When I choose homeschool curriculum, I’m not only thinking of my child. I’m also thinking about myself.
Sonlight is my education, too.
And that's why I make sure that my curriculum choice will be enriching for both of us. While there are countless reasons I choose Sonlight for the benefit of my child, here are a three ways Sonlight benefits me as a person and as a mom.
1. Sonlight Keeps Me in the Word of God
Some days, I roll out of bed and am immediately on the job. My family’s basic needs can keep me from my personal devotions. I’m grateful that Sonlight incorporates a strong and consistent Bible curriculum because I need it as much as my children do.
As I read Scripture aloud to my children (or they read to me), I am fed spiritually. I take our reading to heart and prayerfully look for God’s character, will, and ways. The conversations that flow out of our Bible reading and memory work sharpen my faith and encourage me.
2. Sonlight Enriches My Own Education
I joke with my children that homeschooling benefits me just as much as it does them: “I want you to have a good enough experience so that someday, you’ll homeschool your children and get an education!” I say that because I am educated by Sonlight Curriculum every day.
Although I had an excellent private and public school education, I have learned more about history, science, literature, grammar, spelling, and mathematics as a homeschool mom than I ever learned in grammar school or high school. Since using Sonlight, I have become more well-rounded and knowledgeable. I’ve grown in my understanding of and love of God, people, science, and history.
3. Sonlight Enhances My Motherhood
Through the Read-Alouds, I have learned how to be a better mother. First, the sheer act of sitting down with my children and reading to them has been deeply transformative. It has taught me the value of giving children goodness, truth, and beauty. It has taught me about child development, the dignity of humanity, and the power of story.
Secondly, the Read-Alouds themselves instruct and inspire me to be a better woman. I have met many literary role models and stored up precious insights from Sonlight read-alouds. Here are nine of my favorites.
In Grandma’s Attic(HBL A): This book inspires me to pay attention to the details in my life and to keep a good sense of humor so that I may have something special to give my grandchildren some day.
The Year of Miss Agnes(HBL B): Oh, to know how to touch the hearts of children and inspire them to learn! Miss Agnes teaches me the way.
Understood Betsy (HBL B): There are themes in this book that touch on the very fabric of a mother’s heart. I learned so much about what it takes to nurture a child from this book.
The Penderwicks (HBL C): The delightful children in this book inspire me to encourage my own children in their unique interests, as well as to promote their friendships with one another and their sense of family responsibility toward one another.
Adoniram Judson (HBL D): Adoniram’s wife, Ann, supports her husband as he obeys God. Her devotion to the Lord in the face of suffering is deeply touching and beckons me to a life of sacrificial love.
Caddie Woodlawn(HBL E): Another book with golden insights about what it means to nurture children.
Roll of Thunder, Hear My Cry(HBL E): Mama is strong, courageous, and loving. She leads, teaches, and transforms her community. My heart grew simply from spending time with Cassie’s amazing Mama.
Little Britches (HBL E): Even though the theme of this book is the relationship between Little Britches and his father, I couldn’t keep my eyes off of his mother. She is supportive, hard-working, and she teaches me a great deal about loving a man and raising a son.
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Sadly, there is one aspect of homeschooling often overlooked by parents—spiritual self-care. We are overachievers when it comes to making and checking off homeschool planning checklists:
Math program? ✔Check
Spelling curriculum? ✔Check
36-Week Instructor's Guide? ✔Check
Field trip list? ✔Check
More art projects than can be fit into the year? ✔Check
But taking care of yourself as a parent is just as vital as taking care of your children's lesson plans! Taking care of your spiritual needs by focusing on God throughout your day will replenish your soul like no other self-care activity can!
Waking up a few minutes before your children or spending a bit of time in the Word at night can help to refresh your soul and renew your energy. Those are great! But if you seem to be going nonstop all day long, here are seven low-key ways to sneak in extra time with God while still going about your day-to-day homeschool routine.
1. Listen to the Bible on Audio
Play your favorite audio Bible out loud while you clean or over headphones while the baby naps. There are many free sites that will read the Bible for you as well as others that provide dramatic representations. By hearing the Word, you allow yourself a chance to stop thinking about all the problems of the day and instead focus on the One for whom all problems are solvable.
2. Play a Bible Movie
It’s okay if you don’t have time to watch the whole movie. Catching just 10-15 minutes of the life of Jesus or Paul via video can encourage your soul and re-center you. Play a movie as background noise in whatever room you are working. It can provide a little lift of spiritual self-care.
3. Listen to Bible Studies on Audio
There is a great assortment of Christian podcasts to keep you on track spiritually. Choose from sermons, Bible studies, or discussions about Christian topics. Listening to other adults talk about God and the Bible is mentally stimulating and can deepen your understanding of the Bible. I have found that audio Bible studies fill part of my need for adult interaction while simultaneously providing spiritual self-care.
3. Watch or Listen to Bible Programming for Kids
Bible adventures such as Keys for Kids, Adventures in Odyssey, or What’s in the Bible with Buck Denver are probably favorites for your kids. You, too, can listen in and learn along. Or you can spend that time focusing on your own Bible study while the kids are occupied.
4. Stick with a Daily Family Prayer Time
In a daily family prayer time, you teach your children to pray while reviving your own soul. Choose a time when there are fewer distractions. Prayers before meals and at bedtime are often shorter by necessity. But having a mid-afternoon prayer or after-dinner prayer allows more time for you to connect with God. You can allow the children to go play after a while if you’d rather linger in prayer alone.
5. Choose a Prayer Activity
Choose one activity per day—such as doing the dishes or vacuuming—when you make an effort to pray and think about God. I like to thank God for my blessings one by one while folding laundry. I've trained myself to mentally connect laundry with prayers of gratitude. So while I'm getting household work done, I'm also tending to my spiritual needs.
6. Listen to Classical Bible Music
Slow, lovely Bible music can make a good background for studying and quiet play. I love to play our Sing the Word CDs or old-fashioned hymns to lift my mood and place a focus on God in our homeschool. We do other types of classical music at other times, but I do try to set aside a couple of times a week for hymns playing in the background because I like the way they make me feel.
7. Listen to Upbeat, Inspiring Bible Songs
Put on fun Christian music while cleaning and sing together with your children! Listen to fun songs while driving along in the car, while doing exercise, or scrubbing the bathroom. Music makes a great antidepressant. And even if the songs are for kids, the Gospel truths in the lyrics can sometimes strike you in a fresh way be just the encouragement you need!
“You can do it all!” That’s the mantra we hear from all directions. It’s intended as an expression of encouragement, but it's not true. We can’t do it all.
There are only so many hours in a day, and we all have limits to our physical and mental capacity. As homeschooling parents, it’s all too common to take on the task of educating our kids without adjusting the rest of our responsibilities accordingly. When paid employment, volunteer work, ongoing medical appointments, or other outside commitments are also part of the picture, burnout is likely.
If we try to do it all, we’re guaranteed to fail. We’ll either do all the things poorly, or some things will be totally neglected. Either way, we’ll be discouraged and stressed out.
When we’re confident that homeschooling is the right choice for our family and that we’re the adult primarily responsible for teaching, it’s essential that we delegate some tasks to other people.
Delegating Around the Home
Household tasks are often the easiest ones to hand off to someone else. I think kids are the best workers to give those jobs to.
But mostly I believe that those who eat, bathe, and wear clothes need to learn how to cook, clean, and do laundry. It's fair!
That being said, spouses, hired help, and other services can also help to lighten our load.
Assign meal prep, deep cleaning, and/or laundry tasks to your kids—at least occasionally if not regularly.
Ask your spouse which of your household responsibilities they could consistently help with or take over completely. Then let them do it in their own way.
Use a store’s shopping service to save time walking the aisles yourself.
Hire a housekeeper to come as frequently as your budget allows.
Pay for a meal delivery service to cut back on shopping time and eliminate the need to plan menus.
With the time we save by not being in charge of those jobs, we can grade math, give a spelling test, or curl up on the couch to read a great Read-Aloud to our kids.
Delegating School Work
Even if the responsibility of homeschooling falls primarily on
our shoulders, we don’t have to do every single part of it ourselves. Sometimes
the best option is to let someone else handle academics while we take care of
other things.
Hire a tutor to help a kid who’s struggling with a particular subject.
See if your spouse is willing to help with whichever subject is causing you the most stress or that they’re naturally better at.
Have siblings give each other spelling tests and help grade math assignments.
Enroll kids in a homeschool co-op or have them take a class or two at the local school
While a portion of homeschooling is handled by someone else, we can knock out some of the tasks on our family’s to do list or relax for a while. Self-care and hobbies are a valid use of any time you gain by delegation!
Be Realistic
We can certainly educate our kids and manage our homes at the same time, but it’s crucial that we know our own limits. Sometimes we’ll have to lower our standards in one area of life in order to succeed in another area. Other times we’ll have to drop something completely. Often, however, we’ll discover that sharing the workload allows everything to be accomplished in a satisfactory way. We simply need to have realistic expectations, then act, and delegate, accordingly.
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STEAM is all the rage in education circles, and it’s easy to see why. Making science, technology, engineering, art, and mathematics (STEAM) meaningful opens doors to a deeper understanding of key topics and even career options that might otherwise fly under the radar for students from all walks of life. Like classrooms all over the nation, homeschools are now exploring robotics, digging in to coding languages, and learning problem-solving skills by planning long-range building projects.
Making connections between literature and STEAM topics is easier than you think. It requires no special skill on behalf of the teaching parent (promise!) and no additional curriculum resources.The bulk of what you need is at your disposal the minute you open your Sonlight box!
Most of the Work Has Already Been Done!
Have you taken a deep dive into your Sonlight Instructor’s Guide? You already have a STEAM guide at your fingertips! There, mingled in with notes on vocabulary, plot points, and historical context, are science rabbit trails waiting to happen.
Sonlight has done the bulk of the hard work for you in illuminating animals that may be unfamiliar, pointing out new technology for the time, mentioning innovators, and more. Utilizing those notes and simply highlighting them as you read and discuss with your children is the simplest, most streamlined way to begin integrating those hard sciences and creative problem solving skills into your homeschool.
Personalizing Your STEAM Rabbit Trails
If you want more out of your homeschool’s STEAM focus, it’s easy to turn anySonlight Read-Aloud into a treasure trove. You can create your own unit study of sorts by simply pulling a notebook alongside as you read and jotting points as you go. Mark your sheet with the acronym, and note topics to explore more deeply later.
Don’t believe it’s this easy? Consider this quick list from the unlikely STEAM candidate The Land I Lost, the story of a boy growing up in Vietnam in the mid 1960s, included in Sonlight’s HBL F:
S (science): The first story discusses the selective breeding of water buffalo in the search for an animal with the perfect blend of temperament and power.
T (technology): In the story, “What Can You Do With a Monkey,” we see all the ways the villagers employ monkeys to do tasks for which we now use machines.
E (engineering): In the introduction, the author discusses the village’s bamboo huts and their coconut leaf roofs, as well as “monkey bridges.”
A (arts): The village works to solve the problem of “Mr. Short” with the creation of a homemade decoy.
M (mathematics): The author’s family uses a trained otter to fish for them, increasing their productivity.
…and that’s just a quick list of options from a book set six decades ago in a rural, agrarian society!
Finding STEAM in Any Book
Once you have an idea you’d like to follow up on, enlist your kids to help you explore that rabbit trail! Library books, internet resources, and hands-on projects will all reinforce your learning and put skin on those STEAM connections.
A few years ago I found a homeschool planning method that has completely changed my life! I switched from weekly homeschool planning to planning for the entire year, and I will tell you...I will never go back!
"[My children] have grown to love memorizing Bible verses. Sonlight is great for our kids because they love listening to stories. They have tons of questions as we read, and their learning experience is never-ending as long as they are awake. Thank the Lord for Sonlight!"
Helena T. of Malaysia
Sonlight curriculum encourages students of all ages to store goodness, truth, and beauty in their hearts and minds. In every level, students memorize Scripture. As the students progress, they memorize poetry, songs, and great speeches. These treasures will shape your child’s character and world view; they’ll be a comfort and help throughout life’s ups and downs.
Every day, have your child repeat the segment aloud 3 – 5 times.
Say it once at every meal.
Say it once in every room of your house.
Say it standing, sitting, and lying on the floor.
Say it to 3 different toys.
Share it with 3 relatives via phone or video call.
2. Use Hand-motions for Memory Work
Adding a body element helps young children retain the pattern of the words. With your child, develop motions to accompany the memory work.
Learn ASL for the key words in the memory passage.
Record yourselves doing the motions so that you can watch it together.
Teach the motions to other people.
3. Post Memory Work in Strategic Places Around the House
Encourage your child to read and review memory work when they’re simply going about life by referring to small notes posted about the house. This is a great life-skill to develop!
Bathroom mirrors
On a wall by the toilet
On the wall by the shoe rack
In the car
At the table
In a ziplock bag tied to the dog’s leash to review while walking!
4. Create Puzzles and Games to Review Memory Work
Introduce new memory work by asking your child to create a puzzle or game containing that segment. This will help to establish the piece in her mind. Doing the puzzle and playing the game will help to review it over time.
Scramble the words or phrases on cards, wooden craft sticks, etc. Then put them in order.
Write the portion on a white board and erase one word at a time as you repeat the passage.
Create a simple board game on which each step contains a portion from the memory work with a word missing. The player must fill in the word in order to progress.
Create a trivia Q&A game in which the players are quizzed about the order of words, the key ideas, the imagery, etc.
5. Create a Memory Work Binder or Book
When your child graduates from high school, wouldn’t it be cool to hand him a book full of the Scriptures, poems, songs, and speeches that he has memorized over the years? This would be a source of review for a lifetime of pleasure and enrichment! In a way, it would be like your child’s personal Timeline book. As you work on this together throughout the year, your child will learn and review the memory work as well.
"When my three-and-a-half year old asked to learn to read, I panicked. I had no idea where to start. I talked to one of Sonlight's Advisors, and she got us all set with Kindergarten Language Arts. The Instructor's Guide is so helpful, and I now feel confident about teaching my daughter."
—Jordan B. of Mound, MN
When asked which subject new homeschoolers are most anxious about teaching their children, reading usually tops the list. Most other academic subjects require a child to read, making it feel essential to teach this skill early. When children reach plateaus in their learning, parents may panic, wondering what they are doing wrong or how they can help speed up the process. But teaching reading early doesn’t mean you will have better readers.
1. Reading is a Developmental Process
Parents often compare their children to other young children. They see other children reading and are quick to assume that a child who isn’t reading at the same age has a problem.
But reading is a process created by brain connections not intelligence. Not all children make the same brain connections in the same time or in the same manner. Some children devote a lot of brain power to learning how to read very young and do well.
Other children devote that same brain power to skills they find more important, such as learning to climb, kick, sing, or do math. When their brain is ready to focus on reading, they will make the necessary brain connections.
2. Developmental Processes Can't be Rushed
Reading is a series of developmental skills, not one large skill. It's a lot like walking. A child doesn’t just start walking. There are many milestones before that child ever takes the first step:
A child builds the muscles in the back and neck to hold up their head.
They learn to balance their upper bodies by sitting up.
They use their legs and arms to scoot or crawl.
They begin trying to stand.
Once standing, they learn to balance themselves to be able to take a step or two
Parents can help children build those muscles, but they can’t rush the developmental processes that need to take place in the brain for each step. Some children learn how to walk early and others later. But after children have been walking for a year or two, the exact age begins to matter less and less.
Reading is another developmental process including many increments. Trying to rush reading doesn’t make your child read better, any more than trying to make your child walk sooner helps them be a better athlete.
3. Early Reading Instruction May Backfire
Often an attempt to teach reading early backfires, convincing your child that reading is too hard. Wait for your child to be ready for the next stage before pushing on. The less rewarding and enjoyable that reading seems, the less they will want to read.
A variety of studies show students who begin school (and consequently reading) before they are ready have higher levels of dyslexia, speech impediments, low self-esteem, higher anxiety, less motivation to succeed, and higher levels of frustration with or dislike of certain school subjects.
Wait and watch for your child to show developmental signs of readiness before beginning reading instruction. Some signs of being ready to read include:
pretends to read and write
shows a desire to learn how to read (like the child pictured at the top of this post!)
loves listening to and looking at books
demonstrates print awareness (recognizes that letters represent sounds)
These signs are not a guarantee that a child is ready. Some children love books from birth and enjoy being read to, but aren’t ready to read for years to come.
4. Younger Isn’t Necessarily Better
Despite public schools pushing preschool reading skills, teaching a child to read at that age isn’t endorsed by most child development experts and researchers.
Some children do teach themselves young. You’ll find there are children who read everything and seem to do very well with little instruction. But, if your child isn’t one of those, don’t worry. Your child is normal, too!
The best football players aren’t the ones who hold a football in the delivery room or throw a ball before age one. The best athletes are the ones who practice the hardest and have a natural ability even if they never hold a football until age ten. Here's another example: My husband is a musician who composes, writes, and performs his own music. He didn’t learn how to play his first instrument until he was 18. He didn’t learn his second until 22, or his third until 23. By standards in the music community, he should not be able to play well enough to be a professional musician. Yet, he does play professionally!
It’s hard to watch neighbors bragging about how early their children are learning certain skills in preschool, but by fifth grade, you’ll see that those early reading abilities are no longer important. No one will care anymore whether your child learned to read at 4 or 10. No college application will ever disqualify your child for learning to read later.
Once your child learns to read, no one will care when they learn to read. Only that they can. And that they do.
5. Intelligence is Not Linked to the Age a Child Learns to Read
The age at which a child learns to read does not indicate their intelligence level. Many gifted and advanced children don’t learn until first or second grade, some even later.
Schools are evaluated by reading test scores of their students. Having younger children do well looks good for them when standardized testing scores are tabulated. But the truth is children will learn to read when their brains are ready. Some read very early and others very late.
6. Eye Development Is Crucial
Children develop their distance vision before their close-up vision, so allow your young child to play in wide open spaces as much as possible. Park play equipment, nature exploration, beach-combing, outdoor sports, and backyard shenanigans are all useful in developing a good reader. Eyes mature around age eight.
As their eyes develop, teaching reading becomes easier and easier. Some children will still struggle beyond age eight. Playing outdoors is even more important for these children so they have opportunities to exercise their distance vision.
7. Children Who Learn to Read Later Do Just as Well as Everyone Else
There’s actually no proven benefit to teaching your child to read early. There is research that supports surrounding them with books and reading to them often, but none that supports actually teaching them to read young.
Dr. Sebastian Suggate, a researcher in childhood education in New Zealand, conducted multiple studies into the benefits of teaching children to read young (age 5) or late (age 7). His research shows that around age 10.89, there is no discernible difference between the two groups. The group that learned to read early showed no advantages for having done so.
Children who start school when they are ready tend to show more motivation, improved grades, better leadership skills, and a greater interest in school subjects. Overall, research shows there are benefits to teaching reading later rather than earlier.
If your child is impatiently waiting to start reading and seems to do well, by all means, start. But, if your child is balking at reading lessons and frustrated by the process, it is likely a sign their brain is just not quite ready yet.
Starting early isn’t a prerequisite for excelling:
Take Rocky Marciano, the famous boxer who started boxing at 20.
Or consider Julia Child, a famous French chef who didn’t know French cooking until she was 30.
And, most inspiring of all, think of Grandma Moses, the painter who took up her paintbrush at 78.
If your child isn’t reading by 5 or 6, all is not lost. They’re just beginning their life-long journey of reading a touch later because they’ve been so busy focusing on building other skills first.
Talk to an Advisor who can help you decipher if your child is ready for reading instruction (or remediation) and what program fits best. It's free!