explore your options.

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When Homeschooling Is Hard: Two Bible Verses to Anchor Your Heart

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In our many years of homeschooling, there have been some days that were downright dreamy. I don’t know what a perfect school day looks like for you, but for me it’s simultaneously productive and relaxed. And some days homeschooling is hard. So hard. And sometimes the difficulty lasts longer than a day.

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8 Ways I Re-evaluate My Homeschool in the New Year

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I love Christmas, but I think I love the New Year just about as much. There’s something exciting about a fresh start that makes my heart happy, especially in homeschooling. Thankfully, the winter break usually gives me a bit of perspective. I spend the break thinking over what’s working, what’s not working, and what we need to emphasize in the final semester of the year. The past few years, I’ve developed a pretty good system for how to re-evaluate my homeschool in the new year.

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Use This Powerful Key to Create a Restful Homeschool Atmosphere

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Creating a Restful Homeschool Environment

The moment you step into a spa, something changes. You relax your shoulders and breathe deeply, drinking in your surroundings. Enveloped by a calming aroma, cozy lighting, and soft music, you exhale slowly, admiring the clean, clutter-free atmosphere around you. Yes, spas are restful because you’re temporarily released from your responsibilities—but they’re also restful in large part due to thoughtfully created environments of rest. Would we go to

  • a spa to relax,
  • a library to study,
  • a coffee shop to write, or
  • into nature to unwind

if these places were cluttered, dirty, loud, or filled with tension?

Environment matters. And in our homeschools, atmosphere matters, too.

I’ll preface this by saying I’m not perfect. I don’t have a seven-step plan to achieve platinum status in housekeeping ; I’m not the de-cluttering guru of joy-sparking fame. I leave my bed unmade—and cereal bowls on the counter—more often than I’d like to admit. See, the truth is, this doesn’t come naturally to me. But tidiness doesn’t spontaneously occur for anyone; even expert-level homemakers and organizers.  Being tidy doesn’t just happen. Being tidy involves work. But I work at it—and continue working at it—because I know aesthetics make a big difference. I can

  • focus for longer periods of time,
  • think more clearly, and
  • maintain a patient attitude more easily

in a pleasant environment, than I can in a cluttered one.

And I definitely feel less stressed in a clean space. Compared to adults, most kids are even more distractible—so imagine the impact a disorderly environment has on children.

This one key to a restful homeschool environment is removing clutter.

Overwhelming Visual Environments Can Disrupt Learning

A 2014 study published in Psychological Science revealed kids were “more distracted by the visual environment, spent more time off task, and demonstrated smaller learning gains when the [classroom] walls were highly decorated than when the decorations were removed.”

If you haven’t been inside a traditional school classroom in the last several years, you might be shocked at the current trend to paper the walls with discordant decor of every remotely-educational variety. It’s become an entire money-making industry. (When I toured a small Christian school before making the decision to homeschool, even the ceilings were decorated. I could hardly catch my breath.)

Teachers I’ve chatted with admit Pinterest-obsession has taken over preparation, with many instructors trying to outdo each other with increasingly-gaudy classrooms. Pyschological Science refers to much of this decor as “displays that are not relevant to ongoing instruction.”And as the study and many others like it concluded, these visually-overwhelming displays actually disrupt children’s education.

Cluttered Home Environments Can Disrupt Learning

Most homeschoolers have not recreated the classroom look. Even those who do find educational posters useful do not generally hang them up en masse as seen in the classroom. We haven’t papered the walls with hall passes and behavioral charts. We don’t have rows of primary-colored cubbies or dozens of lined-up clipboards, and we haven’t placed laminated instructions next to every object.

  • But are we reading, squished up next to a laundry basket on the couch?
  • Are we working on neat and precise handwriting with our notebooks pushed up against dirty dishes on a tabletop that’s anything but neat?

Have we replaced the visual environment of school with the cluttered environment of home?

A Restful Homeschool Environment is a Few Habits Away

I’m not writing this to say I’ve arrived; I haven’t. I’m writing this to remind us all that the dozens of tiny things we do throughout the day matter.  I’m writing this to remind myself of the sacred responsibility we have as mothers to cultivate a nurturing atmosphere for our children. As we see the clutter creeping, we can

  • stop to put away the previous school subjects,
  • sweep the three-hole punch confetti into the garbage can,
  • walk through the house to collect abandoned drinking glasses, and
  • load waiting dishes into the dishwasher.

We can also take a few moments to

Messes Don’t Have to be Our Identify as Homeschool Moms

In the short-run, it’s much easier not to do all that, isn’t it?  But I’ve noticed when I skip these menial tasks—when I allow our environment to decay around us—our mood tends to correspondingly deteriorate. Our tempers flare, our fuses run sort. Peaceful atmosphere does not cure human nature, but a chaotic atmosphere doesn’t help it, either. It’s a shorter path to patience in a peaceful space than through the maze of a sprawling, discordant mess.

I live in the real world, and I know you do, too. A certain level of mess is inevitable when you live, work, eat, school, and sleep in the same space. But contrary to popular memes, chaos doesn’t mean we love our kids more. And messes don’t have to be our identity has homeschool moms.

For years, my mom homeschooled three kids through brutal northern winters while my dad worked second shift. She had her hands full. Everyone would have understood if our house reflected the intensity of the season, yet it rarely did. I’m not the clone of my mother by any means, but she taught us to be content and take care of what we had. A clean house doesn’t mean striving and keeping up with the Jones, just as an unkempt home does not mean holier hearts.

If you crave aesthetic beauty, don’t be ashamed. God created orderliness and beauty. If you are overwhelmed with clutter, and don’t know where to start, don’t be ashamed. God will walk with you step by step as you reclaim the physical space around you.

We Can Model the Balance Between Work and Rest

Let’s move toward balance, shall we? Let’s not advocate tidiness at the expense of family relationships, but let’s not slide down the scale toward chaos at the detriment of our families, either. We can practice habits and routines—life skills!—while at the same time speaking life to our children. Pausing for ten minutes to put away the laundry on the couch before we sit down to read aloud will

  • model a good example for our children of balancing chores and rest,
  • allow an opportunity to practice self-discipline,
  • emphasize good habits and routine, and
  • create an even more restful environment for us to share with our children.

Homeschooling with Sonlight is an orderly, yet restful, education. As we diligently work toward our goals, our homes, too, can reflect that same spirit of orderly rest.

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Fast and Easy Extension Ideas for The Boxcar Children

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Fast and Easy Extension Ideas for The Boxcar Children

The Boxcar Children has always been a family favorite. We’re glad Sonlight includes this simple, heartwarming adventure in its Kindergarten program (also in History / Bible / Literature A).

Expensive, complicated projects that require a lot of prep work or cost a lot of money are hard for me. So I’ve composed a list of fast, easy, fun, yet fairly inexpensive activities to do after each chapter of the book. Some take a little bit of preparation, so read through before beginning.

We like to read the chapter in the evening, and then do the extension activity the next day. But of course you can schedule them any way you'd like and pick and choose which ones to complete.

TIP: Many families enjoy audio books, but I would skip the audio version of The Boxcar Children. The free versions are usually of an older edition of the book, which contains sensitive issues removed from the later edition used by Sonlight.

Chapter 1. The Four Hungry Children

  • Visit a grocery store or bakery. Compare various types of bread and discuss the nutritional value of various bakery items.
  • Try a few different types of bread. Compare flavors and styles. Rate each to see which your family prefers.

Chapter 2. Night is Turned into Day

  • Visit a water fountain.
  • Take a moonlit walk.
  • Show your children street signs and how to follow the signs home.
  • Create a different place to sleep, like the haystack in the story. Try a tent or sleeping outdoors. My girls liked making a blanket pile inside and covering it with sheets to hide under.

Chapter 3. A New Home in the Woods

Although you probably don't have any empty boxcars laying around, you can still have fun by pretending.

  • Get a large box to serve as a boxcar and a few toys to represent the children.
  • If you have a lot of LEGO bricks, you can build a boxcar out of them. If older siblings are around, they might enjoying adding fine details to make it more realistic. Add mini-figures for each child.
  • Drive past a train station. Point out different train cars (you don’t have to know them all). Some basic car types are flatcars, tank cars, livestock cars, engines, cabooses, and the boxcar.
  • Visit a train museum, or take a train tour or ride, if available.

Chapter 4. Henry Has Two Surprises

  • Discuss animal safety, (never touching a dog while eating, not distracting a service dog, dog allergies, etc). Visit a kennel or pound to see dog types. 
  • Add a toy dog to your boxcar.
  • Go blueberry picking. If that won’t work, get berries from a farmer’s market or store. 
  • Make blueberries and cream. Enjoy with fresh bread, hard cheese, and milk.
  • Explore pine trees. Compare fresh and dry needles. 
  • Use paper strips or LEGO blocks to make a bed in your boxcar.

Chapter 5. The Explorers Find Treasure

  • Taking a trip to a dump didn’t seem very safe for my girls, so we took a trip to a second-hand thrift store instead. We found two household items that would liven up our home. And each girl chose one inexpensive item (like Benny did with his pink cup) and one book.
  • Add dishes to your boxcar. A toy tea set, or paper dishes work well.
  • Allow your children to help wash dishes after a meal. Even if they aren’t perfectly washed, it’s a good life skill to practice.

Chapter 6. A Queer Noise in the Night

  • Henry needed to work to earn money, but we decided to work to help others. I asked each of my girls to come up with one way we can help a neighbor. One girl suggested we help an elderly neighbor unload groceries (she was just returning from the store) and the other suggested we make the same neighbor cookies. We did both.
  • The cookies were an extension already, so we sat down and enjoyed freshly baked cookies and milk, just like Benny.
  • For a different snack later, we had bread, butter, and jerky.  After our meal, we practiced cleaning up.
  • Lacing cards and activities can be used to pretend to hem tablecloths, like Violet did.
  • Making brooms from sticks isn’t something I’m skilled at, but we do have one for sweeping our yard and cleaning outside. We practiced sweeping—both outside and inside—along with mopping, vacuuming, and squeegeeing.
  • Henry helped the doctor wash his car. Your children can try helping an adult wash a car. Or if you’re like me, and that seems like more work than you want (or the weather isn’t cooperating), you can drive through a car wash.
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Intro to the World: Cultures | History / Bible / Literature A

Chapter 7. A Big Meal from Little Onions

  • Practice gardening, weeding, or thinning vegetables. If you have no garden, perhaps a neighbor would allow you to help in exchange for a few vegetables to make soup with.
  • Gardening isn’t really my thing, so we went to a farmer’s market and I had my girls look choose some vegetables. We brought them home and washed them. 
  • Make vegetable soup. You can use your favorite recipe, or use the basic recipe in the book with your own modifications for flavor. We don’t like onions or turnips, so we made lentil and vegetable soup. If you aren’t interested in making homemade soup, a can or two of vegetable soup, along with a few vegetables to chop up and add in, are more than sufficient. You can make your soup on the stove, or over a grill or fire. We served ours with thickly sliced French bread, popped in the oven until crisp and crusty.
  • Organize a garage (or other area in need of some attention) like Henry did.

Chapter 8. A Swimming Pool at Last

  • Most people don’t have a convenient brook to transform into a pool. But we were still able to have fun by pulling out a kiddie pool and letting the girls splash around. In colder weather, a bathtub will suffice.
  • Try washing a light item of clothing, like a sock, by hand with your children and then hanging it to dry.
  • The boxcar children made a meal of eggs scrambled in butter, with bread and milk. You might enjoy this. For a bit of extra fun, check your area to see if any hens lay different colored eggs. We had a neighbor who sold eggs from a rainbow chicken.

Chapter 9. Fun in the Cherry Orchard

  • If you can, try cherry picking. It’s a fun activity with a treat you can take home.
  • Eat cherries. You can try different varieties or have cherries with cream or ice cream.
  • Mrs. Moore and Mary served cherry dumplings. Make your own cherry dumplings or buy dumplings. My girls weren’t as fond of cherries as I had predicted, so we had apple dumplings instead.

Chapter 10. Henry and the Free-For-All

  • Have a race day with your own family or invite friends or neighbors to participate. For fun races, this is a good place to start.
  • Make a book like Benny’s. If your child’s isn’t reading yet, make a book with their name and few words that would be important them and let them draw pictures. If they are reading and writing, they can make their own book, or you can write words for them to copy. A stapler and a few pieces of paper are all you need.
  • Eat baked potatoes (made either in a fire or in an oven) with toppings of your choice. The boxcar children blackened theirs in fire, then added butter and salt and served with milk.

The Doctor Takes a Hand

  • Make a toy bear. You can use a stocking or a kit, depending on the level of crafting you want to attempt. I took the easy way out and purchased each girl a stuffed bear from the dollar store. Have your child name the bear.
  • Trim your child’s hair if it’s time.
  • Talk about scissors safety: things they should and shouldn’t cut, not running with scissors, not throwing them, etc.
  • Violet gets very sick in this chapter, and they need to get an adult to help. This is a good time to discuss what to do if someone is hurt, sick, or abused. You can talk about ways they can help someone feel better (getting a cold compress for them, playing quietly, etc.), and how to call 911 in an emergency (and only an emergency). Practice the steps to unlocking and dialing a phone and using the emergency button.

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  • The Boxcar Children meet their grandfather and get to know him. This would be a good time for your child to interview a grandparent, asking for stories about their childhood and things they learned growing up. For a fun memory, you can record this conversation as a keepsake. If you don’t have grandparents available, interview another adult such as an aunt, uncle, family friend, or neighbor. 

A New Home for the Boxcar

  • The boxcar children found personalized bedrooms waiting for them. Your children can make pictures designing their own rooms for themselves or the boxcar children.
  • Go shopping together and purchase something small to decorate their rooms.

After the Story

The Boxcar Children Movie stays close to the story line and is fun to watch. It’s sweet and safe for most young children. The Boxcar Children has many, many sequels. The first 19 are by the original author, and more than 100 other books have been added after that.

Try HBL A (or any other program) for three weeks. Download a sample of any Sonlight Instructor's Guide for free. Click here to get one for any level, preschool through twelfth grade.

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Keeping Track of Your Homeschool

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There's a lot to keep track of as a homeschool parent! Your state, district, or umbrella school may require documentation. Even if it doesn't, you have your own day-to-day record keeping. You need to know what to do next and keep tabs on your own progress. When you multiply that record keeping for each child, keeping track of your homeschool can be a chore! Fortunately, when you homeschool with Sonlight, keeping track of your homeschool is easier thanks to the handy Instructor's Guide (IG). The IG lays everything out for you!

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4 Ways to Combine Homeschooling and Housekeeping to Get More Done

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It’s tricky to find a healthy balance between homeschooling and housekeeping. Consequently, it’s not uncommon for a family to favor one at the expense of the other. There will inevitably be times when not a single chapter of any book gets read and no math equations get solved, but your home gets organized from top to bottom. Or maybe your home will look like a tornado blew through, but your kids are mastering their math lessons, you're getting your scheduled science activities done,  and you're ahead with your Read-Alouds.

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